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• I`m New to useing a computer.
  

  Images are being blocked. Which email provider are you using (ie: Explorer, Yahoo, MSN…etc?
  - written 2 years, 7 months ago

• How to stop being in love with someone that is so right for you, but yet so wrong?
  

  Your question first.. how do I stop being in love with someone… You don’t. Time, I suppose, will lesson your feelings but love doesn’t have an “on and off” switch. Just doesn’t work that way. You can quicken the “time heals all wounds” process but only if you ELECT TO SEVER ALL TIES with this person. If you try to maintain any sort of contact or relationship, you will just get your little heart broken everytime you say “good-bye.” It’s like a cut on your hand…leave it alone and it will heal but if you keep scratching at it… it’s going to be painful for a long, long time.
  
  Now, I have a question: Why? If you both feel the same way about each other; then WHY? Child, love is so much more important than a command of the english language or social status or anything else. What good is a stable career if you grow old, alone and lonely. To love someone, to care about another person more than you care about yourself and have that person feel the same about you…is right up there in the ‘life’s greatest gifts’ category.
  
  Life is so short and, in the grand scheme of existence, all of these little issues are so unimportant…
  
  I suspect that you are both just trying to do what is best and what is right.. but, perhaps, being together is truly what is best and what is right.
  - written 2 years, 7 months ago

• Boyfriends soon to be ex… got into my email and printed off emails and took them to her divorce attorney.
  

  I am assuming that your ‘friend’ has his own attorney; in which case, he/she should be the only person handling the legality aspects of the purloined emails.
  
  If I were you, I’d lay low. I think, perhaps, you may have already contributed more than enough to the chaos and it’s likely, that anything more you do, will only add fuel to the fire.
  
  I suspect that you’re feeling like a victim right now but, think about it; if you knew he was married, than the only real victims, in this scenario, are the wife and children.
  
  I’m guessing, of course and I may be wrong. But even if she was trailer-trash/pyscho-*****, I’m betting this really hurt her.
  
  Take the lesson learned (NEVER write ANYTHING that you would not, ultimately, want the whole-wide world to read) and get as far away from this mess as you can.
  - written 2 years, 7 months ago

• i need help with writing a paper about stress how should
  

  Meant to add: Previous post is excellent but don’t forget to research the postive aspects of stress…
  - written 2 years, 7 months ago

• i need help with writing a paper about stress how should
  

  Without “stress,” humanity would still be etching pictures on cave walls. The response motivates us to make positive changes.
  
  Unfortunately, many of us react to “stress’in a totally negative manner (allowing a feeling of hopelessness or being overwhelmed..) when, in actuality, the mechanism is simply our mind’s method of telling us to take a form of action (the old fight or flee thing).
  
  Stress, in itself, isn’t the big problem… it’s how we REACT to the stimulus that can cause problems.
  
  Good luck
  - written 2 years, 7 months ago

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