2011-10-26 12:24:08 on Am I depressed/bipolar?
first, ask yourself if u’r surrounded by a**holes
2011-10-26 12:20:52 on how do you make someone feel better about their body and their wieght?
btw, most of u say i there’s nothng i can do b/c she has a ental illness. this is not true at all. she used to be worse than this with her insecurities. except now her friends have ditched her, so she has nothing to distract her 90% of the time, especially since she has no computer or internet. before all her meeting with this pychiatrist. i helped her figure out where the voices where stemming from, what they were feeding off of. i found one of here insecurities and helped her withit. now she’s more outgoing than she ever has been before, and the voices settled down. dont tell me there’s nothing to do. b/c i clearly have done something already.
i know what it’s like to be bipolar/schizo, except i have more control then she does. i know what it’s like to hear voices, except i dont listen to them so idk what theyre saying. i’m the closest thing to help and support that she’ll ever have. of course i cannot do it all on my own. that’s why i’m glad she has a good psychiatrist. i encourage her and nag her to tae her pills and that if they bother her, she still needs to take them, but tell her psychiatrist they bother her so she can talk to the doctor, or else these episodes happen. i can never predict what she will do or think. i can not always be there for her. but it doesnt matter right now b/c her mom is not leaving her alone after what happned two days ago.
it takes a lot of will and understanding to do this. dont ever tell anyone to just giveup. there’s always something to can do than just sit there and be support. u just need the will and the know how
2011-10-26 12:11:01 on how do you make someone feel better about their body and their wieght?
[quote angel♥]it’s hard to know what to do in a situation like this…. you said her problems revolve around her insecurities, but i don’t think they’d be quite as bad if she didn’t have bipolar and schizophrenia, am i right? there’s not really anything you can do to FULLY get her through this. i think the best thing you CAN do at this point is: try and convince her to stop lying to her psychiatrist. if she lies, there’s really no point in going because they can’t help her unless she WANTS the help.
if you want to help her with her insecurities though, try what muffins said… compliments, go shopping… things like that.
the thing is, society has basically told us that fat=bad. that it’s unhealthy and disgusting and ugly. but not all overweight people are unhealthy…and there’s nothing disgusting or ugly about having a few extra pounds on you. BEAUTY IS PERCEPTION. if she sees herself as ugly because she’s insecure, maybe try reminding her that what she sees isn’t what everyone else sees. that she’s beautiful the way she is and you don’t think she needs to lose weight.[/quote]
thank u. i will try that. i do always tell her when she needs to do something that would help her. i told her just the other day she needs to stop lying to her psychiatrist and when she asked why, i explained it. i know she lies when her mom is there. but her mom isnt there all the time.
2011-10-26 12:08:09 on how do you make someone feel better about their body and their wieght?
[quote priddypaisle]People who are Bipolar suffer from major mood swings… One moment they can be calm and loving to a second later swinging fists into your face. Can you imagine what she has to deal with and how this will affect her. Another thing is she knows she is bipolar/schizophrenic and this is eating away at her, she is carrying a heavy load of pressure, and she’s placed it on herself. These kind of things can cause a persons self esteem to fly right out the window, so she’s battling more than you will ever know. The happiness someone feels has to come from within. The only thing you can do is be her friend and support her… Try to get her to a different psychiatrist who might find different meds that work in a different matter for her.[/quote]
i already know that, but her insecurity about her wieght is whats making her mood swing. when she’s alone, her mind wanders into that direction and her mood drops and then the voices follow and feed off her insecure thoughts. i know b/c i used to be the same way, except without the voices. i’m schizo to, except not as bad. she doesnt need a new psychiatrist. this one is just fine. i was there at one of their meetings. she works on adjusting her meds or trying new ones. but of course she needs to try some of them long enough so she can get used to them and see the whole result
2011-10-26 12:03:39 on how do you make someone feel better about their body and their wieght?
[quote priddypaisle]There is nothing that you can personally do to make her feel better more confident in herself. The only thing you can really do is be supportive of her and try to remain the shoulder she can lean on when she’s battling this difficult time in her life. BUT you need to get her help, cry to convince her that going to a Doctor is the best thing for her. The Doc can get her set up on medications that will help control her mental stability and depression. Also allow her to be happy and comfortable with herself.[/quote]
she’s already on meds. what i rlly wanna do is help her get on a scheduled diet. she eats too much when she gets bored. i know how this goes b/c i do the same thing. but i dont have to worry about wieght gain, so idk what a healthy diet is.
2011-10-26 12:01:39 on how do you make someone feel better about their body and their wieght?
[quote angel♥]does she get bullied at all? like do people put her down, or is the insecurity just from within herself?[/quote]
nope. ppl are extremely nice to her. she’s like too innocent. so thats why everyone ditched her. one of her friends tld her she needs to suck it up, and my friend went balistic. she doesnt know slef control anymore. she’s trn up by all these feelings. i know her hormones and all these meds and her mental illness has something to do with that. we cannot do much about that. but helping her with her insecurities is somehing we can do. she has always been insecure about her wieght, even before she became bipolar/schizo
2011-10-26 11:57:50 on how can you tell when two people are not meant for each other?
[quote Anonymous]They don’t need to cheat. They’re careless. If you cheat on someone you love, they can’t be worth much at all to you.[/quote]
not true at all. i cheated on my boyfriend. the guilt killed me. one day, i was ready to kill myself, so i confessed to hi that i cheated and that i understood if he hated me. i would have rathered him hate me when i died, than him miss me. but, the reaction i got was the complete opposite. he wasnt mad. he didnt hate me.
if u cheat, and u truely do love ur spouse, then u will tell them. and if they truely love u, they will forgive u. don’t hold the guilt in. it’s best to work things out with ur spouse together. in a marriage, u are one. u’r partners in life.
2011-10-26 11:53:41 on how can you tell when two people are not meant for each other?
i don’t think people are “meant” for each other. it doesn’t just happen. u have to work to keep it together.
there will always being something about the other person that annoys u, but u have to get past that b/c there’s something about u that annoys them. but, to know if u two would get along better than u would with others, u can easily tell by how u two act and feel when around each other.
u have to get to know the other person very well. have the some of the same interests. it’s best to be friends first.
u think u know everything about someone, but it always turns out that there’s a lot more to them than u know.
ive known my bf for almost 4 yrs. we have been dating for at least a yr. we know a LOT about each other.
what foods make the other sick.
what shows the other hates and likes and why.
the most embarrassing moments when the other was little.
childhood pets and friends.
weaknessnes and strengths.
however, there are still things he doesnt know about me, and still things i dont know about him. but at this point, nothing about the other would make us split up. at some point, u accept that person as ur mate (friend for life, ’soulmate’, yadda yadda). or at least, this is the way it should be. but of course, it isn’t. most relationships are based on sex and looks and money. pathetic
2011-10-26 11:42:13 on how do you make someone feel better about their body and their wieght?
[quote yup]Get her to a psychiatrist. Her problem isn’t her weight, but her mental condition.[/quote]
…i already said she has a psychiatrist..
the problem is hr wieght. yes, she has a mental problem, but her insecurities are what steams almost everything. if we can make her feel better about herself, then when can try to figure out how to stabalize everything else.
2011-09-04 20:43:50 on what happens if you take an anti depressant that wasnt prescribed to you?
[quote Cell]It’s a type of drug abuse. If you think you’re depressed speak to your doctor.[/quote]
i dont have a doctor. i cant afford a doctor. doctor’s would prolly suggest i go to a therapist and/or psychiatrist who would just give me this **** pill anywayz. and then i’d be offically labeled as schizo and ocd. i dont need to go to someone to tell me what i already know i am
2011-09-04 20:38:20 on what happens if you take an anti depressant that wasnt prescribed to you?
[quote Wilddj14]it wont make me feel better. eing alone is one thing i cannot be right now. but i also cannot hold back these feelings and this stress while being around others[/quote]
talk to someone you trust immediatly[/quote]
i have no one to talk to. i tried talking to my bestfriend and my boyfriend. even my dad who told me the news didnt know what to say, all he did was drive around and talk about other stuff to distract from it. no one knows what to say. they cant relate. i dont want to put them in that awkward position. it just makes me feel worse.
ive always been everyone else’s therapist. i use other ppl’s problems to distract myself from my own. i’ve always been their for everyone else and i always had some kind of advice or kind words for them when theyre down or in trouble. but no one is here for me. no one can relate to my problems. all anyone will possibley say is that it’ll get better with time. but what will that do. what about now?
i dont even want to talk about it. i dont want to face this.
2011-09-04 20:31:04 on what happens if you take an anti depressant that wasnt prescribed to you?
oh and just as a bit more info. this pill is abilify which is used in the treatment of depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, and/or OCD. it’s my friend’s pill. i think she dropped it when she took her pills. i foudn it a few days after she left. it’d be the only one i’d get ahold of, b/c im not going to steal her pills. im always on her about taking them b/c i dont want her to have another schizo episode
2011-09-04 20:27:50 on what happens if you take an anti depressant that wasnt prescribed to you?
[quote optimismiles]many anti-depressants have been proven to enhance depression. many suicides have been investigated to see that the anti-depressant that individual was taking, was actually having a negative effect. this is because people are being prescribed them so easily. don’t mess with these, especially if they aren’t yours. if you’re wanting to take them because you do feel depressed, talk to a therapist and try to avoid these for as long as possible. they can be helpful, definitely, but they are also very powerful, and hard to get off of as well. go for a walk for tonight. even if you don’t want to. it will make you feel better.[/quote]
it wont make me feel better. eing alone is one thing i cannot be right now. but i also cannot hold back these feelings and this stress while being around others
2011-09-04 20:23:59 on what happens if you take an anti depressant that wasnt prescribed to you?
well what are the side affects? and what if you are depressed? will it still have a bad affect?
2011-08-05 11:26:02 on i have to write a letter to my grandparents but idk what to write.
[quote DarkSnow]I’d suggest you write two drafts. The first to write out what you first feel like responding (you can type this one since you are going to rewrite it) and the second as what you decide to keep in the letter if you feel some things you should remove and not put in. Though I’m not sure what you’d have to be worried about mentioning.
As for writing style, normally it’s best to mimic the way a person first talks to you. If she put in both of their names, you put in both of their names. If she wrote hers by hand, you try to do likewise ^^ Normally people appreciate the styles they are used to the most.[/quote]
thanks. thats a great idea. and as for what i have to be worried about mentioning, my grandma is one of those ppl who expect the world to be a perfect pleasant place. she doesnt wanna hear about the bad things of the world or ppl’s troubles. and most of my life is defined by troubles. me and them live 2 seperate lives. i don’t think they’ll ever understand mine. my grandpa even told my dad that he doesnt understand how my dad lives getting by day by day. he said he would have been dead by now.