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Hey whatsup?

Yeah. They have strong bonds with those they care for and are loyal. I always think of the lone wolf though. The one that chooses to wander alone outside the security of a pack.
How come you consider yourself a wolf?

I like wolves. And its just laying under a tree staring off at something distant..

Because every time I’ve trusted someone its blown up in my face and ends up being a mistake. Hey either don’t care or want something from me. The few times I’ve actually asked someone for help, because I desperately needed it, it only made things worse and I ended up getting screwed over.. so I’m really not good at trusting people.

Awe thanks.

So you know that connections are important but perhaps you are not developing connections or are in a place where you want someone to reach out to you?

What we give we receive all the time, what we receive we have for a moment. So if that is the case for you, receiving will only be like a fish, but learning or opening up to connecting with people is like being a fisherman.

Some on help.com, some in real life. basically people that I thought I could connect with or help and I realize that they are not reciprocating. Every relationship is reciprocal, like ping pong.

If you or the other doesn’t send the ball to the other side of the court, then the connection is over. It has to take full circle.

Life is about connections so yes, if you do not feel connections, ie. trust, you would feel like that kind of life is killing you. It is. What is disconnected dies. This is a natural law.

What works for you to connect with people?

My day is going alright. I am saying goodbye to relationships that are one sided and draining. Relationships that are not connective so they kind of destroy me just them being around. I have to learn to connect with everything to feel alive and I learned that just tonight.

What do you think about that?

Kevin, I would be more than happy to talk with you. What is up.

Please know ahead of time that I have little kids around me so I step away from the computer frequently as their needs arise. So if I do not write back it is because of that.

Hugs!

I’m great. You?

Where as I am always appreciative for a friendly hello I sense there is something else to yours. Is something going on? Would you like to talk?

If not, than my apologies for reading into the situation.

Hugs!

Hi Kevin : )

I just change my name to this when it is very important that I keep my mind focused on health and wellness, so I can live more healthily and not forget to be trying to be more and more healthy and healing.

catholic, it just dosent feel good doing that i do not know why :/

You are never too messed up to go to church. :) You are never too messed up for God.

No matter what you have done, God loves you.

Which denomination do you follow?

You know… I know exactly how you feel :)
When I was suicidal I felt the same way. I had been working… or rather getting and losing jobs continually.

Moving all the time. Never seaming to be able to make ends meat.

Ultimately that and a few other factors led me to try and kill myself. I went out to my favorite fishing hole and… well I’ll spare the details…. but were it not for a passing police officer I would not have lived.

I then spent the next month in hospital recovering. And months after that searching.
What I found was God.

That empty feeling can be filled by God if you will let him.

Have you ever looked for God? Asked him to be a part of your life?

but why do you want to kill yourself?

We are all tired of working. No one wants to get hurt. And not all the male of out species are good with girls :) I know I’m not :D

What about you do you want to kill?

Wanting to kill yourself is not a normal act. It isn’t natural… And speaking from experience most people don’t want to die. They just want something to change in their lives…

When people tell me that they want to kill themselves I ask:

What about yourself do you want to kill?

I would be more that happy to help :D

What’s up?

oo thats really good, i hope you can help me out if is not tu much to ask

Indeed I am Kevin :D I am a minister with the Universal Life Church. And the unofficial chaplain of help.com :D

Thank you.

My name here was “lifelover” until right before valentine’s day. I didn’t really want anyone to mistake me for someone that would care about their romanticness, so I changed my name.

Yeah, it’s too bad that “love” has good meanings and bad meanings. I want to use it to talk about the friendliness between us all, and what we all really like, but people might think I’m just talking about valentine’s chocolate.

That’s weird — maybe you accidentally clicked to close it? I think I did that once.

Anyway, “love” means a lot of different things, and sometimes it is a lie, but it’s still an important word, some people totally love that word.

Hang on, let’s just shout for now, I keep my number for emergencies

hoe do you know i was back ?

Kevin welcome back

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Okay I hope so, it jsut life aint going great for me. I’m now cutting myself, which I never done. but I just need to feel the pain.

I have a guy problem. This guy like me & I like him & everyday he texts me good morning & after our first date, he slowy stop texting me, & it pist me off. but I also got upset as when he “like” this girl pic on fb alot & this girl humilated him once on fb. And yes I have to admit I’m jealous but it makes me upset that does it I dont want to tell him this because we went out once but also I’m afriad I scared him off from my clingyness & I’m afriad I lost him & he lose interest in me. & now I just screw things up. ANd I want to do now is cry. fml

It actually sucks. The hours are horrid, I’ve been up since 4:30. And ten minutes until my shift is over if thats what you meant.

Drive around, lock up buildings, sit in the office and do homework and surf the web (As I’m doing right now) or bust up parties at midnight.

Not too many people do, its all a guessing game too. I goto college, studying to get a degree in biology, working as a security officer at my college.

The love game is a challenging one. I’m 18.

Life isn’t fair, it never has been. The only thing you can do is learn from your errors and try again. Thats all life is. A guessing game.

Because some people get everything handed to them on a silver platter, and they get everything, and don’t do anything. Those people I think are unlucky. They never learn anything for themselves.
And people like you work hard for everything, and oftentimes have nothing to show for it. But you learn more than the others ever will, and you know how to survive, no matter how difficult it gets.

That could be an issue-that you nevr had a dad in your life. Some people just have trouble coping with one parent missing. And sometimes therapists are only in it for the money…which is why this site is so good. People come here because they need help and then stay because they want to help…or they come here just to help.

No there’s nothing wrong with you. Don’t ever believe that something is wrong with you. Have you ever thought of seeing a professional? I’m not calling you crazy or messed up, but sometimes they can offer the best advice.

Its the lifestyle I chose. I’m comfortable this way. Genetic you know?
And yeah, totally. Its always nice to have someone there, but the thing is finding that person. Sometimes the moment you stop looking, that person will show up. Or its somebody that you never expected.

Oh, I’m kind of a loner myself…I’m ok with being alone. Being tied down to people isn’t really my thing. I have a few close friends, but thats it.

Maybe you’re looking at the wrong group of people to be friends with?

Maybe you need a change of scenery then. Is it possible for you to move maybe? Or, like I suggested before, try going to new places you’ve never been before.

Have you tried going out and meeting new people? Go somewhere new, and see some new faces, make some new friends.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to change the situation you’re in, no matter how difficult it may be. Have you tried online dating?

OK, then just dream about you doing well then…Close your eyes and imagine being in a better place and never ruminate about your life because it only depresses you mor…And go to a theme park sometime and eat lots of chocolate..

OK, then just dream about you doing well then…Close your eyes and imagine being in a better place and never ruminate about your life because it only depresses you mor…And go to a theme park sometime and eat lots of chocolate..

Everyone feels lost sometimes. Totally normal. The best thing for you to do is to do something you enjoy. Get your mind off of things. Try and get some sleep too, nothing is better for the human mind and body than a good nights sleep.

Can you get to the beach? I always go there to feel better

I know how that goes. Those nights are hard. Whats on your mind?

Thanks Kevin, I was about to shout you..are you OK

i just had a realy bad night lol i dont ven know how im doing to be honest with you i cant even sleep lol

Hey there =] How’re you doing?