Well, I can see how you wouldn’t want to deal with someone who mistreats you, but also I think this whole tough-girl personality that could mistreat people is a “growing up”, it’s a set of attitudes she started to grow to shield the sensitive and shy person underneath. Kind of like your armored avatar!
Anyway nobody said anything bad about you, I was noticing other dramatic things, like someone shooting up a movie theater in Aurora.
Breakups are hard on everyone involved… she was back a month ago, on a three week break from job corps, and miserable after having just broken up with someone. I was assuming that was someone I don’t know anything about.
For what it’s worth, what I remember about what she said a year ago was that she basically wasn’t at all ready for as serious a dedicated relationship as you were. Like she couldn’t handle you thinking the world of her so much… so then it seems logical that she’d be insulting or mean to make you like her less.
I don’t know, we’re all imperfect, but it usually seems worth trying to behave in virtuous ways that helps more than harms.