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Better than I deserve to be. You?

Send me an email. I am not visiting this site as I did before.

hi cupcake, it’s me B. I actually lost your email. Mine is beatricegalanta a t y ahoo dot c o m. I wonder if any moderators will delete it. Write when you can.

Will ask her to write!

She spent a lot of money to “import” me! ;-)

And since she’s responsible for me financially for 10 years, she sent me to Afghanistan where I couldn’t get into too much trouble!

Naw . . . but will ask her to contact you right away!

Take care of yourself!

see if you can email me . . . looks like they took that option away on this site!

Ir Adler will be back . . .

In the meantime, make sure I can email you and I will send you her email address!

She can tell you all about the proper care and feeding of Americans! ;-)

P.S. I know that there’s at least ONE other Canadian who doesn’t think we are all rabid warmongers! ;-)

Please be safe.

I with you and B the best. I wish i could find her here to send her well wishes and all, but can’t seem to.

He is not going to we reciently sighed the separatiopn papers…. we are kind to one another… but the there had beem many ugly things i learnt about him.

Be safe, I know you are smart and knowledgeable.

We had a suicide bombing at the Ministry, where I am headed in just a few minutes!

Know what you mean about loneliness. Living in a matchbox here with a roommate and no privacy–but still incredible loneliness. Can’t Skype with my wife as much as before because roommate is in bed by 7 p.m.! Old guy!

I was hoping–and still kind of am–that your husband will wake up and realize that his ignoring you has been a huge mistake!

Oh, it’s not too hard, kid!

He can stay in Canada up to six months without a visa.

I think you can stay a similar period in the States.

You must be careful, though . . . those Americans have a secret plan to infiltrate Canadian society and take it over! ;-)

No idea when you will come by here. But just thought I’d say hello and I hope you’ve been pampering yourself. Take care.

Hope you’re fine cupcake… Take care.

Hello. I haven’t heard from you in a while, and am wondering how you are.
Hope you’re doing well. :)
- Alison

You’re going through a tough time.

Be sure you don’t do anything hasty. Just try to relax and get in touch with yourself.

Making rational decisions about your relationship is most difficult right now, so proceed very, very slowly!

What do you like to do? Is there something enjoyable for you to do there? Can you get away for a week to visit some place there you’ve never been before?

How are you doing?

I’m in Afghanistan!

Still alive! ;-)

Thanks for the invite cupcake. I don’t have much advice to offer her. Though I too live far from home. Hope she’ll be fine. The ingredients in her situation are complex for me to comment on. The attachments and lifestyle don’t support her moving back. And I don’t want to say stuff to disrupt anything.

Hope you’re fine…

HI Cupcake, I am worried about you. Praying for you.
I am heading to church now and be back tomorrow.

Yes, take it slow . . . and it seemed to me that our daughter got free counseling at some clinic . . . don’t know if that applies to couples.

Yes, go slow. No lawyers . . . not for a long time, if ever.

Think your husband would suffer a grievous losss if he lost you!

Thanks for your prayers . . . going to where our teammate was nearly killed four months ago.

I guess ti is better that you do have support. (Many probably only have this site to come to…)

Take care.

And don’t believe every thought that comes to your mind. particularly a condemning thought. No matter how ‘true’ it sounds. They are not from God. Never.

Take care.

Nice name you chose. Every calls you cupcake…

Hey cupcake.

I’m good. Thank you.

How have you been?

:-)

Awwww, kid! I’m so sorry things were not working out . . . but it may not be too late.

Just don’t be too hasty . . . take your time to consider everything. And remember that your mind and his mind are “trainwrecks” at this time . . . so don’t do anything rash or impulsive!

Going on a dangerous mission close to the border on Tuesday . . . wish me luck!

Will pray for you. I’m rooting for you, kid!

In the meantime, just try to relax . . . and don’t let anybody “take advantage” of what you’re going through now!

Thanks cupcake. I am not visiting this site often. I am thinking about you too. Did you go to the councelling session or you decided to go ahead with the divorce?

Hey cupcake. Thanks for the invite to the ‘What Makes You Happy?’ post.

I bumped into a nice site http://anaflavia.tumblr.com/

Good photos. Take care.

You’re welcome. Good people who make mistakes feel horrible and trapped. You’re moving yourself away from that though, as painful as it is.

Your future potential is unlimited. I know it will work out.

Not well. You can imagine. Thank you for asking and for thinking about me.

Song recommendation of the day: Jason Gray - Remind Me Who I Am

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKyY8z…

I trust you’ll like it…

How have you been cupcake? (You can ignore the question if it get monotonous…)

Thinking of you Hope you are doing OK

Ha ha… Nice.

I’m good - on and off. Thanks.

Take care.

First marriage: five years and a four-year-old son. She wanted to leave in order to “find herself.” She was really seeing a man 22 years her senior. She broke up the family to be with him. Our son stayed with me. Later she tried to get him so she and her new guy could live off the child support. She lost. Yes, it can be very tough!

Yet even as we are being sold down the river, we have to maintain our personal honour. When you are being hurt, it is so hard not to hurt back. It is so hard not to find solace in another’s arms until your current relationship is resolved.

Traveling the world? Ah, yes. Ralph Waldo Emerson said that traveling could easily become a “fool’s paradise.” I’ve traveled the world. Some of it was good, some was bad.

Don’t want to go, but must. Cannot continue to be a drain on my uncomplaining wife.

A pox on his family! Sounds like, though, he thought you were the better deal!

Suggest counseling to identify and resolve the problems. The two main causes of divorce: money problems and people’s own insecurities!

See what you can do. Don’t throw in the towel without counseling. I believe he has a number of insecurities that are holding him back.

I think he is lucky to have someone like you!

That’s just part of it. Thanks for the hugs. Hugs to you too.

Hi Cupcake,

I liked this blog I read from a blogger. (I got to his page from Mary Kathryn’s)

http://seeprestonblog.com/2011/06/to-…

How are you?

Take care…

Well, Cupcake, it looks like I’ll be gone by mid-May . . . to Afghanistan. I’ll be getting their military into shape. Of course, the Afghan military is heavily infiltrated by the Taliban, and they’ve been shooting their mentors and trainers a lot lately. But after 16 months of fruitless searching, how am I going to turn down something that pays nearly $200k per year?

I’ve also come to the conclusion that nothing is more important than personal honor. We have to do the right thing. There will be a final accounting for our actions. I am doing this for my family, and for my own personal honor. I have to be contributing. For a man, he must work in order to have self-esteem.

We had a lesson from Mark Chapter 10 in a Bible study class Wednesday night. The chapter contained Jesus’ words on divorce. Divorce is most abhorrent in God’s eyes. It means that we give up on another human being, while at the same time we don’t want God giving up on us. We are asking God, in most cases, to forgive us for things we are not willing to forgive. Marriage is supposed to be like God’s relationship to the Church. We may falter, but we don’t want God giving up on us.

I know that my marriage will survive this, as it survived another stint in the Middle East. Know what? One of my female team members said that I and another guy were the only ones who didn’t cheat on their wives while over there. We constantly had young Filipino girls coming on to us. I’d see 70-year-old guys with 20-year-old Filipino girls. The temptations were there, but I knew that I could not betray my wife’s love or the commitments I had made to God. A few moments of physical pleasure could in no way compensate for the guilt and pain of betraying one’s personal honour. And those Filipino girls were so naive . . . they really were looking for an older person whom they felt they could love, and who would also support their families back in the Philippines.

I know I could get whacked over there this time, Cupcake, and I pray that won’t happen. But I have to do it. I have obligations to God, to my family, and to myself. In the final analysis, what really matters is how we conducted ourselves during our short lifespans on this earth. Did we honour our God, our families, and ourselves? Nothing else really matters. Nothing.

Take care of yourself and write back soon . . . I want to know how you are doing!

Thanks cupcake. Same here. Thank you for thinking of me.

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Bless your heart, kid!

I would assume that he’s still deeply immersed in his studies and other “routines.”

I applaud you, however, for not seeking solace outside the marriage. And I applaud you for seeking to solve the problems inherent in the marriage.

You need to make an appointment for both of you to attend couples counseling. Tell hubby that your marriage is worth that effort. Let him know that you don’t feel you are really part of his life, but that you love him and want to be the couple that you once WERE.

Are you both still in the same bedroom now?

Thank you cupcake you just made my day. You are too.

Sorry, I cant say I recognize your name or know what differences youre referring to, but thanks for the kind words :)

Thanks cupcake I appreciate it. Sending it back to you :)

Thank you again cupcake. One day….

Hurry for you! I applaud you!

You did the right thing!

You will have to tell me more about the 180 thing, but you have just passed a big milestone!

And you’ve found happy! ;-)

Hey cupcake,

I trust you are doing great. I was looking for some lyrics (Amber Brooks’ songs) and I stumbled on to a blog. I was quite impressed by her. So, I’m sharing with you too. As I’ve shared with FlutterBy too.

http://marykathryntyson.wordpress.com…

I have personally gone through some rather dark moments, and had backslidden. Since I did get some forgiveness back despite what I did, I think her blog connected a lot more.

Hope your interview went well.

Yep–definitely finding the side of Canada that I love, and that loves me back!

Now, tell me about how you are doing!

Thank you cupcake. You made my day. One day I will tell you all and especially you, will understand. Right now I can’t talk about it because it is very deep. One day.

Great! :-)

I’m doing good. Sometimes not, but I manage to keep afloat. :-)

Take care…

Close to a job in CA, I think! Became a member of the Craft! Getting to know the Canucks a lot better. You’re actually a pretty decent lot! ;-)

How are things with you?

Hello cupcake. I’m good thanks! Enjoying a big box of maltesers - ssssh… don’t tell my fitness guru ;)

Hey cupcake. How are you? I haven’t been able to say hello to you in a long long time…

Hope all’s well. I see some shouts here indicating you’re giving stiff competition to some ‘jealous female interviewer’. Heh. Sounds cute. (No, I didn’t click the shout trail to read more.)

Take care.

Had one great interview! Think I’m in the “final running”! Waiting for the next step!

Wish me luck! ;-)

It was postponed until tomorrow at 2:30 p.m.! Everything with which I’m involved seems to be affected with all kinds of delays!

Will let you know how it goes! Thanks!