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• (2 votes) I think there is something wrong with me.
  

  I used to be very depressed, and almost got suicidal. This was even tho’ on the ‘outside’ a lot of my life looked fine. I had a cute girlfriend. I was making good money playing in a band. I was in good health.
  
  But inside, I got to where I was really miserable a lot. I started thinking suicide, and had days on end where I wouldn’t do anything. (I’d sit in a corner of a room and wouldn’t move all day.)
  
  But, for some reason, I had this really tiny thought that maybe things could be better. And it kept coming back, and after awhile it got me to start looking to see if anyone had an answer for me.
  
  Well, I really, really think I got the answer I needed, because from then on (over 30 years ago) my life has steadily been improving and now I’m mostly in at least an ok mood or better.
  
  So, what’s my secret?
  
  It’s really simple. I discovered that it’s really only our THOUGHTS that cause us to FEEL however we feel. It’s not ANYONE ELSE and it’s not our CIRCUMSTANCES. it’s not even what we’ve already experienced.
  
  The thing (behind the FEELINGS we have) that causes us to feel however we do is our BELIEFS. And here’s another key: Just because we beleive something, it does NOT mean it’s really TRUE.
  
  If you can learn to SEPARATE from your feelings,… enough to start looking at the THOUGHTS BEHIND THEM, you will start seeing this. And this is very empowering, because it leads you to the ability to EXAMINE what you believe and CHANGE your beliefs. And when you do, you can then make yourself feel better. Why is this true?
  
  Becuase,…
  
  We FEEL what we BELIEVE.
  
  And here’s another guideline you can count on: If you’re feeling bad, you are believing something that you do not HAVE to believe. There is ALWAYS a better thought, idea or belief, that you can have, that will allow you to feel better.
  
  You can TEST what I’m saying be observing others. For example, notice people standing in lines in a grocery store. Notice how they seem to feel. Notice how some feel better than others, or some might be irritated, etc. Now, consider this:
  
  They’re all in virtually the SAME CIRCUMSTANCE.
  
  So, if the circumstance were CAUSEING them to feel however they do, they’d all feel the SAME. But since they all feel differently you can know that the CAUSE for however they feel is NOT in the circumstance. So, where is ths CAUSE?
  
  It’s in how each person is THINKING, or what they’re BELIEVING. And like I said:
  
  We FEEL what we BELIEVE.
  
  And, you CAN change what you believe.
  
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Dragon_Lady, babacup

• (2 votes) I need something to take my anger out on.
  

  Instead of looking for something to “take your anger out on” you could seek to understand the CAUSE of your anger (which is always internal — a thought or belief YOU have ABOUT something) and RESOLVE the feeling.
  
  How do you resolve ANGER? By finding the thought or belief YOU are having, and REPlACE it with one that allows you to feel some better feeling.
  
  But, in any case, like Linuxya said, refrain from BLAMING anyone else. (AND, refrain from beating yourself up for having the anger.) Blaming or condemning yourself for anger is a rationalization, whether you know it or not, and it tends to make you want to STAY angry. There is another way to think about it, and that is to understand it. Understand that it’s only caused by a thought or belief you have, and you don’t have to keep believing the thought or belief.
  
  For instance, say someone criticizes you and you get angry. At first you may jump to the conclusion that your anger was CAUSED by the other person criticizing you. But this is not true. Your anger comes from how you think ABOUT the criticism. It’s possible to hear criticism and simply consider it, without condmening it, or you, or the person who said it. If you do, you can then examine it, see if it has any merit, and if it does learn from it, and if it doesn’t, then feel reassured and be at peace with it.
  
  No need to retaliate. That just escalates the problem.
  
  In other words, you have the power — thru gaining understanding — to resolve any unwanted feelings. It takes a little effort, but it’s ultimately very effective and rewarding, because when you resolve a feeling, you’re much less prone to react badly, should the issue ever come up again.
  
  “We create our own heaven or hell. Your thoughts can imprison you or set you free. Complications, conditions or people do not upset you, but the way you think about them causes your upset. Freedom is not possible until we discipline and retrain our minds.” - p. 124 of Choose To Live Peacefully by Susan Smith Jones, Ph.D.
  
  “If you say, “I just can’t help the way I feel,” you will only make yourself a victim of your misery ~ and you’ll be fooling yourself, because you can change the way you feel.
  If you want to feel better, you must realize that your thoughts and attitudes–not external events–create your feelings. You can learn to change the way your think, feel, and behave in the here-and-now.” - from The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns
  
  “If you let the world affect how you feel, what you are saying is, “I do not make my own decisions, I just have a Pavlovian response to anything that may twang my emotions.”” Stuart Wilde in ‘Life Was Never Meant To Be A Struggle’
  
  No need to be like a Pavlovian dog, just reacting to things, you know?
  
  - written 3 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Sleep Well., rtp

• (1 vote) What makes you happy?
  

  Here’s a GREAT happiness idea I didn’t learn until my late twenties. (And I’m still using it, and I’m in my sixties now. You get better at it with greater understanding, contemplation and practice.)
  
  Virtually ALL happiness comes from how you think ABOUT things, and what you BELIEVE about things (including yourself and what you think is possible for you). Like it’s been said: It’s an Inside Job.
  
  “What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.” The Buddha
  
  How you think determines almost ALL your feelings. And how you FEEL determines, to a great degree, what you think of yourself and what you believe is possible, and how well you get along with others, and how much you make of yourself.
  
  Consider the following:
  
  “We create our own heaven or hell. Your thoughts can imprison you or set you free. Complications, conditions or people do not upset you, but the way you think about them causes your upset. Freedom is not possible until we discipline and retrain our minds.” - p. 124 of Choose To Live Peacefully by Susan Smith Jones, Ph.D.
  
  “If you say, “I just can’t help the way I feel,” you will only make yourself a victim of your misery ~ and you’ll be fooling yourself, because you can change the way you feel.
  If you want to feel better, you must realize that your thoughts and attitudes–not external events–create your feelings. You can learn to change the way your think, feel, and behave in the here-and-now.” - from The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns
  
  “If you let the world affect how you feel, what you are saying is, “I do not make my own decisions, I just have a Pavlovian response to anything that may twang my emotions.”” Stuart Wilde in ‘Life Was Never Meant To Be A Struggle’
  
  “You are the sovereign authority for your life. You are the ruler who makes the decisions regarding how you will act, what information you will accept. You do it anyway — but if you recognize that you do it, you can gain much greater control over your future.
  
  But whether or not you accept it, you are sovereign. You rule one life — and you rule it totally.” Harry Browne, in ‘How I Found Freedom In An Unfree World’
  
  One Rule Of Happiness: Believe In Yourself (or come to believe in yourself)
  
  “Be Your Own Best Friend.” Oprah Winfrey
  
  - written 2 weeks, 3 days ago – voted for by Plasmarox

• (1 vote) Do you think “beautiful” people are treated better than “average” looking people?
  

  Not from my experience, and not from what I’ve studied.
  
  The fact seems to be, people are treated mostly like they EXPECT to be treated. And this has quite a bit to do with a person’s Self Image or the Idea of Their Self.
  
  Also, what the media calls ‘Beautiful People’ doesn’t necessarily reflect the ‘beautiful person’s’ idea oof their self. One example is Angelina Jolie. I’ve read and heard her say she doesn’t consider herself beautiful. She also says that she was ostricized as a teen and didn’t have many friends. I also read similar things about the actress that played Jim Carrey’s love interest in the movie ‘The Mask.’
  
  And, personally, I’ve known some women who were definitely not ‘magazine cover’ beauties, but the had such self confidence that they were definitely very attractive and appealing.
  
  I’ve also known a couple ‘doggy’ looking guys who could attract beautiful women practically at will.
  
  And, in various work places, it seems to me the people that get treated better have a good level of self confidence and/or a relaxed demeanor, which I see as due to a fairly healthy self image or idea of their self, more than it has to do with their looks.
  
  But that said, it seems to me, people who like their selves and appreciate their selves tend to take better care of their selves, which lends to them looking better or more attractive. So, I can understand how it ‘appears’ that beautiful people seem to get better treatment.
  
  - written 3 weeks, 4 days ago – voted for by moonlightsupper

• (1 vote) Hi I have this issue where in nervous situations I seem to lose all my common sense and act like an idiot.
  

  Try to understand that it is NOT the circumstances that MAKE you nervous. So, there are NO “nervouse situations.”
  
  The reason you feel nervous is due to how you think ABOUT the situation. Therefore, when you’re away from the situation, you can practice imagining it, and then imagine yourself acting calmly and reasonably and doing well in it.
  
  If you practice like this, in your imagination, you’ll find you will be less nervous in it. You may even get to where you’re actually calm, relaxed and easily handle the situation,… IF you practice the idea in your imagination.
  
  Just know this: Situations do NOT make you nervous. Only your thoughts can do that.
  
  Here’s how some others put it:
  
  “We create our own heaven or hell. Your thoughts can imprison you or set you free. Complications, conditions or people do not upset you, but the way you think about them causes your upset. Freedom is not possible until we discipline and retrain our minds.” - p. 124 of Choose To Live Peacefully by Susan Smith Jones, Ph.D.
  
  “If you say, “I just can’t help the way I feel,” you will only make yourself a victim of your misery ~ and you’ll be fooling yourself, because you can change the way you feel.
  If you want to feel better, you must realize that your thoughts and attitudes–not external events–create your feelings. You can learn to change the way your think, feel, and behave in the here-and-now.” - from The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns
  
  “If you let the world affect how you feel, what you are saying is, “I do not make my own decisions, I just have a Pavlovian response to anything that may twang my emotions.”” Stuart Wilde in ‘Life Was Never Meant To Be A Struggle’
  
  “I can’t emphasize this strongly enough… If you haven’t been able to feel how you want to feel and haven’t been able to get yourself to do something you want to do… then you are being victimized by your own disempowering thoughts, beliefs and attitudes.” - Mike Brescia, President, Think Right Now International
  
  “You are the sovereign authority for your life. You are the ruler who makes the decisions regarding how you will act, what information you will accept. You do it anyway — but if you recognize that you do it, you can gain much greater control over your future.
  
  But whether or not you accept it, you are sovereign. You rule one life — and you rule it totally.” Harry Browne, in ‘How I Found Freedom In An Unfree World’
  
  “It’s a familiar story for many of us. Notice how suffering is always caused when we are believing our own stressful thoughts. And if you are feeling any stress, even the most minute amount of stress, I invite you to identify what you are believing and then to question those thoughts that are always the cause of that stress.” Byron Katie
  
  “With our thoughts we make our world.” The Buddha
  
  - written 1 month ago – voted for by tasty1

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• 1994 Jeep Cherokee, 6 cyl , auto.
  

  Could be something else,… a bad solenoid, loose cables, etc., if you’re lucky.
  - written 6 days, 11 hours ago

• I have seal of God,this no joke and scam,beacose have proof 1 000 000% !
  

  [quote griffin195]That cool. I am God’s last comic standing. Honestly[/quote]
  
  I think this fellow is going to give you a run for your money,…
  - written 6 days, 11 hours ago

• Miracle in the Andes: 72 Days on the Mountain and My Long Trek Home by Nando Parrado
  

  Thanks for posting this. It’s a beautiful uplifting, inspiring empowering piece.
  
  Another is the story of the woman whose friends and family were slaughtered around her, as she and a few women hid in a hidden room of a house.
  
  And another was a story I read of a man who was forced to watch his family burned alive in front of him by laughing soldiers who had invaded his country. How this man came to forgiveness is truly incredible.
  - written 1 week, 1 day ago

• I have lost my job because of sexual harrasment on me by my ceo.
  

  Did you try getting free legal help?
  
  http://www.google.com/search?q=free+legal+help&rls=com.microsoft:*&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&startIndex=&startPage=1
  - written 1 week, 2 days ago

• I am the father of the now 17 years-old daughter who
  

  Would another approach help?
  
  “We must practice separating ourselves from our negative moods and thoughts in the midst of all the troubles and disasters of daily life. No one can be different from what he is now unless he begins to separate himself from his present reactions and to identify himself with his aim. Detachment from negative states and assumption of the wish fulfilled must be practiced in the midst of all the blessings and cursings of life.
  
  The way of true metaphysics lies in the midst of all that is going on in life. We must constantly practice self-observation, thinking from our aim, and detachment from negative moods and thoughts if we would be doers of truth instead of mere hearers.
  
  Practice these three fundamentals and you will rise to higher and higher levels of consciousness. Remember, always, it is your state of consciousness that attracts your life.” Neville Goddard, from: http://nevillegoddard.wwwhubs.com/neville1.htm
  
  Who was Neville? http://www.mitchhorowitz.com/neville-goddard.html
  - written 1 week, 2 days ago

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