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Dear Op

Have a listen to his video. Now you don’t have to buy the products he sells, I haven’t but just listen to suggestions to get to thinking about a way forward with your life and explore all the speaker on YouTube’s ideas. Tony’s ideas are other people’s but they are effective nonetheless.

So get a note book and pen and write down his strategies. Good luck, I hope it inspires you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLu-qY…

[quote bibi1021]Seriously, :o
F*** you david cameron[/quote]

Well actually my friend it was Mr Gove’s idea. Don’t worry, in the posh/private schools, they will have proper qualified teachers whereas in the poorer areas, we will have what can be afforded.

Let’s just get it straight, a qualified teacher in London MUST get at please £25,000 to £27,000 a year. Many schools are replacing qualified teachers with Higher Level Teaching Assistants (HLTAs), Teaching Assistants (TAs) and Cover Supervisors (CSs). A salary for a HLTA in Inner London is around £19,00 pro rata. They are paid usually 43 weeks a year at at 27.5 hours not full time which takes their salaries down to around £11,000. HLTA are the best paid of the three!

Not all unqualified teachers have basic qualifications such as GSCE English and Maths nor a degree and they are going to be able to teach whole classes.

Gove and Cameron think it’s a way forward. I hope you’ve signed and please forward it on.

Best wishes

You could do with joining a support group and supporting and being supported by other parents with children with this condition. It is really difficult, I remember hearing a mother of an ADHD child say, ‘Sometimes I hate my child!’ and there were gasps but the fact is, she was saying, without support it is difficult for you which will of course impact your child. No she was not a bad person but a lady under severe stress. Medication can work, but you need people to talk to the options about this. Exercise, diet, even the environment i.e. the colours in the bedroom, layout can affect the child’s mood.

Find the national charity that deals with the issue, join their forums, find out if there are local meetings where you and your child and your partner can go and get supported and supporting. Good luck.

[quote Zirbel][quote Anonymous][quote Zirbel]Depends where you live. Which country?[/quote]
Very right. In the lovely UK we have to buy a thing called a TV licence which costs a bit and if you watch TV online, you can get fined. However if you are over 75 years old it’s free. LOL[/quote]
In Switzerland we have to pay a general “TV and/or Radio Reception Tax” (CHF 293.25 for TV only, which is about £180). But it covers all kind of devices.
Similar in the UK. For yours £145.50 you may watch color TV on TV device, computer, laptop, mobile phone or DVD/video recorder.
So you’ll have some “free” broadcasts in the Internet like:
http://en.lmgtfy.com/?q=UK+tv+online[…
Yes Zirbel we are paying £145.50 and much of it is total nonsense and repeats. Isn’t worth it at all. In fact I hardly watch TV, spent more time on the internet. Hope you guys in Switzerland are getting your money’s worth. Bet you’re not. LOL!

Could you please, please call, text or email either Breanna, Desiree, Gabo, Garo or your mum before you make any big decisions tonight? If not them, then try the helpline number to the right of this screen.

I forgot to mention, if 20 minutes is too much to start, work up to it ie a 5 minute walk for one week, then 10 the next etc. Walking is a great exercise to get you fit for other activities and it WILL help you with your fatigue. But you must look serioulsy at your diet, if you are eating the wrong foods, like crisps (potatoe chips) biscuits (cookies), sweets (candies) you are not going to get the results. I hope you have been given good sensible diet advice.

The best cheapest and most effective exercise in the world is walking, walking walking. Find yourself an intersting route, in the daytime of course and somewhere safe and walk. If you can, try to break into a run, if not, just keep walking. Walking at a moderate speed for about 20 minutes burns around 125 calories and that is good. Get yourself a good pair of trainers (sport shoes) and move your arms briskly whilst you walk, try not to carry anything with you like a bag. You will burn off the extra fat and not have the stress of having to find a coordinating track suit to join a gym. Try and get a friend to go with you, if not, get a walkman and have fun, but keep safe.

I do two 20 minute walks a day and this combined with a sensible diet is working. I’m losing weight but I still have some to go. Good luck and take this seriously, it’s long term and exercise has to be part of your life for the whole of your life.

Give your little brother the best Christmas he’s had so far. He is blessed to have you love him so much and you are blessed to have him to love. Remember, one day that little boy is going to be an uncle to your kids and a father and a husband and all that. Enjoy him at 8.

He really loves your company and you shouldn’t be too worried about that. He is a beautiful little flower that will blossom in his own time. Give him opportunities to shine. Don’t allow him to be concerned if he wants to follow you around. Believe me in 10 years time he won’t even have the time to phone you or your mum to tell you both where he is. Let him be himself now and don’t give him the impression that you are worried about the way he is. He will slowly find his way outside of your exclusive company so enjoy the special precious time you have with him like this, believe me, it won’t last forever!

You seem to be seeking a role where you can help others. This needs to be explored. Whatever you decide to do, you are now in a lucky position. You have a job, many people don’t and you can use your current job to help you move to where you want to move. If you want to get into a profession where you are helping people, decide which age group you want to help and how you want to help them and look into volunteering e.g. old people and advocating for rights, young people and getting them into employment etc. This way you get a favour of what you are getting into. To do training to get into most caring professions need you to have experience of doing voluntary work in the sector before you can train. Don’t down play your 13 years retail experience. There are a lot of transferable skills but exploring employment options is the first step. Think about studying part time and do your research into the industry, making sure the qualification you are pursing will eventually lead to real, well paying employment. Education costs but it is the cost of not having the right qualification that costs more. Good luck on your journey!

Can you find somewhere to take him where you can find kids your age to hang around with and where he can find kids his age? Boys his age sometimes need a distraction to make friends so don’t make it too obvious you are doing it for him. Tell him you are trying to make new friends for yourself or doing something for yourself and want him to go with you for support. Yes, he is helping you. For instance, if it’s a cookery club you really need to learn to cook because you want to do that some day. He is doing you the favour. Get it? If he thinks you are setting him up, he will not want to go with him. He’s 8 years old and has his pride.

Thanks littlenick. I feel guilty not needing people but I guess it’s okay.

You really need to read this poem already!

GIVE YOURSELF A HUG

Give yourself a hug
when you feel unloved
Give yourself a hug
when people put on airs
to make you feel a bug
Give yourself a hug
when everyone seems to give you
a cold-shoulder shrug
Give yourself a hug –
a big big hug
And keep on singing
‘Only one in a million like me
Only one in a million-billion-trillion-zillion
like me.’
Grace Nichols