blazingstars's profile at Help.com

User Involvement

Last 1 Posts Authored

• My friend wants my help, but I know nothing about relationships. posted (2 years, 8 months) ago
  I’ll call my friend Ally. Ally and this guy, Ron, have been friends since they were little ki…

• All Claimed Posts »

Last 5 Replies – All 9 replies »

• “If yuo cna raed tihs, yuo hvae a sgtrane mnid too.
  

  Actually, most people can read it if the first and last letters are in the right place.
  
  “43% of statistics are made up on the spot.”
  
  haha.
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

• How are you doing today?
  

  I’m doing pretty well. A bit confused, but still on the positive side! Thanks for asking, lol.
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

• My friend wants my help, but I know nothing about relationships.
  

  [quote SDee]Wow, that is a dilemma. I can think of a couple of reasons Ron did what he did. But, we can’t assume anything. Furthermore, regardless of why, if he knows she has no intention of “dating” until after high school, then he will most likely believe he did nothing wrong. He may or may not understand that she thinks he did, but I doubt he believes he did. I think that by making the comment, “He feels that she would make an excellent friend,” he is, in his own way trying to express that he did not intend to hurt her. Which is probably a good reason why he didn’t tell her about Caroline in the first place. Regardless, he is dating someone else and sounds like he does want to be friends with Ally. You are sophomores, which means he would have to wait nearly 2 years for her. That’s a long time for any teenager. My advice is to look at like this, she was going to wait that 2 years anyway. Why shouldn’t he date? Then maybe after she graduates, if the feelings are still there, there may be some hope. Meanwhile, she should just maintain the friendship and concentrate on the things that made her decide to wait in the first place. By the way, kudos to her for that decision.
  
  She could confront him, but I fear that it may actually hurt the friendship. If she is confused, I would suggest asking questions such as “Why didn’t you tell me about Caroline?” Try to be understanding and forgiving, and not accusatory. That’s my advice. I’m sorry that it’s probably not what you want to hear.[/quote]
  
  You’re fine, I want to hear anything anyone has to say. I see your point at the beginning of the second paragraph, but I’m just concerned that if she doesn’t make sure they both understand each other, then there might be problems. I don’t think that she should just let it go completely. I think she should at least tell him that he hurt her, to make sure he knows. But I don’t know. I don’t want her to be confused about this forever, and she’s usually pretty gentle when she talks to people, so she wouldn’t be accusatory or anything. I just feel like if she lets it drop without saying anything more than she has already said, it will be a bad situation. I’m not sure why I think that, but I do. Thanks for your reply.
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

• He makes me want to cry everyday.
  

  Yes, I think you should end it. There’s no sense in staying. But please don’t just dump him casually like it’s nothing, and don’t try to hurt his feelings. You could explain why it is you are ending it with him, but that might make him act desperate for you and it could make it harder to leave him, but whatever you do, don’t be destructive on purpose. It makes everything worse.
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

• how do i tell a guy i like him?
  

  [quote Anonymous]Just do it :). you like him, he definitely likes you. You could just straight up go to him and say you like him. he might find that really appealing. But its obvious he likes you so just do whatever, it doesnt matter. Hope you guys are happy together![/quote]
  
  I agree. It depends on what you want to do, mostly. If you think just going up to him and telling him you like him would be good, then do it. Or you could wait until you are (relatively) alone somewhere and go “I have a secret…” and tell him like that or something, I don’t know, it’s your choice.
  
  Good luck!
  - written 2 years, 8 months ago

blazingstars's conversations are tagged:

Love, Feels, boyfriend, friends, dating, Relationships, Thought, Forgetting, Humble, Ear, school, Terrible, Share, Ally, creative, site, loneliness, heartbreak, advice, Raed, one word, confused, living, word, Everyday