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you can get suits that have support panels built into the tummy. Also finding a suit that has roushing(sp?) which is a cool bunching effect, a good pattern, or looks like a wrap suit(crossing over the bust, and ending at each side) will help high a paunch as well.

I can relate completly to your troubles. I have been a binge eater since I was 2. It confounded me why I couldn’t stop. I also became a bulimc in the process of wanting to lose weight. I’ve been going to Overeaters Anonymous for 5 years now, and I beleive it has saved my life. I have not binged or purged in 4 years, and the understanding and support I found there has been unbeleiveable. I hope this helps. It was the only thing that ever offered a solution for me. Go to www.oa.org to find a meeting in your area. Good luck.

sounds like you know what you should be doing, but you’re just waiting for someone to give you permission to do it. The basic fear of letting this relationship go is that you wouldn’t be able to find anyone else, or anyone better. That you don’t deserve better. I’m here to tell you that you CAN find someone WAY better, and you deserve better.
We teach people how to treat us. I love that old saying, ‘no one can climb on your back unless you bend over” By allowing this treatment from him is the same as saying that it’s ok with you, you’ll take it.
I also feel it’s best to beleive that you’re mother has your best interest at heart. You KNOW she loves you,…this guy I’m not so sure.

I found, in my experience, that I do not feel fulfilled unless I have some kind of personal connection with a God of my understanding. and I will seek to fill that lack with all sorts of things that aren’t good for me if I don’t have a connection, i.e. spending money foolishly, poor relationships, etc. There are a thousand things a person can try in avoidance of a personal relationship with God.
I pray daily, and meditate often. I’m not some monk, walk around with prayer beads all the time, it’s just become a working part of each day for me. Then I no longer feel that lack. I don’t know how it works, I just know it does.

well, I have a kids, a husband, a mini-van and a mortgage. I guess I qualify. hehehe!

[quote dcb_707]seek God, it may be the only impt thing missing and seek love from within. it must come from within for if you continuously seek love from others you will only be disappointed. they can only give much[/quote]

I agree. The times in my life that I felt like a bottomless pit for love and acceptance from others was when I had no connection to any kind of God. ( I’m also not talking about religion, necessarily, I don’t feel that you have to have religion to have God)
I really didn’t even care for the word God, until someone explained that it could stand for Good Orderly Direction.
I just happen to beleive that there is a part of my soul, or my experience on this planet, that can only be filled by God. When I try to fill it with things, or people, I only feel this gaping LACK, and nothing is enough at that point.

I would really hesitate to use depo. I also couldn’t do the pill because of the estrogen, but I got a Merena IUD instead. It releases progesterone directly into the uterus, and I’ve honestly never felt this good. I don’t even get a period anymore either. (I had TERRIBLE periods)

Are you sure you feel Hamlet was a homicidal maniac? There really isn’t much to support that. There is alot to support that he was crazy, even, but his will to actually ‘do the deed’ was utterly lacking throughout the play.

I didn’t ask for alot fo things in my life. Being sexually abused for 7 years of my childhood, Serious physical illness that nearly killed me when my daughter was only 4 months old,and that I am still dealing with, losing a baby to SIDS, losing my best friend to suicide. You’ve read only a tiny portion of a few things about me. And even what I wrote was only the highlights.
I didn’t offer you cliches. I offered you what got me through the worst spots of my life. If you don’t want them fine, but I didn’t write for half an hour to you to anger you, or to mock you. I wrote because I felt a heartfelt desire to help you. And I certainly didn’t offer what I did to be attacked.

[quote Pae]In the end, those pills you’re “eating” aren’t going to do **** for you buddy. Excepy leave you 6 feet underground where the worms are consuming your skin and intestines.Welcome to reality.[/quote]

DO you honestly beleive that attacking this person is going to help him? Have you ever been addicted to anything?

I’m not talking rehab. I’m talking about an NA or AA meeting. Rehab did Sh1t for me. I didn’t get clean til I went to the meetings.

I’m seriously not being sarcastic. I’m actually not. You don’t want help, so I won’t antagonize you any further. Just so you know, I’ve been in pain before. REAL pain. I get the anger so I won’t be offended my your tone. God bless.

If you wake up, have you ever thought of getting clean and sober? Maybe that’s something you could look into.

That’s all right. No one likes hearing that they might have some power over their situation. BTW, I didn’t suggest pills. Just a shift in attitude. All that negativity is toxic.

If you ever consider getting sober , you might want to try a meeting. I’ve been sober for 14 years. I have read all of your posts, and I can relate to the feelings. Lonely and angry ruled my life at one point. www.aa.org to find a meeting, or look in your phone book. Good luck.