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I watched both dove videos in the above.

1) I think that girl was more beautiful in the start of that video. A natural beauty rocks, plastics doesn’t

2) I saw no difference with the boy (hehe, I am a man and neither the thin nor the fat looked attractive to me)

I was in Bolivia at more than 5,000 m height. Mountain scenery and peaks are often beautiful, but the Bolivian Andes are much of giant stone heaps in a desert landscape. But there was an odd beauty of it, hard to catch on a photo. I have some photos with mist and snow, and mountains with boring colors. But the colors are often beautiful on high altitudes, with a lot of contrasts due to the thin air. The sky is almost black if you look up, with all shades of blue towards the horizon.
I saw a photo some weeks back, where the photographer had caught all such colors of the sky and ground, an absolutely beautiful picture! My own photo from the same spot was the opposite, to the most it is interesting but very boring and ugly.
I can send both photos if you want.

If you look at my profile page, you’ll see a picture where a painter made an African map into something very scaring and ugly. The original came from a UK magazine in the early 80’s. I combined it with another ‘positive’ map. Actually a political, where the Liberian revolutionary forces projected a bright and “free” future for Africa. I made them into a two-picture wall painting, where my projection was what actually happened later, i.e. disasters with millions of dead (in the Liberian case, over 400,000 dead).

So I liked your idea of the earth - there is much you can do with a bit of fantacy.

Halloweensqueen is right in that, don’t mind others in this case but think of yourself.

It is a pity, but a girl is very much up to her own judgement and decisions in such situations. Intuition is your best tool here, and you should listen to that intuitive voice.

Of course that guy was trying to take advantage of the situation! What business would he have in your room?
I don’t blame him for being interested, because you are very nice. But I blame him for not being sensitive, and for crossing the border of getting you feel uncomfortable.
He could be nice to others and even to you under other circumstances, but you know what he was going for in this case.

And this is the point where his own judgement about what is ‘mild persuation’ VS force will totally crash down.
It could end by where you feel raped but where he believes that you were willing. He would possibly really think so too, because he would rationalize. “Your mouth said no no, but your eyes said yes, yes, yes”, and all that stuff. It is the situation where he misinterpretes your reactions and believes what he WANTS to believe.

So don’t mind what other people think, you did very right and you should not have any remorse. Next time, just state “because I don’t want you around now”, instead of thinking of his feelings.

That guy will probably need a few tough rejections to shape up and act civilized. I don’t say that he necessarily is a bad guy in general, but he crossed some important social borders in this case.

Hi dear,
Look at this link:
http://www.tackfilm.se/en/?id=1259996…
It takes some time to load but bear with that, it is absolutely worth waiting for!
And don’t mind the commercial in the end.
The video itself is fantastic, and you are worth it!
Hugs,
Molo

There is no real ’solution’ for this problem.

Meanwhile I have to pay my taxes, because capital punishment is uncivilized and a worse murder than the original crime.
Because it is planned and intended, executed by hypocrites who are supposed to know better.

As an example, I found it very wrong to hang Saddam Hussein, actually victimizing him and making him a martyr in some people’s eyes. He was not worth that.
I could have killed him myself, because of revenge and because of empathy with his victims. But that is because I am an individual, subject to individual weaknesses. I would not dream to pretend that I have any ‘right’ to do so, neither divine nor other right.

Governments and authorities are not supposed to have individuals’ weaknesses. Governments and authorities work for me, I don’t work for them. They execute rights which I have given to them. And I cannot give away any rights which I do not have myself.

Mixing in “we” instead of “I” does not change anything. “Democracy” is a very misused term, involving also “populism”.
Just the fact that MANY people do wrong does not make it less wrong.
It is just a matter of the size of the phenomena, when a posse turns into a lynch mob.

As I said, it is an uncivilized form of revenge.

Until something better is found, I’ll pay such taxes.

Hi honey,
You are just great, having no real reason for being jealous. I know that does not help, and you are right about the security feeling.
Have you ever thought about Bhuddism?
I am actually not talking so much about it as a religious belief, but rather about some of its techniques for strengthening your awareness of ‘now’. It would surely strengthen your confidence, and a confident person is very attractive and awesome.
Hehe, you are attractive and awesome as you are, but it is good if also you are aware of that.
Do the gym if you want, or if you see advantages with it. Like that you need the mark for your certificate.
But not if you don’t see advantages. There are other excercises like walking or swimming, giving you a similar health benefit.
But if you have too little ‘mindfulness’ in your life, nurse that!
Hehe, I may write to you and tell how great you are, until your ears get sore!
You are worth it! (I’ll find a link for that, and send to you).

Hi Joy, I am late as usual (wasn’t here for 2 weeks 6 days.
But I have a solution for this one, too…
Give your phone to him, say that he can keep it if he makes sure to stay away.
You can get another one, and a number that neither she nor he will know.
I think they may be fit for eachother.
You deserve so much more than that!

Hi Vyki, I haven’t been here for 6 months so I did not know.
But I am glad it seems to sort out, and I wish you a happy continuation.

There is no way you can know. You can of course do some checkups and so, but ultimately you have to DECIDE whether or not you shall trust a person.
If I loved a person, I thus decided to trust her. Trust makes one vulnerable, and I was hurt. More than once, but I will still trust the one who I love. Because to not trust is by far worse.
And to get hurt is not the end of the world.

So if you feel trust in your gut, stick to that guy for the time being. But don’t go along with things “because you ought to”, by one or another reason. You should have sex when you WANT it, and not before.
The experience will otherwise add to your uncomfortable feeling about it.

Did you check the level? Please report back. I got something like that on my Benz, but i had driven on uneven ground and hit a pipe coupling, so it was dripping. A few bucks to fix it, in my case.

Kristen, the first thing is to have him move to an own apartment.
I read littlenick’s comment above, and I agree with him.

Should you not want to break up entirely (yet) so don’t, but have him move out!
It was never a good idea to have him moving in from start. I know it was your father’s idea and not yours, but it was still a very bad idea. Your father seems to be a very nice guy, but he was way too nice that time.

And for sure he is cheating!
Above all, your “intimate issue” will not be helped by that, and by his frustration reaching the point of yelling at you.
That issue will heal rather by you finding another friend, when your love, exploring curiosity and whatever is overcoming your issue.

You are my friend and as such you are special to me. I have been worried, but i did not say much.
You are beautiful and you have a future. But it will be bleak with this guy.

If you meet Tim, say that you almost forgot because the quality of that sex wasn’t of the kind to be remembered…
Then he’ll shut up.

I think spiratec9 has something there.
Should they say no, it may still be worthwhile to try to convince them.
Because it is not good for them either, to not have their education recognized.

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Hi, little girl.
Read http://help.com/post/197744-i-feel-re…
That post was from somebody who felt guilty for not having been with him when he died, and it was a father with some problems.
But there are a lot of useful comments on that post anyway (not least my own - I had to look through 33 pages of comments to find it).

Things will sort out, and you will be able to remember your father with happiness too.

Hugs for you and your family.