C.D.'s reply history at Help.com

[quote Cell]I think if you become more assertive you’ll feel better about things. Don’t let people walk all over you.[/quote]

I had a more assertive personality in the distant past, but I tried to leave behind because I sometimes become *too* assertive. But you’re right. Better assertive than what I am now.

How can I be more assertive, without going overboard?

Feel the exact same way. *hugs*

[quote Dragon_Lady]Yes; C.D. I know that you are right. I do not blame him for leaving, and that is not what made me so upset. It was feeling like he slapped me when he left -that is what burned and kept burning.

I do not blame -nor would I ever try to stop- anyone for choosing real life over pixels.[/quote]

Yeah… sometimes, people forget that the people on the other side of the screen are just as human as they are. They can be inconsiderate, to say the least.

The behavior of some people online is a mystery. :/

I don’t know what else to say.

I’m a bit late, but here goes:

When people become happy and confident, I think they leave their online relationships and spend more time off their computer. There comes a time where people choose to sacrifice these online relationships, because no matter what they can’t compare to the reality of being in someone’s presence.It is a good thing for him, perhaps, that his life improved to the point where he didn’t need to go online anymore. But of course, you are left behind. It hurts when that happens; it always hurts to lose a friend.

The online world may very well be real, but compared to real life it melts away like frost in the sun… it will always have some aspect of anonymity, some aspect of editing, some thing that isn’t really there.

Online relationships are a beautiful thing, but keep in mind that they aren’t everything. You have people in the real world, as well as friends online… appreciate both for what they are.

[quote Cell]911 now. The police will help you and your mom.[/quote]

Agreed. Swallow your fear and dial now.

Thanks to all of you who replied :).

I think Spring is helping her mood, because it’s a lot better now. She’s a *lot* less irritable, and if she is it isn’t too hard to get outside. It’s a nice reminder that she isn’t like that all of the time.

It’s unfortunate that I have to pretend like this whole thing never happened, but it is a lot better this way. My dad and I went camping in Utah; it might’ve been good to spend some time away.

Three-and-a-half more years, and I’ll be out. I still don’t know if that’s good or not.

Happy Help-Birthday!

Sorry, I’m a little late. But congratulations all the same!

Hey, I know you’re probably gone.

When you feel like this, you just have to remind yourself that morning is coming. It ain’t over ’till it’s over.

How about this? Try to do one good thing a day, for somebody else… and work from there. Day by day. If you truly can’t admit to something, then do something else good to somebody.

Also remember that we’re always here for you, even if it takes us a few days to respond.

(Thanks for the invite, Doubletime.)

What she said.

Thanks for all of your wonderful replies.

@Cell, taking the trash out and some other chores what I do to get my “allowance”, but my parents don’t pay me anymore anyway XD
I really do want to help, but sometimes I am lazy, just like every other fifteen-year old out there.

@Linuxya, she had a father who was just like her, unfortunately. I think you may be right that she is afraid of her disease, but we hardly ever talk about it. She doesn’t like to tell people.

@Anon, being the “Alpha Male” isn’t exactly my strong point. I think you’re right that she does her best. As for the gift/teddy bear, part of the reason why she is mad at me is because I forgot to get her anything for Valentines Day, something she scorned in the past. She told me she wanted chocolate, but two weeks before she told me she hated it… she is VERY hard to get gifts for.

@Kitten, my dad is self-employed, so our taxes are about 10 times more difficult than everyone else’s. MY dad works two weeks on, two weeks off, and his job is across the state so he’s only here half the time.
My dad is great with serious conversations, and he was here this time. However, she waits until he’s gone/not watching and that’s when she’s at her worst. Dad’ll help me, but sometimes I don’t think he knows exactly how bad she can be. He’s never there when yells at me until I cry and then mocks me for it, or else he’s in the other room on a business call.
She rarely acknowledges that she has a problem, and waters it down when she does.
I think sometimes she does this because the truth is too painful.
Filing cabinet? Yes!! (After I replace her $45 Latin book, which also was in the box)

All that said, I love my mother, I only wish she would behave a little better.
She’s still not speaking to me, but I’ll bake some bread today and see what happens.

Thank you all again for replying. :)
Made my day.

[quote Space Weaver][quote C.D.]Twitter is strange and just a little bit pointless.

Do I really need to know whether some celebrity is going to the grocery store?[/quote]

I know right, like how does that help me and anyone else.[/quote]

It doesn’t at all.

Twitter, Seinfeld, and Politics are essentially the same thing: they are all shows about nothing.

(The only difference is that one of those three is hilarious)

Twitter is strange and just a little bit pointless.

Do I really need to know whether some celebrity is going to the grocery store?

Yeah, real documents (IRS D: ), real recycle bin.

Sorry I disappeared; she confiscated the computer. Thanks to you both for responding.

My mom’s general routine is that she’ll insult me/scream/make threats until she gets less mad, but she may or may not apologize later. She gets mad over little things, or accidents like this, as if they’re all my fault. She has no idea that she does something wrong, except for when she’s in a “sorry” mood.

Until then, she’ll be threatening to take away everything that I enjoy (moving me to a different school, not letting me run, etc.) She complains that I never do anything, but then when I do the next time she’s mad she threatens to take it away.

She’s done this to me for years, driving me to near-suicide a few years ago, but it’s gotten better since then. I think the worst thing is that I can’t really talk to her about the effect she has on me/ has had ever since she got cancer about five years ago.

I’m not the perfect son, but sometimes I feel like I get a bad rap. Do you guys have any ideas for the long term?

[quote QueenLazyMcCoolBeans]Well she was a little stupid to leave important documents on the recycle bin, if they were so important she would have took more care.

I would beat yourself up about it, it was not your fault, she is just trying to find someone to blame other than herself.

Just leave her alone and let her fizzle out.[/quote]

Yeah, she’ll fizzle out eventually.

But it’s what will happen before that which I’m worried about.

I’m glad to hear some good news about your condition, and I sure hope to hear more. :)