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1. Thanks

2. Because of the difference between sexual attraction and sexual activity and the risks and additional problems that activity provides and the need for support and education

3. Excellent question. I have no idea - I thought I read that he wasn’t happy about his weight but realise now that I was actually reading another post when I wrote this bit. Ooops. Sorry!!!

I don’t hate Wiccans

I wouldn’t be surprised if some sort of ‘memories’ are passed genetically as part of nature’s way to warn the generation after from certain experiences (e.g. where home is, or to avoid eating insects with yellow and black stripes, etc), and think that it may have an affect on people’s reincarnation experiences.

In terms of philosophical possibility, I don’t think so. One thing I’m quite sure of is that I am me, that I have always been me whilst I am and that I always will be me at the core. What a nightmare to have to then be someone else!! I’m happy being me.

Why do you want to be different - is it to be noticed more?

Be patient and be yourself, don’t try to construct a facade as that’s a barrier to you and you’ll have to take it down at some point in your life.

Hope it all works out.

There is a difference between feeling sexually attracted to men and actually partaking in sexual activity with them.

1. There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. God loves gay people as much as he loves Christ Himself. Anyone who beats you up for the way you feel are losers - don’t beat yourself up about it as well.

2. Actually taking the next step though and gratifying your sexual urges is more serious. Relationships that are sexual (no matter whether gay, heterosexual or other!) affect at least one human person (yourself) in a deep way and put you in contact with new environments and risks. You should therefore get support from your family and true friends to deal with the serious issues that your sexuality may pose for you. Don’t worry, you’ll be okay.

3. There is also nothing wrong with liking food. If however you have trouble controlling your appetite and your weight is making you unhappy, why not get help, not necessarily to lose weight, but to come to terms with who you are. Unless you are able to accept your own identity, your strengths and weaknesses, and until you can open up enough to get support, you are likely to be unhappy.

In summary:

a) Don’t feel unloved - God loves you, your family loves you, your true friends love you, don’t hate yourself.
b) Don’t worry - it’ll be okay.
c) Get support to explore who you are, who you want to be, and how to make the right choices.
d) Don’t make major decisions until you’ve accepted the above

I’ll keep you in my prayers,

Best wishes

I am a Catholic and my religion teaches that God loves gay people (i.e. people sexually attracted to their own gender) as much as anyone else. He loves you as much as he loves Jesus Himself and was willing to give up His only Son for each one of us.

According to my religion, there is nothing culpably wrong with feeling sexually attracted to other people whether you’re gay or heterosexual.

However there is a difference between the actions we choose to take, and the tendency to do them. We are each called in life to a closer relationship with God - that is what makes us fully human. Each action we choose to take that obstructs this hurts ourselves.

Thus what ever sexual orientation you have, we are each called to live out our lives according to the law of our soul rather than the urges of our body. This is true whether we are gay, heterosexual or are sexually attractive to goats! Our sexual activity must be in accord with God’s will (God only wants the best for us because He loves us) in order to make us fully human (animal and spirit) and not reduced to the merely ‘animal’/base aspect of us.

Each person also has a vocation (a calling that God asks us individually to fulfill). Thus a priest or religious, who may be heterosexual or homosexual, is called by God to be celibate (i.e. refrain from all sexual activity). There is nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to others, but there is if we then choose to give in to that attraction and such an action is contrary to our vocation and/or the moral law. We only end up hurting ourselves in the long run.

In summary therefore:

1. God does love you
2. Don’t worry
3. Try to do what is right and ask God for help
4. Use your sexuality to grow closer to God, not to grow further away from Him.

I’ll keep you in my prayers, but assure you that all will be well.

Best wishes,

Disco

It seems to me like the cause of your problem is that you have all of the questions (which is admirable), but haven’t come across the answers. This is the cause of your problem but your attempt to control the symptoms by smoking dope won’t take away the questions, but just perpetuate them.

If you want to deal with the cause then may I suggest:

1. Recognising that it is not possible for you to know all of the answers immediately - life is a learning process. Therefore be patient.

2. Don’t think that there are no answers. There are - persevere and by God’s grace you’ll get there in the end.

3. Get support in dealing with the questions you’ve got from people who are trustworthy and knowledgable about such fundamental questions. Speak to your local priest or someone else with a training in philosophy and theology. Why not read about the different main religions and see if they have adequate answers to your questions. I am a Catholic so obviously I am satisfied that all of my questions are answered by my religion’s teaching. If you want to know what the Catholic Church teaches simply read the Catechism - http://www.vatican.va/archive/catechi… - Try and find out about different religions too and compare the answers.

4. Don’t worry - accept what life puts before you and you’ll have much more peace.

Best,

Disco

I’ll pray for you too. Join your sufferings with the sufferings of Christ - Trust in Him.

HollyBennett,

The term ‘Christianity’ covers lots of different religions now. Qzzz said some factually incorrect things above without saying which denomination of Christianity he represents.

I am a Catholic which is by far the largest denomination of Christianity and it is the Catholic position that suicide is damaging for the individual, their family and society as a whole, despite what Qzzz has said.

The Catholic Church says that suicide is bad because:

1. Human life is sacred because from its beginning it involves the creative action of God and it remains for ever in a special relationship with the Creator, who is its sole end. God alone is the Lord of life from its beginning until its end: no one can under any circumstance claim for himself the right directly to destroy an innocent human being.

2. Everyone is responsible for his life before God who has given it to him. It is God who remains the sovereign Master of life. We are obliged to accept life gratefully and preserve it for his honor and the salvation of our souls. We are stewards, not owners, of the life God has entrusted to us. It is not ours to dispose of.

3. Suicide contradicts the natural inclination of the human being to preserve and perpetuate his life. It is gravely contrary to the just love of self. It likewise offends love of neighbor because it unjustly breaks the ties of solidarity with family, nation, and other human societies to which we continue to have obligations. Suicide is contrary to love for the living God.

4 If suicide is committed with the intention of setting an example, especially to the young, it also takes on the gravity of scandal. Voluntary co-operation in suicide is contrary to the moral law.

5 Grave psychological disturbances, anguish, or grave fear of hardship, suffering, or torture can diminish the responsibility of the one committing suicide.

6 We should not despair of the eternal salvation of persons who have taken their own lives. By ways known to him alone, God can provide the opportunity for salutary repentance. The Church prays for persons who have taken their own lives.

Hope this helps.

Disco

Do you go to Mass each Sunday?

Annaed548 is right. Denying the chance of life to the unborn is immoral.

Those who have abortions not only harm their offspring but also harm themselves and society generally. Another quick fix mentality of a society that is crumbling around us.

I can only speak from my own experience. I have a background in physics, a degree in Chemistry, a degree in Computer Science and practised law in this scientific arena. I have also studied philosphy and Catholic theology in depth.

I am a practicing Catholic and can subscribe to the Catholic teaching that religion and science are not opposed but are complimentary. The Catholic church condemned as heresy the protestant notion that faith and science are opposed.

Read what the Catholic Church really does teach rather than listening to other people and make your own mind up:

http://www.vatican.va/archive/catechi…

Persevere and your heart will expand. I’ll keep you in my prayers