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• I’m dating a guy, but cant stop thinking about another guy… posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  the guy I’m dating is sweet and i could see myself building a life with him, but there just do…

• …. posted (1 year, 5 months) ago
  ….…

• unusual dreams? posted (1 year, 5 months) ago
  Sometimes I get these weird dreams. I close my eyes and all I see is a mangled face laughing or yel…

• you know whats funny psychiatrists prescribe enough medicine to overdose to patients who have been diagnosed with depression. posted (1 year, 5 months) ago
  And during finals it’s so tempting to just finish off that container of pills.…

• Depression rehab? posted (1 year, 5 months) ago
  so my psychiatrist wants me to take some time off of school to “get better”. As in take…

• I’m lonely posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  I guess I keep thinking this whole college thing is gonna get better. that it was worth the break up…

• The sand posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  (poem of place) Your little toes wiggled inside of me To steal the warmth beneath Belly flat as you…

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LoveGirl4's Top (3) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) what’s wrong with me?
  

  If you are still young I don’t think anything is wrong with you. It’s just hard to have a good relationship while figuring out who you are.
  And if you’re older take some time away from the dating world and use that time to express fully who you are. A lot of relationships start off good and end up bad because the 2 people have trouble expressing who they are fully and they avoid conflict, but this wears them down and they begin fighting more and getting all their aggression out from earlier.
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by SwanLake

• (1 vote) “what happened you used to be so hot?
  

  but I’m not happy glitter. I wanna look like this:
  http://comeunderthesewaves.tripod.com/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderpictures/thinspiration51qd.jpg
  and instead i have people asking me why i let myself gain so much weight, when i’m so busy i barely have time to just see my friends much less work out :-/
  
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago – voted for by Dieter.Sugita363

• (1 vote) My guy friend and I kissed the day before for the first
  

  take it slow maybe try to go out on a date or two…not like formal dates, but just little things…like going to the movies (and actually watching the movie!) or going to a not that big of a deal dance together…just test it but dont push it or let it go to fast cuz if either of you start to get uncomfortable you mite loose a friendship.
  
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago – voted for by Aries

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• I’m dating a guy, but cant stop thinking about another guy…
  

  [quote moonlightsupper][quote LoveGirl4]i cant just ignore him…he hangs out with us all a lot.. and its not so much im curious…i mean we’ve already hooked up a few times…i dont know what it is…but its driving me insane..[/quote]
  
  Not so much curious? are you sure? I quote: “I dont know if he would ever want anything real”
  
  Its very clear, deep down you like him enough to want to try a relationship with him. However, you don’t know if he will give you what you want, or if he will continue being a man whore- which I assume you don’t want.[/quote]
  
  
  oh curious in that way lol
  i guess thats what it is…not so much that he’ll stop being a man whore…because i find that adorable…but i kind of want him to myself…but it doesnt make sense because i shouldnt want him but i do..and i dont think he wants a relation ship right now…especially not with me when he can probably get a girl ten times hotter and less weird..
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I’m dating a guy, but cant stop thinking about another guy…
  

  he’s nto good with women tho…thats whats so cute…he got to college and decided he wanted to be a man whore…he hasnt slept with that many girls at all…he was still a virgin when he got here…
  
  sasammi,
  he’s actually closer in age to me then the guy im currently dating…the guy im currently dating is 25 and the other guy is 18…I’m 19
  i just havent ever liked younger guys reguardless of whether its a few months or a few years…it just creeps me out..
  the most important thing in my life tho isn’t to graduate college…it’s to build a family…I know that seems crazy for a 19 year old to say but it’s all i’ve ever wanted..and i’m in no way saying that i’m going to go out and get knocked up and then talk the guy into marrying me…like that crazy girl i read about today (sorry random lol) but i want to do it right…i don’t want to throw away the potential of creating that future for a guy who drives me crazy…
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I’m dating a guy, but cant stop thinking about another guy…
  

  i cant just ignore him…he hangs out with us all a lot.. and its not so much im curious…i mean we’ve already hooked up a few times…i dont know what it is…but its driving me insane..
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I’m dating a guy, but cant stop thinking about another guy…
  

  [quote sasammi]Okay, so it sounds purely like a physical thing. That makes it easier, believe it or not. Because now you need to make the decision to really commit to your current boyfriend. No texting the other guy when you’re meaning to text your boyfriend, for example.
  
  It’s tough, but you may want to limit your exposure overall to this other guy. Part of his appeal is possibly the fact that it’s so unattainable (the allure of the forbidden!). Put all that excess energy into your boyfriend, since he sounds like he’s a good match for you. Try to divert your thoughts when they start straying towards the other guy.
  
  I wouldn’t beat myself up though if he occasionally pops up in your head. We’re human, after all. Just as long as you know that it’s a fantasy, while what you have with your boyfriend is concrete and real. I’m sure lots of long-time married folks here could tell you about all the times they’ve been attracted to someone other than their spouse. But it passes, and it’s not love. Just hormones going wacko.[/quote]
  
  
  but it’s not just physical attraction thats the problem…i can get over physical attraction quickly…but it feels different and thats the problem…I’ve never had this issue but hes not my type physically at all…i can’t figure out why im attracted to him…its just he has the most adorable smile and as hard as he tried to be a man whore he’s just such a good guy that he can’t be…and it’s the way he touches me and the annoying way he steals the covers when hes sound asleep or the way when he realizes he moves closer…and the way he just cares about everything so much…and how he understands the allure of roaring engine…and how clueless he can be…
  i feel ridiculous… and i should be saying this stuff about the guy im dating not him.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• I’m dating a guy, but cant stop thinking about another guy…
  

  [quote mysteriousmystery]oo right okay… well take my advice and concentrate on the relationship at hand. the one that actually is likely to be a potentially good bf.
  
  the younger guy just seems like one of those crushes sort of things, forget him![/quote]
  
  thats what i think, but i’ve never thought about a guy this much…not even my highschool boyfriend…I feel like im a horrible person everytime i start thinking about him…i feel like a crazy person
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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