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i don’t think anyone is really meant to be anything. our life is in your own hands and you are capable of anything you believe worth trying. you are the only thing holding yourself back. your fear of rejection is your biggest weakness, not any sort boring personality or unimpressive looks. the sooner you face your fears and manage your anxiety, the more free you will be. have some faith in yourself. stop saying you can’t do it.

like i said before, social skills only come with practice. this next year you will have a chance to develop your communication skills, and you definitely won’t be the only person out there with insecurities or self-doubt. don’t take meeting people so seriously. if someone doesn’t like you, then it’s best that you don’t become their friend. if someone is awkward or rude, then that’s okay, there’s always other people out there worth discovering. but don’t tell your self that you have nothing to offer in a friendship. everyone does. don’t let your self-doubt sabotage the friendships you have because you’re too afraid to grow into the person you are.

thanks for the congratulations!

everyone has the same doubts you have, no matter how social they appear to be. everyone sometimes wonders whether there really is anything worthwhile and special about them, or whether the friends they have really enjoy their company. especially in a new social situation, everyone wonders how they will fit in the society that they are entering into. everyone struggles a bit when they try to find the right people to surround themselves with.

i believe the key to finding your place among people is to try to “meet” as many people as possible. sometimes it’s pretty easy as joining a club that you’re interested in. in that situation it’s usually the people around you who get you involved with others and help you meet other people in the club. another way to meet people is to simply say “yes”. if someone asks a favor of you, if someone invites you somewhere, say yes. if someone missed class, offer to let them get a copy of your notes. if someone wants to do a cook-off, or a study session, say yes. people are constantly trying to get together, so just go along with the flow. i’m introverted like you are, but i realize that good things don’t come to people who are afraid to try. another thing, if you’re feeling a bit more active, is you can try to approach other people who appear to be shy like you are. in my experience, shy and strange people tend to make very interesting and good friends, so i make an effort to introduce myself and get to know them.

why do you think that no one would ever want to get to know you?

also, i hope you’re doing well too. :)
you should tell me some good things that are going on in your life. i’d like to hear. my internet usage will be spotty, but i will read it!

hey, i haven’t been around much because i just graduated from college, and life has been pretty busy. i haven’t even opened up my laptop since finals week!

in answer to your first question, i’m not really sure what i think of introverted people. i myself am an introverted person. i spent over half my life without anyone really close to me, even family. i was always a tomboy and pretty socially awkward. in middle school i was bullied a little bit, but i think i was so unable to understand antagonistic feelings of others that it didn’t really bother me that much. having ingenuine “friends” didn’t bother me that much, but when i went to high school i cut all ties. i made friends in high school, and i’ve really been pretty much the same person since then. i finally realized how much a good friend was worth, so i made an effort to start meeting people. even though i’m still introverted and large social situations tire me out, i think it’s worth it to put yourself out there as much as possible. so maybe the question should be not so much what i think about introverted people, but what i think about introverted people who use their own personality to trap themselves in a life they don’t love. you as a person are extremely valuable, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. no matter how unspecial we sometimes feel we are really and truly irreplaceable. so enjoy your personality and let other people enjoy you too. we all have something worth sharing, and there’s always someone out there worth meeting who perhaps can share something you’ve never experienced before. there’s too much life out there and too little time to be afraid of the world and what you can do in it.

well there are definitely less attractive personality traits out there, so look on the positive side. ;)

definitely not. :)

you’re welcome. :)