linuxya's shout trail with candp - Help.com

Hi, Thank you for the reports. Hopefully I did not miss any of them. If you see any more let me know. Good to have you back on. Carol

Hi, Paul and I are doing fine. We arrived at a similar conclusion a few years ago. We control our choices so we may as well make choices that will help us experience that which we wish to experience.

Happy to hear your life is great and that you went with the Career Coach option. Stay positive because all the changes you seek are right around the corner.

Carol

Personally, life is great. Professionally, I am using a career coach and going through all kinds of exercises to identify my strengths and market myself.

In respect of this website, I found I prefer to maintain objectivity and deal with problems I find interesting vs getting drained by constant invitations and drama.
I am an analyst and problem solver, not a hug machine.

How are you and Paul?

Hi, how has life been treating you lately? Any success in your endeavors? Carol

Thank you D. Funny you should mention this. It was just a few hours ago that I realized I am usually on the giving end. One of my friends had emailed me and offered a listening ear. This is a friend that I have frequently helped, but never asked for help in return. When I read the email I realized I didn’t really know how to ask for help. Learn something new every day, once again. I will have to work on that.
In the meantime, I am here if you need a shoulder or ear today. Carol

Thank you so much for your generous comment. I could really use it today. It’s interesting how we all need empathy and yet its scarcity means that it has to start coming from someone who probably isn’t getting it themselves. I greatly appreciate your empathy.

We are so vulnerable while dealing with our grief. On the other hand, If I remember correctly, you began socializing around then. As long as you learned from it, it was not in vain. Sorry to hear she was instrumental in the loss of your job.

Using a career coach sounds like a great option for you. There are so many other positions you could fill with your experience. It could be in retrospect, that this will open a door for you that you never imagined. A whole new journey.

You really do a wonderful job here with the advice and guidance you offer. Your analytical, no nonsense skills shine brightly.

Naw, that coworker turned out to be a fruitcake under a shrink’s care… she actually was the one who got me fired. Then she quit.

As for starting my own practice, the overhead costs and anxiety related to running it really make me think it is not for me. I am not an A-type or a promoter. I am an analyzer and a fixer. I focus on problems, not people. I am probably going to use a career coach to go through a proper process.

I’m glad your life is good. I have actually found so much goodness in my life despite the frustrations… it’s all a matter of perspective, isn’t it?

We were very honored to have been of assistance to you in your hour of need. It was still rather fresh in my mind at the time. From what I have read of your replies you are doing a wonderful job paying it forward.

Sorry to hear about your job. I know you have a lot to offer. Can you start your own practice?

Is this a new girlfriend from last we talked? I believe you were going with a coworker at the time. Has she helped you work through your emotional turmoil? If not, you know we are here for you. Do you still have our email address if you should need to discuss something in private?

I am happy to hear you are progressing well. Things always become more crystal clear in retrospect. The trick is to implement all that becomes apparent. If we could learn to never expect more then we are capable of giving, our lives would be so much less painful

We have enjoyed a couple of very interesting years. Learning something new every day. Life is much less boring this way. Paul is happy to be working again. He was becoming very frustrated for a while, but that too has passed. Life is good.

I’m glad to hear Paul can return to work. You two were such a help when I first came to help.com and are the reason I kept coming back for over 2.5 years. I am grateful for the time you shared with me.

I’ve been searching for work for quite awhile (unfortunately emotional turmoil caused me to lose my last job and consulting afterward only worked for about a half year or so).

I’ve also been with a girlfriend for 14 months. She is quite different in many ways and I have been enjoying those differences.

I have reached the stage where I can appreciate what I had before, keep in mind what didn’t work, and work at making this relationship the best yet.

How are things with you?

HELLO! Good to hear from you. How have you been doing? Thank you for the warm welcome. We think of you frequently, honest. You have a special place in our hearts. We have been doing well, and Paul was finally able to go back to work. What is happening in your life?
Carol

Welcome back candp. I missed you guys. I hope you are refreshed from your break.

Dave, that is because you basked in consistency of a loving relationship for so long. You still have several months before you can safely consider life altering decisions. Glad the rest is going good. We missed you and your pearls of wisdom.

Hi c and p. Many good things have happened however I’m getting worn out from all the changes and the lack of having someone to “be there for me”. I’ve worked on developing friendships but I’m surprised at how confusing and draining they are.

Hello Dave, how are things in your life?

You’re too kind.

BTW, you have ten people waiting to be your friend!

What a pleasure to read your posts. You are such a shining star! So glad to know you.

Have a good night sleep and pleasant dreams. You take care also.

I give up. Yahoo gives no hints as to what’s wrong. Messages go off into nothingness. Adding a contact results in a server error - try again message. Unfortunately, I need to crawl off to sleep. Best wishes and take care of yourselves.

linuxya, candp5630 @ yahoo. com

we are on yahoo. all you need to do is log in and connect

i have linuxyay on yahoo

who do you have an account with? we have msn and yahoo

ok I’m useless at this. try fusibou

candp 5630 @ hotmail dot com

We just realised that you were not on our friend list. we just invited you.

Yes I have an AIM account.

It’s a long story. We care a lot about people. Do you IM?

Mm, nope, I don’t think I’ll pile anything on. I’ll hold the straw back. I’m spending a lot of time here out of a tragedy. I wonder what led to your commitment here?

We have extremely large,strong shoulders. Pile it on!!!!

It would be silly of me to warn you about fatigue then go and pile more problems on your shoulders.

You’re absolutely right, linuxya. Thank you for caring. Yes, we do take a break every once in a while. How are you doing, friend?

Don’t burn yourselves out. Love is hard work.

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