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• (2 votes) 25 Year old man attracted to 15 - 16 year old girs ?
  

  There is an underlying issue here. He’s very immature and women his age don’t put up with it. However 16 year old girls think it’s cute. That’s why he goes after younger women. That’s why he’s dating you, someone 8 years his junior.
  
  That’s why older men with money go after 20 somethings. Older women are realistic, want more from men than sex. Older men can’t handle the responsible women and go after the little girls that have tight bodies and aren’t concerned with 401Ks, life insurance, and making this world a better place.
  
  Granted, I wouldn’t report him for something he used to do, but he needs to understand that what he is feeling is wrong. I highly doubt he would harm his own kids and maybe that is what it’ll take. I’ve had 25 year old and higher men, look at my daughter’s (15 and 16 at the time) ***** as they walk through the mall as we walk behind them. I grab them and tell them that those girls are 15 and look somewhere else. Most of the time, the guys are apologetic and didn’t realize it because they both look much older, but sometimes you get guys that are ok with it. I’m determined that these ***** will have promiscuous 15 year old girls that chase 20 something creepy dudes so they know how creepy they are being.
  
  One thing about this Mezz, you don’t have to dump him for this, but guess what will happen when you do break up? Right, he’ll go after a younger girl again. He’ll trade up, as these creeps call it.
  
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago – voted for by Mezz, Forevermine (no mas)

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• ok, so he’s married.
  

  I suggest getting to know his wife and hanging out with the two of them if you really like him as a friend. If that doesn’t seem like something you’d want to do, then you probably ARE that type of person but you just don’t want to believe it.
  
  I’m guessing you like the flirtatious attention and so does he, it’s new. That’s okay, but it seems like you are trying to convince yourself that you would never do anything, yet I wouldn’t be surprised if you fantasize about it and hope he secretly says something to you.
  
  If this is the case, you need to transfer or quit to get away from it if you truly aren’t that type of person. If you do find that being around his wife doesn’t change your dynamic than maybe you are just friends with a little bit of innocent attraction. My point about the wife is if you only get along with what his wife would see as inappropriate behavior, you will find out very soon if you like him as a person or a conquest. If, around his wife, the two of you are bored and don’t have much in common, then it’s pretty safe to say that you are just lusting after him in a sexual way.
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago

• 25 Year old man attracted to 15 - 16 year old girs ?
  

  There is an underlying issue here. He’s very immature and women his age don’t put up with it. However 16 year old girls think it’s cute. That’s why he goes after younger women. That’s why he’s dating you, someone 8 years his junior.
  
  That’s why older men with money go after 20 somethings. Older women are realistic, want more from men than sex. Older men can’t handle the responsible women and go after the little girls that have tight bodies and aren’t concerned with 401Ks, life insurance, and making this world a better place.
  
  Granted, I wouldn’t report him for something he used to do, but he needs to understand that what he is feeling is wrong. I highly doubt he would harm his own kids and maybe that is what it’ll take. I’ve had 25 year old and higher men, look at my daughter’s (15 and 16 at the time) ***** as they walk through the mall as we walk behind them. I grab them and tell them that those girls are 15 and look somewhere else. Most of the time, the guys are apologetic and didn’t realize it because they both look much older, but sometimes you get guys that are ok with it. I’m determined that these ***** will have promiscuous 15 year old girls that chase 20 something creepy dudes so they know how creepy they are being.
  
  One thing about this Mezz, you don’t have to dump him for this, but guess what will happen when you do break up? Right, he’ll go after a younger girl again. He’ll trade up, as these creeps call it.
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago

• i dont know what to do
  

  Dude, I’m thinking you are a “nice guy.”
  
  The reason you always finish last is because you’re the kind of guy that girls like to marry but don’t like to date. It seems like she’s enjoying the bad boys now and waiting till later to settle down and settle, for you.
  
  People don’t realize what they have until it’s gone.
  
  I tell you what, I wasted 10 years of my life on a girl like this. I was so into her I let her walk all over me because I was willing to wait until she was ready to marry a good guy. Eventually, I smartened up and walked away. last I heard, she has 3 kids and just got married for the third time.
  
  As I look back on it, I used to think this girl was my soul mate. The reality is that I was just a nice guy that got stepped on way too many times.
  
  Move on, no one is worth the heartache, and anyone that cheats on you doesn’t respect you enough anyway.
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago

• Im 14 and pregnant my mother doesnt know what should i do?
  

  You think your mother will kill you because that’s what every mother tells their daughter so they think twice before having sex.
  
  In reality, she loves you and will support you no matter what. My fiance’s daughter just had a baby boy and she is 16, 15 when we confronted her about her slight belly at 6 weeks last summer.
  
  She was so afraid to tell us, but she is happy now and has grown up alot in the last year. Her grades are much better and she’s very happy and of course, the baby is beautiful.
  
  There is also the flip side, my soon to be stepdaughter is a pretty mature girl. Many young girls think of a child like a small puppy that all of their friends can say, “Awww”. But they neglect to think about the hard work and sacrifices that go into motherhood. 14 is very young, and your mother needs to know so that you can go to a doctor and do a pre-natal check so that the baby is healthy. If you go about this alone, it may hurt the baby in that it may have a condition that you won’t be able to fix because you hid your pregnancy. Could you live with that guilt?
  
  As a parent, I say please tell your mom. She’ll be upset, of course. No mother wants their child’s social life over before it even begins. But the two of you together can make some decisions and live with them.
  
  As a last resort to sway your decision to tell your mom:
  
  If you can’t even tell your mother you are pregnant, How on earth do you expect to raise a child? If you aren’t ready to have a grown up discussion about sex, then you aren’t mature enough to have sex in the first place, but that’s all for not at this point. :)
  - written 2 years, 7 months ago

• im i girl… how do i self love…physically
  

  I’m 99% positive this is a joke because the act itself is instinctive to many species of mammals including humans. If you are serious and want better advice go to a sex chat site. This kind of question seems inappropriate given the general audience of help.com and the fact that children may read this.
  - written 2 years, 7 months ago

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