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Anyway, it’s not something I’m going to argue about. I’m not immoral or indecent, and neither is he.

But in two weeks, I will let you know how it goes. :)

Hi there! I appreciate the advice, but I find this bit kind of offensive:

“The fact that he wants sole exclusivity in a relationship is just a decent honourable moral. If he makes accusations such as “I saw you looking at so and so” if you are - why be with him, if you aren’t you need to figure out if he is worth the effort and that all depends on what you want from the relationship. He is old enough to want it to lead to marriage, you are young enough to just want fun.”

1) I want my relationships in the next few years to possible lead to marriage.
2) I want to marry (not legally, but in a commitment ceremony) at least one person but maybe two. Obviously they would all know about this. Ideally we would all live together and love each other.

I would consider myself lucky to find that kind of love once, let alone twice! But I could love, deeply and truly, more than one person at one time, and in fact I’m happier with more than one person in a serious way.

Thanks, Ozy. You always give the best advice. :)

I heard from someone else in the cast (whom I thought he was into) that he has a thing for another girl, so I’m not sure if that’s a good sign? She was vague, so for all I know it could be me. He didn’t mention having a thing for anyone while we were out.

So… I don’t know. :-D

But more importantly, he’s always been a serial monogamist. It’s unclear why - if it’s jealousy, wanting a deep relationship, hating cheaters, just natural relationship orientation, etc. If it’s about depth and love, that’s not a problem. If it’s about jealousy or something… then I don’t think we could be together even if everything else was great.

[quote Crumpet♡Strumpet][quote RaspberryUnicorn42]That’s the thing about theatre people - we flirt. All the time, most of us. It’s a way of building camaraderie. So yeah, I flirt, and he flirts back, and lots of touching, and teasing, and playful arguments. But that may mean not much.

Blergh. :-D I had a good time tonight. Is it okay for me to ask him out again for next week? Should I hold off?[/quote]

No ask him out, I never understood all that wait 3 days then call, or whatever. If you both had a good time, ask him out! I bet he’ll appreciate that you took the initiative.[/quote]

Haha! Fair enough. It was five hours, *after* we had rehearsal together.

[quote Kitty]I think you’re really the only one who can make that judment call. None of us know him or saw him with you so we can’t possibly guess what he might be thinking. Maybe try asking some of your friends who might have seen you two together? They may have a clearer sight on the situation. I’m sorry I can’t think of a better word than ’sight’.[/quote]

Ooh - I know what to do… :) I’ll ask a trusted castmate who is married and is playing his wife in the show (so she obviously doesn’t want to date him).

[quote griffin195]i liked reading your rant/story
but don’t know it’s been so long since i went on a date
at 195 ys old can’t find a man that’s not , i don’t know
i seem to be a Loser magnant[/quote]

Wait… you’re 195? ;)

That’s the thing about theatre people - we flirt. All the time, most of us. It’s a way of building camaraderie. So yeah, I flirt, and he flirts back, and lots of touching, and teasing, and playful arguments. But that may mean not much.

Blergh. :-D I had a good time tonight. Is it okay for me to ask him out again for next week? Should I hold off?

Spa!!! I would prefer a spa because 1) I’d burn and get bug bites camping and 2) massages and stuff make me feel like a new person for a whole week!

I’d say if he’s stressed in his head, mostly - camping.
If he’s stressed in his body (tension that makes mental stress worse) - spa.

Get him a gift card to GameStop (lots of games) or Steam (online games like Portal).

Try getting him a card that says, “Happy ?? Birthday, Joe!” (whatever his name is). It’s maybe a fun way to poke fun at his age. :)

If a guy doesn’t touch me in the first ~half hour of a date, I assume he isn’t into me - and I’m usually right! So if you go out, touch her.

Yes! The friend zone is bad! But you can be friends and not be in the friend zone. Physical contact is key. This article isn’t amazing, but it has some good ideas: http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-fli…

I think just this: breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Deep, from your belly (put your hand on your belly and the other on your chest - make the one on your belly move and keep the chest one still). Like a baby. Just calm, in out, slowly. Don’t lock yourself up! That way lies depression!

[quote Crumpet♡Strumpet]If its easier you could always just treat it as a friendship and take the leap after the show, unless something happens before of course. But its pretty hard to do that when you like someone![/quote]

This is true. I’m going to ask him if he wants to hang out again sometime next week or something.

[quote Anonymous]Maybe he feels the same way but doesn’t make a move because of the same reasons you haven’t either. What would be worse? Things going badly and awkward for a short time or passing up a possibly great relationship because neither of you try. You can wait and see what happens but you don’t want to look back in life and always wounder what could have been.[/quote]

Well, the show comes first. I’ve put my soul into the character, and awkwardness would be awful!

I actually really like that one at 38 seconds. That sounds right to me. Perhaps you’re looking for a laugh that’s a bit less pleasant? But that’s close.

But higher pitched. It has that sharp-as-a-blade-ness.

Or perhaps more like this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KqD5DZ… (at 38 seconds.)

Maybe the first laugh here? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KqDYlr…

Yes, go to a salon! They may have to chop it off into some cute short style - bleach is BAD for hair!