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As I have noticed your *dont give a crap opinion*…if you don’t care, why post, why come back? She’s not a grown up either living on her own. It is up to her what she decides to do she knows her family best.
Question is… why do you insist she says nothing…and repeating yourself a ranting drone of don’t tell, don’t tell…that’s your opinion and fine but, is it your post? Why is it so upsetting to you that everyone does not take your position and agree with you…make your own post and we can discuss your issue.

Yep Felicity is right sweetie grab any phone…I’m sure your dad won’t mind you phoning collect if you need to either. Also see if he can set up email or something can use your computer to email him too…not sure about calls with the computer you can do it but im not sure how, maybe someone familiar with that could post for you.

Noone is stupid and everyone is smart in different ways. You are interested in social issues so look for a guy that shares that interest.
Think of it this way, room full of fun loving people think your boring standing in the corner debating the latest news bulletin. A talented musician in the room thinks your drab and unskilled because you can’t play any musical instrument to his standards if at all. A doctor in the room thinks everyone is a waste of time because they can’t save lives.
Everyone has a skill that their good at and that they are valued for. Devaluing a person because they don’t share the same skill as ourselves is very sad.
Doc your wife has the skill to make you laugh and make you happy. That’s a rare and valuable skill and one of the most prized ever. To make people happy is a skill more in this world should have, bless her.
Just a thought but…if you only look for people who share the exact same interests as yourself…isn’t that kind of boring? If I make new curtains for the house does that mean I can’t love my sweetie unless he’s a seamstress and makes matching bed linens? Step outside the box and find someone you just love, appreciate them for everything they are, not devalue them for what their not.

She wasn’t bored, she was lonely and reaching out for attention. Her parents should be looking over her shoulder and talking to her and paying attention to her and making her feel less alone. In a month if nothings said, those feelings crop back up and she thinks *oh nothing happened that’s silly was perfectly safe* and she starts passing out photos again. Then what happens what something bad happens. We watch her parents on the news asking if anyone has seen her and thier saying they had her computer checked and she’d been giving out her photos online, their crying, she’s vanished and we think *why didn’t that kid tell her parents what she was doing?*. Hindsight is always 20/20 but it’s also always too late.
Having her parents deal with how she feels and helping her might be a *nuisance* but thats what parents are for and to error on the side of caution when it involves a kids life is hardly a bother to anyone.

Everything is harder to do than say, especially the important things. Thats what make those things special is because we fought so hard to have them…peace of mind is one of those.
When you find true love, you’ll know. You won’t be terrified it’ll end or jealous thinking he’s cheating…you’ll know he loves just you and is going nowhere. People in relationships that are terrified it’s going to end think that because deep down a little voice is screaming at them that it will end because it wasn’t meant to be. How would you feel if your soul mate, true love came along and you missed him because you were in a relationship that you were working so hard to keep you lost sight of real love. Relationships do take work and people work at them because they truly love the person there with…despite the toilet seat left up, and their dirty socks on the floor and their bad morning breath. Love isn’t a t.v. fantasy and it isn’t perfect but you will enjoy every minute of it :)
Here’s to your future wedding day when you clink glasses look into his eyes and think…leave the toilet seat up one more time and my mother’s moving in with us lol

First if i were you…if your out on bail, remind the children you love them and will never stop and you think about them every second your apart. Explain you were with friends they did something bad and you got blamed too since you were with them but you did nothing.
Then find a trusted friend or relative that can care for them in case of the worst happening. Always prepare for the worst, that way your never disappointed but hope and pray for the best. Start going to church if you already don’t. You need the community support and faith to see you through this.
Then acquaint yourself with all the services available to you from social services, good people who do not scam the system are rarely aware of All the services available. Tax money goes to those programs to help families in need, thats what it’s there for. socialservices.org/Arizona/
Now carry a photo of your kids and when you look at it don’t feel sad, look at them and remember they are your strength, not a weakness. Show them how tough their Mom is and that she will fight to protect her family. Show them you don’t lose hope and they make you happy and give you strength. Hugs are always good too :)
My prayers are with you and your children that this is cleared up and you are free and your family finds peace and happiness in the very near future. Keep me posted and I hope everything works out..

Time to park her irresponsible little butt on a couch and have a serious chat. Good times seem fun but from an older perspective…she just got used and kicked aside as they moved on to greener fields. And now no protection…ok that makes it russian roulette used and kicked aside. Seems like she’s looking for love and acceptance in all the wrong places…remind her she needs to love herself before anyone else truly will.
If she doesn’t seem to take you serious or listen…go to a local funeral home grab some brochures and tell her to pick the coffin she wants to be buried in. As her best friend it might fall to you later to chose and you’d like her imput for her last wishes. Nothing says dead faster than self destruction…and it’s permanent she won’t have to worry about moving on to a new guy then.

First phone her back say *could you please have (his name) stop texting me and contacting me begging for me to take him back. I find it bothersome and I’m extremely busy, ty…then hang up.
Don’t respond to his contacting you, he’s a toad…not enough kisses to turn that one into a prince. He had his chance and he blew it big time, it’s over. Move on, so many great guys out there looking for a nice girl….don’t waste your precious time on trash…consider it at the curb and the garbage truck is pullin up.
That being said…good luck sweetie and have a great time looking for Mr. Right, he’s out there just waiting for you :)

Amen :)

Yeah guys are studs and girls are who’s….it’s the law of the jungle sweetie. Be glad your rid of the knuckle dragger…let’s face it, if they didn’t keep him he wasn’t much good at it anyways :)
Most guys do grow out of that thinking in their 20’s tho… it’s a left over from their parents/grandparents fifties logic. Find a guy who has a brain that functions in this century and date him. Most guys only think like that now because their afraid of not *measuring up* as it were. I mean if you’ve never seen what another guy has then you won’t know that one is *short* of :P
You have guy friends that talk like that? Well next christmas break the bank and buy the knuckle draggers some razors for their knuckles and backs. Next time keep your past to yourself, it’s none of their business anyways….before you met them has nothing to do with them and it also betrays the confidence of the guys you dated before.
Good luck for future dates sweetie…remember, date within your species and evolutionary scale :)

Why play a game if your going to just cheat? Yes, you cheated got caught and were banned. Lesson learned you now have more time to learn some self respect and respect for others…can’t play fair, then don’t play.
Look around at some other postings and see where yours stacks against some real problems… time to grow up maybe.

Sweetie your only 18…to me your a kid, not a chance your life is over, its barely even begun. You have so much to look forward to and you’ve been through so much, stop being so gard on yourself. You have strength of character to work at fixing your life…you stop taking drugs and you go to rehab and stay clean…that’s amazing and gratz! to you for being so smart and brave.
There will always be creeps to take advantage of children and your not the first to be a victim of them. But now you know what type to stay away from and to choose the people in your life with greater care. Everything that happens to us in life is a lesson learned, I’m sorry you had to learn so much the hard way and at such a young age. But from now on things will only get better.
As for who you love…not enough love in this world as it is so being gay is not a bad thing. Your parents love you and they will accept it when your ready to tell them.
I think your parents are trying to cover their head in the sand by not getting you medical care when you ask for it tho. They’ve seen you go through so much already they don’t want or are too afraid to admit you might still need help…unfortunate. Try sitting them down and explaining how you feel and asking again. Or try asking the people at rehab for help getting some medical care.
Not sure the details about the legal issues but…that will not last a lifetime. Your future is all ahead of you, work hard for what you want and enjoy it when it comes to you.

Sorry sweetie this sad stuff has happened to you and your family. I admit i was thinking gay as well. But I was just wondering…was there another reason he married you besides love? Your family money, his family wanted him married for grandchildren, he married you because his friends/colleagues thought he was gay, another reason maybe?

I’d say they were getting middle aged and trying to regain some lost youth and trying to feel younger being naughty and flirty. But in the meantime their hurting the people that care about them the most and making fools of themselves in the process. One thing to joke around and be playful with an old friend but they’ve crossed the line into hurtful and inconsiderate.
Time to remind your wife, she’s your wife and she’s hurting you and making a fool of herself. Remind her by 57 it’s time she grew up and acted her age. This is the stuff teenagers do for attenton. Sounds like she has no reason to be lacking for affection or love at home so there’s no excuse for this behaviour. Thinking of the wonderful ladies out there at that age who are all alone and looking for a wonderful man like you…she best think twice about her behaviour.

OMG you bought an actual island..I am so jealous :)
But maybe something as subtle as signs…
*CAUTION *
UNEXPLODED WORLD WAR II ORDINANCE SCATTERED THROUGHOUT THE AREA
Any deaths or maming due to land mine explosions are not the responsibility of the land owner…enter at your own risk…(little pic of maiming or explosion for effect)

Nothing says piss off like the threat of a ripped or blown off limb :)

If this is the worst of your worries…count your blessings. Check out some posts on here, maybe your wealthy could benefit some very terrified families begging for help…children that need someone to save them…Now these are problems.