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sorry, i just can’t assume nothing

Pip pip Molo!

well liqid nitrogen or dry ice would be better. interns of exteria refigeration at low prices a thermocouple is the usual choice.

Good morning!
I read your reply and got to think about something which has noting to o with sex and such…
That thing about moving over blame, is supported by our own society also in other cases. When I was a kid, it was a really bad thing to steal a bicycle and te police bothered. Now they ask you if you locked it, and if you didn’t you have yourself to blame. They don’t bother with a report.

Kids don’t take it serious, they just think they “borrow” a bike that is parked suitably in their path.
It has became almost the same with car theft, if you did not lock it, it’s your own fault if you loose it.

In USA it is called to take a Joyride, when kids steal a car just for fun. It is te same as the slang for a drug trip.
When the Swedish group Roxette made the hit “Joyride”, they were very criticized in USA. But not for the referral to car theft, only for the drug thing! (but the song was referring to car theft).

yeah the nijab, hijab etc
this whole gender thing is pretty much discrimination/sexism that the appearance of a woman is shameful. people aren’t born thinking that way, they’re influenced. atm there is photo in front of me i received this morning of a boy from chakwal in pakistan. i asked to sponsor a girl, so asking to change. but the boy is only 2 and looks so innocent and niave. prob hardly influenced by the way women are generally perceived where he lives.

i guess a lot of guys maybe fear of being sinful(well fear of their own faults) and wish to shift their blame for their faults (onto women), refusing to take responsibilty. (soz this sentence is messed up and maybe seeming like im contradicting myself later)

one time i was sexually abused by a guy from the middle east. one time when he was doing it he said ‘I can’t help it, you’re so beautiful’ when i was trying to push him off and told him to stop it. now i do confidently believed he abused women (sexually) previously because he seemed confident he’d get away with his behaviour. i also believe hes been influenced to behave like that somehow. a lot of girls also like to be called beautiful here, so its also like using that as a way to get what he wants and shift the responsibilty.

for those who think their behaviour is someone elses fault, thats them refusing to accept responsbilty for their own actions. i think s.e.x and religion aren’t the reasons for bad treatment, but used as excuses. some people will just want to exploit those who are most vulnerable for feelings of POWER and domination. im not exactly totally religious, but in a way i see that as a sin in itself, using religion and god (love) as an excuse to treat others so viciously and unfairly.

i also like to think things will change in time for the better.

god, i swear we’re both writing a book here! lol

i guess social behaviour is mostly learnt through upbringing, here boys and girls mix more where as in the middle east its different. why are girls protected there more anyway? i know guys run fast but its like a two way thing, the more girls are hidden, the less the boys can learn how to behave round girls.

‘The fastest or strongest guy got her, and that was it’ no wonder there aren’t many nice guys out there! lol (ur not included with the lot!)

even though it was like that many years ago, it feels like it shudnt have been that way. but i guess its like that in the world, the vulnerable very often get crushed and trampled on. the most vulnerable wipe out.

LMFAO! i just copy what people write to me and paste it in the box and reply according to whats there then delete itlol now ur the bright one haha.

well, i did feel VERY SCARED and threatened at one occassion. i asked a stranger if i could walk with her and rang my mum to pick me up. i felt so scared and helpless. the second occassion i guess i felt safer because i knew there was a secure security building near by i could and was going too.

if i was on my own and didn’t know any1, i think wudve been a lot more scared.
i did not say to the police that the guys are middle eastern, though if i tell them, it wouldn’t be for the reason for being racist, but that the fact both occassions happened (well really 3) by foreign middle eastern guys.

‘But it is an even hotter potatoe that if a crime occur when they are informed in advance, they will be criticized for that inactivity!’ i guess then it would be better not to show any racism towards the sort when i talk to the police, just to help me if i want to report a case in future.

the good news is i talked at the bus station about it, and if anything happens while on the bus or a person is on there and follows me, if i choose to tell the police, the video camera would help reveal their identity.

to be fair, i had been emotionally affected by both incidents.
thanks for understanding. a lot of people just think im racist. mas1 even said i thought all the boys were after me or something like that.

lol don’t worry, I shout at myself sometimes. i am good at languages taking note of i thing? sorry things have to be said simple most the time for me to get them! lol

some of the guys who treat me as their possession have shown low self esteem, one acted like he felt he wasn’t good enough for me. apparently, people who think that way (and the jealous kind) are more likely to control their partner. true, jealously can damage relationships.

i can be niave though, one time was followed down the high street for like 10, 12 minutes by a guy from one of these cultures and asked for my number. because i was distressed i thought he came up to me cos i was unhappy, but that did not turn out to be the case. he only wanted to exploit me. he was keen to follow me till i was in a more vulnerable position which was a bad sign. but i got away safely into a safe building with people who would protect me.

i think its easy to feel wanted by these lads, but now i don’t feel that way. ive come across so many of the kind i know to feel wary. though i do admit every now and again i meet the sort who are ok.

but it is disgusting how these lads treat women, sometimes i feel ashamed of my s**uality because of the discrimination ive received in my lifetime, and seeing it happen to other girls in the world. but it is partly the reason why im sponsoring a girl to help things out.

but anyway, i do get upset im a constant target by these lads. so far in less than 2 years ive been approached by 5 randomly. some others behave pathetically.
yesterday i wrote an email to my local police station about harrassment ive experienced and asking what to do if it happens again.

I think you are good with languages, taking note of that “I” thing. But it did not disturb me.

Those non-trusters are often how you decribe them, but there is also another group of nicer guys but with the same problem. It is those with very low self-esteem, thinking “what can she possibly see in little me?” They are aware of all those cool guys around her, so they are afraid that she will also find those other guys cooler.
I feel a bit sorry for them guys, because the damages of jealousy are the same.

But I am as irritated as you over the guys from other cultures, moving in and spoiling things. Some of them have no experience other than from their cousins’ a**es or from the family goats, and they cannot take the signals from a lot of too young girls.
But with the streetwise brain of a reptile, they quickly learn how to dress and behave to get those girls laid, often with help from a hot BMW and other stuff with high imp factors. Those guys often compete with eachother in this, and the girls are treated as possessions. The problem is not as big with those who works a lot to settle in their new country, because they are busy and you don’t see them. But the others are many enough to be very visible, rich guys with all the time in the world, and no apparent source of income…
John or Peter, who use their bicycles to go to their evening jobs in the gas staton or supermarket, don’t stand a chance against these Don Juans.

The girls go to them because they feel appreciated without realizing that they are just used, until they are already hurt.
Most of th girls are dumped when it is time to settle, because then it is all about virgin-Jasmine-with-the-veil.

And if the girl is not dumped, most such marriages end up bad because of the reasons you brought up.

il apoligise for the amount of times ‘I’ was used in my replies lol

it is true that most guys who have the most difficulties trusting their girlfriends are cheaters themselves. so it shows them acting that way is the give a away of their insecurities. (can apply to women too)

i exaggerate my own difficulties? ok if i do i certainly haven’t realised! lol

i guess its true, i do presume people are confident when its not always the case.

i at times feel looked down upon by some foreign guys who come from places where women are second class citezens. they treat me the same how they treat women there. like im their possession and non human. that does make me feel inferior at times.

but how do u cope with these sort of things?

ya, im hangin out with them both at sheas holiday place thingy in Phuket :)
is funnnnnnnnnnn

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
not quite the first, im sitting in a pool with sully and fourthings, but youre the first on help!!!!
thankies!!!!
*huggles and wuffles*

=) Thanks for all the help, really! And ty for the friend add, too :P

its true, we generally have to fix our own problems, sometimes its nice to think someone would come and help though lol
managers job eye? that is quite big actually. i think its nice to have someone to settle down with. i do find it bizarre that loads of girls around me have a partner but that doesn’t mean to say they’re happy. one of my friends boyfriend one time kept putting his hand on my leg intentionally and my others friends ex boyfriend used to not let her out because he didn’t trust her.
so i guess im more fussy as wudn’t choose guys like that, it takes a lot for me to trust someone.
i hope u have a good day

did u mean i feel less than someone else when i wrote poetry etc?
im seeing a counsellor specialised to help those with aspergers syndrome, shes on holiday atm so i guess shes trying to make the most of this summer!
i think u shud find someone to settle down with. im sure ud make some1 very happy! lol

thanks for talking
florence

Sooooo true, I almost did that earlier :P Noticed in time though, luckily!

And besides, I only found this site yesterday, so I wouldn’t expect a shout at all :P

Oooooooh I see what you mean =) Thanks!

i think nobody wants to be lonely.
sorry can’t say much. its 20 past midnight and i keep havig to correct spelling mistakes lol

yeah the asia thing is good.
hope u have a good weekend :)
what u mean fairly good?

im ok, sponsored a girl in asia and should be receiving information about her soon.
starting uni on 15th.
how about u

I’m not big on rules Molotok but I am big on preserving integrity. Fact is - to change a post (as you rightly pointed out) by even one single word can not only invalidate the replies but make the poster and the respondents look like they are answering a totally different question. My suggestion would be that a post cannot be edited by other users after replies have been received. By that time the post has a theme and if it has triggered responses then it doesn’t need editing - people have ‘got’ the message. Of course there will always be the odd post that slips through the net but, quite frankly, that’s why there are Mods. I wasnt out to prove a point today - but if it had been my post I’d have been furious lol - Mas

mwahaha thanks!
i shouted soph to say sorry and i hope it was ok, but fuck that pissed me off.
mas1 is turning out to be…well, enough said.
dont worry about not having any time, neither do i!
i mean, lazing on the beaches here and swimming and shopping takes up sooooo much time ;)
*huggles!*

I have never heard of that program, Moto. If I come across it, though, I will give you a shout.

Hey!
I have NO idea why that reply had to be moderated, but it looks like someone else already approved it =]

:) Hey Molotok! :)

I’ve been forgiven, so thank goodness for that at least. :)

Well, I have sent her an apology, I am waiting to hear if she forgives me. Oh sod it I need a beer.

Thanks very much though molotok. I will friend you, if you don’t mind having a blithering idiot on your list. ;)

Yeah, it does. And guess what? That shout I sent to you - I sent it to Spirited Sould by mistake. F*UCK, way to make things worse. I am a complete idiot. Bugger it. I will just have to apologise big time to her.

Hi. I have had a quick peek at Spirited Souls post, but too many answers to read them all. She is a lovely person. She has quite severe Aspergers syndrome from what I can gether, just wanted you to know. I love her to bits, and she does get very down about it at times. Thanks for helping her.

Yay!!
Hope all is well with you =]

I have now put the post up.

Thank you molotok.

There is something special or a particular reason.
I have been told I am grown up and to sort it out myself.
That is an invitation I cant refuse.
Anything more you will have to wait for.

distancing

Hi molotok.

Later today, you will be able to see my last post on here.
That should help to explain things. Sorry if any part of what I have done is upsetting.
I am distncing myself as much as I can from the website and leaving help.com.

hi , i just finished cleaning the flate , waiting for some guests to visit us .

I will be too busy today . thanks for the text but i have no credit left to text you back :)

hi , why you are not on skype ?

Accepted, with pleasure!

Wow, that’s a great outlook in life.
:s
I hope you feel better now!

Hey, Molotok!

I just noticed your shout…(I promise I wasn’t ignoring you!) Thanks for the encouragement, and thanks for what you add to help.com. I have to admit that I’m not on very often, but I have noticed and appreciated the wisdom that you have to share. Keep up the good work!

heya :)
no im not back home yet, im still in the northern part of thailand and have 4 more weeks!!
just jumped on the internet and came to check up on the place, make sure it hadnt had a nuclear meltdown or summin ;)

Cool Mo…let me know!

Mo, no problem my friend…glad you are doing good! Having fun here…take care!

hi have a nice weekend

moloooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Hey Molotok. I saw your comment on Florie’s post. I just want to clarify that my post about McCain and Viagra was more about him supporting insurance companies paying for Viagra, but he refused to support them paying for birth control. Yes, I made joke about it, but there was suppose to be a serious message in my post.

I was on the phone with my sister just a couple of minutes ago.

He called but I was unavailable, so he left a message. I didn’t have any time today to call him back, so I will call him tomorrow.

oh, but Ames is not a girl … is he?????

maybe it was a little unfair, but it’s probably true (actually I hate to even think about it)

:)

LOL! So I have noticed! Wow! Misinformation leads to lots of silly and quick assumptions with no strong basis to support their beliefs or what they consider facts. Some people really need to read up on the candidates from intelligent resources …not from some of the garbage media or gossipy sources many of us feed into. Wow! I think more people abroad, like yourself, know more about our candidates than we do! :)) Unbelievable most people are concerned with what they believe is Obama’s religion! Obama is not hiding anything. I feel he is right out there in all honesty for all to see. True - I also think many politicians are difficult to trust, but out of the two candidates I feel Obama is the one who uses his brain power - and not just the primitive thinking part of it. LOL!

I loved you last message on the post! I was cracking up! :))

Glad you were able to come to a decision on the job. I think you ultimately really know what is best for you. I always try to keep in mind change is a good thing …we always learn something from it for better or for worse! I like to try and see the positive in it …if I can convince myself so!

Yeah! Airplanes are no fun. I will be on one next month! :)) Got to get prepared with some good rest and vitamins. LOL! If that actually works?

Ooo! I will take a look! Florie asked me to come to this post… but if you said what needed to be said, then I may have nothing to add! :D