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Hi :)
How are you?

I am sending my Christmas greetings already, just incase I don’t see you here before the big day, I am sure I will but I would rather be safe than sorry!
So….

Hope you have a Fabtastic Christmas and new year!!!

Emily
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I’m a grown man, Wretch, and 46 years old. I’m a big boy. I have a wife and kids. My oldest is 23. And after living with nine ambient Vampires within me for the last 25 years there is not too much that really scares me about being a multiple anymore.

Anyways, I have my wife and kids, and a few understanding friends. So I’m OK.
Thanks for your concern.

Hey there! How are you doing? Hope your doing well.I just wanted to say im here for you.I’ll help you the best i can just give me a shout.xoxo

Hi my friend!How are you doing?? Well not much is going on here.I’v stop cutting (FOR GOOD)Im likeing it no more cutting in sted im doing alot of art work i love art.I wish the best for you and i just want you to know (im here for my friend)Im praying for you.Hope we talk soon.xo

Hi there.I hope you are doing well.Give me a shout.xo

The idea you have for REAL WHIP CREAM on the SIN CAKE should make it even MORE sinfully delicious! Never tried the fudge recipe on the marshmallow jar. I think my mom may have made it at Christmas time when she was alive. Thanks! Let me know how you like it!

thanx!! life is okay but she still get on my nerves a lot!! and me and my boyfriend are just fine!!!! thanx for checkin up on me!!

Hi my friend.How have you been doing? Good i hope.I havent been on help much but i still pray for you and all my friends here.Hope we talk soon.

thanx!! ill do that!! hugs from me too!

its not that he trust her more then me… it is how she drastically changes everything to fit the way she wants it!!

Hey my friend.I hope every thing is going good.I just wanted to let you know im here.So if you need anything or just want to talk im here.xoxo

Hey friend i read your shout i hope everything works out.I will pray for you my friend. Just take it one day at a time.xo

i am just learning to navigate on the computer, so if i seemed to ignore your shout of a week or so ago, it was because of this and not me ignoring you!
to address your question of “why not get[ my] degree…it’s not so simple…and i may eventually.

thank you for your help! =) Im not “hopping” mad as much lol. Have a wonderful blessed week

Ih my friend how are you doing? Hows your weekend? Well i have to leve soon but i just wanted to say hi :)
-Wisdom xo

Hi friend how are you? Im doing ok today its nice out.I like summer get to hang out with friends.I also like talking walks just to get out of the house.Have you been writing? I have im still about a 4 but ill get there.Hope you are doing well hope we talk soon.

-Wisdom

Hi Wretch Im doing ok today.Im sorry someone hurt your feelings.I dont know if id trust them but they cud want to help i dont really know.I was writing the other night i can look back and say this is who i was this is who i am now.It helps to know that im getting better by looking at that.I knida got into it with someone on a post i didnt think what they said was very nice.And i think they called me something that was not nice.I was so upset i was shaking so i did some art work insed of what i would have dun.I pray for you and all my friends here.Hopeing everyone has a good day.Well ill let you go now hope we talk soon.

Hey Wretch! It is always good to hear from you.You have a lot going on stay strong and keep going.I do like to write out how im feeling helps me feel better.Im working on things too.With not sleeping much i can write out what im thinking.Thank you for helping me with my post as you can tell ive got somethings going on but who dusnt? I think today im about a 4 just trying to keep going.I hope things will get better im alittle sick of the nights i cant sleep im also getting over cutting myself i did that for 7 years.But im doning ok with it at times its still hard but im working on it.We both just need to keep going there will be better days.Take care.

Thank Wrench, you have a great attitude too:)

Hey how are you doing? I had a really bad night last night im going to try to get some sleep.I hope your doing good hope we talk soon.

-Crista.

Goodnight hope we talk soon.xo

Hey i think you will be a 10 soon just keep working on getting better :)I think im about a 5 right now.xo

my sister told me to pick a number between 1 and 10 with 1 being the worst and 10 being the best and then figure out what i can do to move up a number… it is a way to focus on what is working and try to repeat it… a way to focus on the positive… :) i keep saying i am a 4, but maybe i am becoming a 5.

so when something works i try to think about how i can do it again. like takinga walk works for me.

also - when i do not interact well with someone, i do not say they are bad or i am bad… i say we just did not interact well and i try to think about what i did when we did interact well and try to do it again :)

it is good to work on getting better… i need to focus on that too. 1 number at a time ;)

its 9:30 here im doing good im working on getting better.Im glad we can talk for a bit.

Cool im on ur friend list! well im just talking 2 a old friend and how are you? xo

Thank you for the friendship. I pray for you constantly and for the lost love of every woman. Hang tuff! It will show it’s true face.

Hey hope ur doind good friend.

I liked that…glad someone else says dumb stuff like me..lol..

Told my brother the other day, “hey, I’m a dummy but at least I know it!” Wretch, none of us have all the answers. This life is so difficult, you have to learn to laugh about it, or it will eat you alive…Bottomline, everything that we think, in our minds, that is awful, actually, is no big deal. The most serious situation that you can think of, that REALLY upsets you, if you take a step back, it ain’t no big deal.

Anyway, enough of that stuff…

Enjoy your evening and thanks for being my friend…

My friend, relax…don’t be so hard on yourself. We are human. And that only requires your patience for yourself, if that makes sense. Bottomline, don’t take yourself so serious. Learn to laugh at yourself. After all, I’m the king of the dummies, so I’ve learned thru hard knocks to kinda stand back and say, you’re pretty amusing DUMMY!!! Lol..

Anyway, have a great day my friend…don’t take any wooden nickels…

ty fro your advice, i will pray for you, ty kindly…sweet_heart792002

i wish i could help you more but you sound like you are in a bit of a crazy situation. and i probably lack the experience to help you overcome the problem totally.
anyway good luck with everything

here you go this is why i was sad..but not anymore!i used to want to die for the following reasons: no girlfriend, no job, no money, doing nothing with my life exept take drugs watch telly and play computer games.
this is because i expected so much more of myself i know i can do better and i used to just cry alone in my room at night wishing for death to hurry up. i was looking for jobs with high mortality rates like fishing off the coast of scotland but even they wouldnt take me.
eventually i got a factory job through a work agency and that helped to take my mind of wanting to die, but only while i was at work, as soon as i got back id just think `what shall i do now?` and that would normally be a big weed bong.
so i just sat around gettin high drink a few beers watch some telly then the worst bit was goin to sleep(depending on which and how much drugs i had taken) id normally be awake for hours if i hadnt been drinking just thinking about my life and how crap it is and what could i do about it.
this carried on for about a year(not that i wanted to die and take lots of drugs for just one year!i wanted to die a long time since i was about 11 i suppose.and i been taking all sorts of drugs since 15)
but 3 things that stopped me from suicide were :*religion instilled into me from an early age(although i never have fully agreed with it)*the pain it would cause my family*i wanted to die doing something useful like saving a life or trying to put out a massive inferno.
but then a about a month ago i watched some of a program on t.v BBC2 called THE TRAP:WHAT HAPPENED TO OUR FREEDOM?
i cant remember much of it as i was off my head at the time.but something like-the way society works now is that everyone is out for themselves no matter how much you rip someone else off, they say this was when margaret thatcher was prime minister im not old enough to know, but at the same time there was a big rise in diagnosis of depression and some studies were taken that showed that most people have the same anxieties about life.as a result of yourself wanting.
then i watched a movie about an hour later called AMELIE its about a lonely girl who resolves to make everyone around her happy, even if just for a moment in the hope that it will inspire them to do something nice for someone else. theres a few moments in the movie where i actually cried during the movie and this has never happened to me since i was a kid watchin some movie about a dog!
i couldnt stop thinking about it and decided that i should try my best to help people in anyway or bring a smile to their face. ive made up a few joke adverts to post up around town and have put crazy ads in my local paper stuff like “WANTED HUMAN CHESS PIECES! FOR MY GIANT CHESS BOARD!” just stupid stuff like that(it makes me laugh at least).
anyway the next day after watching that movie i heard on the radio an old killers song `All these things that i have done` and just so many of the lyrics stood out to me and just solidified my new outlook on life.
i dont need lots of money.
i dont long for a girlfriend, i can wait.
i dont need all the drugs to fill my time(i still get high everyday but only one bong a day(still working on that))
i dont need the praise and respect of my peers to feel that what im doing is right.
i dont feel like dying.

i writ that a while ago (is writ a word? it doesnt look right) dont answer that

yeah, that works. i know all about being placed in a “jungle” and doing what it takes to survive.

No, yes & totally. of course i identify because ive been there too and often visit the land of sadness. welcome to life. watch out for the pink flamingos on the lawn. sometimes you have to metaphorically pull out the lawn chair and have a martini.

i hear you! you and i we have a similar circumstance and our circumstances dont define who we are! i would put some quote here about circumstances but i cant find any right now.

Wretch from what I am understanding from your shouts, you seem to be applying all your life on this one relationship.
Each situation is different.
It is good to learn from our experiences but you cant not assume that this guy was the same type of guy you had in the past much less his girlfriend.
You were talking to him very meanly & I am sorry but I had to take up for him on that.

Thank you for your shout.Youve really helped me out and i just want to let you know whats going on.I still pray and hope you & everyone here is well.Im trying really hard to work on me and get things takein care of i hope im doing a good job.I get tiyerd alot i have Bipolar Disorder & ADHD i cant get my mind to turn off.But im trying every day to get better.I wish you the bets and i will pray for the man you love too i hope your doing good and things are working out.I wish you the best.xo.

How are you? I hope things are going better in your world. :)

Hi Hope Your Doing Good.

:)

I hope ur doing good to day!!

I stopped writeing out my hit list when I relised that I would spend all day writing and then drop dead. Would you have a hit list…..needed some sleep.

Please take care of yourself. Good luck with your relationship. I have to take a break from this site for awhile.

Hi! How are you doing? I hadn’t talked with you for a few days. Just checking in I guess. I hope you are well.

I take your point but broken brains aren’t capable of intellectually working out certain problems. It’s like a computer with a broken connection in one of its components. I’ve had plenty of humiliating experience in the area of brain/chemical problems, the latest of which was only Friday during a workday in front of my co-workers.

I assume that before your rant against “pill pushers” you read the whole conversation including the bits that suggested paranoid delusions, a potential symptom of schizophrenia?

I understand feeling helpless standing on the sidelines. I am taking everything 1 day at a time when I want to plan our future together. I want more kids. I am getting older and he is 24yrs older than me. I feel as though time is running out. I also feel powerless. I am physically unable to leave him. He came in my life and now I can’t think of another man ever touching me.

Please don’t. You have invested this much. Don’t get in a hurry all of the sudden. I have to remind myself of that one too! It is hard but hopefully worth it.

There is hope!

Maybe he sent you the smiley face as an apology. Since you didn’t actually tell him you know, maybe that was a small apology of guilt. He doesn’t sound as if he would intentionally hurt you. He is just caught up in this mess too.