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• Hi Everybody, I hope I’m not over the line here but I would like to ask for help for a worthy cause. posted (2 years, 8 months) ago
  I was diagnosed with MS a year-and-a-half ago and I know first-hand the devastation this disease ca…

• Is something wrong with the help.com site? posted (2 years, 8 months) ago
  No new comments in like 12 hours and two comments I posted this morning aren’t displayed. T…

• How do I leave suggestions to the help.com developers? posted (2 years, 9 months) ago
  I think some navi options like “next post” and “next subscribed post” woul…

• How can we stop the oil leaking into the gulf? posted (2 years, 11 months) ago
  I don’t know if this will make it in front of anyone in a position to do anything about it b…

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• (1 vote) hi everyone.
  

  From the way you describe things, it sounds like he really loves you but is somehow insecure in his role as your husband. My best suggestion is for you to communicate as clearly as possible to him, both how deeply you love and respect him (respect is key for a man), as well as how his behavior is hurting you and your marriage. From your post, you seem quite articulate so you might consider writing him a letter or enclosing your thoughts in a card along with a gift or keepsake that will remind him of the things you are saying to him. Let him know that like everyone, you are not perfect and because of that, you may not always live up to his expectations, but that you will always love, always respect, always rely on and always fight for you marriage. Ask him to please have as much faith in you as you have in him and to realize that we are always in a state of becoming who we will be. Tell him he needs not fear when you spread your wings, simply admire their beauty and trust that you will always return to the safety of your nest when the sun goes down.
  
  - written 2 years, 9 months ago – voted for by Kalen

• (1 vote) Okay I know you are all going to say don’t do it but I am gonna do it anyway so screw it.
  

  Can you say burqa?
  
  - written 2 years, 9 months ago – voted for by Tom Rowly

• (1 vote) Maybe this will brighten up your day… I love all of you, I just want to say that.
  

  It helps to be an eternal optimist and a hopeless romantic :)
  
  - written 2 years, 11 months ago – voted for by ~AGAPE~

• (1 vote) Socially awkward.
  

  Not being confident socially can be a terrible handicap that can have a profound effect on one’s self esteem. I was painfully shy growing up and I owe the confidence I now have to the decision to consciously overcome my fears. I took speech and stage classes in college and involved myself in activities that would force me out of my shell. It was awkward at first but I learned that I really enjoyed the person I became when speaking in public. Just be yourself and don’t judge yourself too harshly. I’m sure that you have a lot to offer. It helps to realize that you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by putting yourself out there. Also, a great organization for people who want to develop social skills is Toastmasters.
  
  - written 2 years, 11 months ago – voted for by Kalen

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• Hi Everybody, I hope I’m not over the line here but I would like to ask for help for a worthy cause.
  

  [quote srnityblu]My sister’s friends mom was diagnosed with MS when we were just starting highschool. Her mom deteriated very quickly and it has always been somethin that is on my mind and causes me concern and worry.
  
  I took a look at your site, and maybe we can perhaps collaborate together for a mutual benefit? I would love to donate to your cause, and maybe becoming an affiliate partner or something to that effect may benefit us both?
  
  Liked your site by the way!
  
  I admire your efforts and you as a person who is God’s gift to this world![/quote]
  
  Anyone living in the northern US or Canada can tell you that there are few who don’t know someone whose been touched by this disease. My wife’s grandmother suffered from it for years and my neighbors mother recently passed away after also dealing with it many years. One of my best friends’ wife was also recently diagnosed. The link I shared is just my personal page on the MS Society’s MS Bike tour page. They have these bike rallies all around the country and have raised more money than any other single fundraising effort. I don’t know what opportunities there may be to collaborate but if there’s something I can do for you, I’m happy to help.
  
  BTW, I really liked your blog. God bless…
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

• Word Association Part Three.
  

  lindsay lohan
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

• I am a christian who recentley came very close to death and experienced NOTHING….I am seriously questioning my faith and thoughts.
  

  [quote Lorne]…you present to me that Chrisitians stand against the wolf so that it may not eat me… What a crock of sh*t, otherwise we’d have no more wolves, because their are an awful lot more Christians out there than wolves.[/quote]
  
  Sadly as has been seen, some of the wolves are christians. ;)
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

• I am a christian who recentley came very close to death and experienced NOTHING….I am seriously questioning my faith and thoughts.
  

  [quote Lorne]…merely singling out Joe’s comment that Christianity flourishes in Afghanistan. It clearly does not.
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  You are kind of taking me out of context there. You are correct that Christianity does not flourish in Afghanistan. There are however christians there (State Department estimates may be as high as 8000) but they must keep a very low profile. It is actually against the law to be christian and those who convert can lose their jobs, property, be stripped of basic rights and forced into lives of extreme poverty and persecution. However there is an underground christian church there, much as there has been in other countries that are intolerant of christianity, and much as there was in early years of the church in the roman empire.
  
  The fact is that until recently, there have been many instances of christian communities thriving and being tolerated in predominantly muslim countries. Unfortunately, part of the rhetoric of many extremist muslim imams is that the war in Iraq as well as western support for Israel is the next incarnation of The Crusades and this among other things has soured the attitude of many muslims both towards the west and towards christianity, and lead to both ethnic cleansing and migration of christian communities away from these areas.
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

• I am a christian who recentley came very close to death and experienced NOTHING….I am seriously questioning my faith and thoughts.
  

  [quote Lorne]I think the point you are missing is that Christian communities in the present day do occur everywhere due to the mass crusades and relentless conversion of so called ‘heathens’ when ‘Westerners’, which were responsible for exploring and trying to dominate the world in the past, brought Christianity so violently to the rest of the world.[/quote]
  
  If I am correct in my history, there hasn’t been a crusade in like 800 years. Statistically speaking, most people who become christians hear God’s word from people of their own ethnic background in their own communities.
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

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