spiritedsoul's shout trail with evansent:) - Help.com

I think i put on a lot of pressure for some to be with me and they never like it.
like it was like i needed reassurance from my ex when i was going out with him when i asked ‘do u love me?’. and one time i said itll never happen to me for someone to ask me out. im not as bad as that now, but still need aspects of myself to work on.
i think i also want someone to be around me to prove im lovable and to be reassured, when hardly any1 wants to do.

im a lot older than you hunny&with age comes wisdom :)

when you say you put on a lot of pressure,how?

obviously you dont love yourself,thats were you need to make the change first..
when you look in the mirror what do you see?
what have you accomplished in life..
instead of seeing your failings,see the positive things whats made a difference in your life?

brave of u to admit those sort of insecurities.
i guess i can look to much on the outside of things and not see whats really there on inside.

I think i was insecure because i think i feel i put a lot of burdening pressure on him to be with me, and it even has burdened myself. i dont think he liked it, one time i asked him ‘do u love me?’ and he didnt like that.

how can i become stronger?

same here hun,my parents also argued&my dad beat the crap outa my mum*thats another story*

i started seeing boys when i was 13*nothing sexual*
i was looking for love&attention *just like you*
you see,the thing i craved the most was my parents love&understanding,however they was too wrapped up in their own probs to even notice my pain :/

so i became an angry,bitter,little bitch!
i went out to hurt whoever i could basically..*insecurities*
got me in a big way!

then i met my hubby when i was 16!*jelous!!! omg! if he looked at another girl i would go mad!
the amount of girls i threatened to kill over him! lol!*again insecurities*

nothing is as perfect as it seems hun,like i stated before you never know what goes on behind closed doors..

have you tried to change your bfs?
*like your mum did*

you need to change&become stronger person inside,if you do this then your insecurities will have nothing to fight against :)

my parents argued every night. none had an affair. my mum tried to change my dad from being an athiest to a christian like her. they both argued about money too. it was my dads main fear in life, lack of cash.

my definition of a perfect man is someone who is happy, caring, affectionate.

i think when i see others in a relationship they have those qualities.

there you go hun,you have a certain image of how men should be&react**your mums doing*

again,your mums insecurities*past down from her parents& so fourth*
the cycle keeps on turning!
children learn what they live..we live&learn a lot from our parents&giving you negative vibes in any way shape or form will only give you insecurities later on in your own life!

did your parents get on well wqith eachother
did any of them have an affair?

again,you got bullied because you believed the shit they was spouting..they knew were to hurt&succeeded in the process!

what is your definition of your perfect man?

you need to regress go back into your childhood,you are an adult now&only you have the power&determination to make a transition in your life :)

‘hi,just tell me what happened in your childhood?
did you have a good one?’
my childhood had its ups and downs. my mum told my negative stories about men and is insecure herself.

‘have you got both parents’
my dad passed away in 2006 but id been insecure before his passing.

‘whats your happiest memory’
I think my happiest part of my life is towards the beginning, hardly any expectations of me and i could go into my own world easily without any pressures.

‘whats your saddest?’
ive had many, i used to get bullied a lot through school. used to be told i was too ugly and treated me as if id never have a partner. i guess i believed them.

‘have there been many??’
here have been many sad times in my life and childhood.

hi,just tell me what happened in your childhood?
did you have a good one?
have you got both parents

whats your happiest memory
whats your saddest?
have there been many??