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Qzzzz: you’re a sneaky meanie! Awesome–shows even as a kid you used your mind over brawn.
Good story. Thanx for sharing.
blessings.

Happy Birthday I lovesfoxes! God bless your coming year with wonderful surprises and gifts.
The biggest surprise may be for you to look back one year from now and discover who you have come to be!
Sometimes it’s good to climb a tall mountain–then look back down to the valley and see where you have come from. Makes for ‘tall’ people with grateful hearts–generous hearts.

As others have helped you, now is the time to turn and extend your hand to others behind you who aren’t so strong. You will be blessed.

My prayer is that you will live until you die. Life is not always easy–but life is a gift. One can unwrap it and simply toss it away uncaringly; or one can open one’s gift oflife one day at a time and give thanks for the opportunity to give into it and receive from it as well.
Life is full of pain and deep valleys; however, my experience is that God promises to be with us in all circumstances and conditions and to give us His strength to now just endure but to OVERCOME adversity–even death.

I, too, messed up totally and incredibly–not just once but several times. I recall looking at a medicine chest and wondering what would happen if I ingested everything in it–I thought I had hit the end, just like you. However, there was a thought that followed that one–NOTHING is worth my life. I left that situation immediately and began to mop-up the damages and start all over again. That mop-up operation took over fifteen years and I’m still growing. And I’m glad to be alive! I intend to ‘live until I die’ to the utmost of my ability with God’s help and grace.

There are earthly consequences to all our actions–but God always welcomes us–loves on us–never turns us away. He comforts, strengthens and walks through our messes! And we learn as He teaches us better ways. No one said it would be easy! I encourage you to keep on trekking.
The battle for your LIFE begins in your mind. Garbage in–garbage out! If you spent as much time thinking about how to change your ‘mess’ for the better you will find change will happen.

LIFE has been for aeons–is it not stronger than you or I? Do you really think ending your physical life here will end it for you? What if this journey is simply a beginning?! You might well get to the other side and find out you will need to overcome what it is you are refusing to face even here NOW.

The Lord says “draw near to me and I will draw near to you”. If you cry out to God sincerely, you will be found by Him. He’s just waiting!
He loves you with an everlasting love! He will never leave, forsake, nor abandon you–people will always fail us (not that we want to hurt one another but we are human and fallible and broken to start with). God never will!

God bless you, brother. Reach out and find someone else who needs a friend–be that friend and your crisis just might dissolve.

You are a gift–a blessing!

Hi Qzzzz: I’m one of those people who didn’t realize you had been missing from Help.com–I’ve been missing in action as well.
Hope you are having a great summer. Once in a while I look over the 2000+ questions and mostly haven’t felt ‘moved’ to reply to any of them. Time is a priority. I just attended two festivals–once a gospel music fest and the other a secular festival. The latter was a five-day camp-out amidst the wilderness glory, winds and bugs. The blackflies, mosquitoes and gnats flourished on the feeding from me last year; however, they didn’t do quite as well this year. But they do test one’s patience a tad!

If someone had told me five years ago I would be living in a tiny community of 450 to 600 people I would have laughed. But I think the old addage goes “he who laughs last laughs longest”. I’m prepared! Haven’t seen any wooden nickels up here. In Canada we have one dollar bills in coin
called “Loonies” and a gold-colored coin worth $2.00 called, of course, a ‘twoonie’. Only in
Canada! But NO wooden nickels.

Bless you, brother. Love to hear from you sometime.

Yes! It is absolutely fabulous! I live in British Columbia. Drumheller is an amazing location. The landscape/geography is like nothing I’ve seen anywhere else in Canada–the reptile museum is fascinating.
There is a world map of all the different plates moving under the earth! showing the previous continent positions before they broke up and began moving. Also where they might end up.
The dinosaur exhibits are fabulous! This is a trip you don’t want to miss.

Our family may just well be the only one that ever complained of being cold in August in Drumheller. It’s a HOT, hot, dry place usually in summer; however the day we arrived and toured the area it was raining cats and dogs and cold and MUDDY.

My kids were up and down all over the strange looking mounds–there are weird looking rock formations called ‘hoo-doos’, or some such strange word–can’t recall.

Hope this helps. I encourage you to go through Drumheller–it’s a most interesting
place.

Whoops, you’re face is RED! I agree with Tapdancer21 above (she always has such good advice!) Now, depending on what your family secret is comprised of is the crux of the problem.
If this secret concerns sexual molestation or some such other yucky, embarrassing details, the real problem is this. Thank the Lord the truth is out in the open and be prepared for the roof to fall on your head!
When the smoke, the dust and debris have all settled, your world will recover.

Family secrets are usually TOXIC–what is brought out into the light looses its hold on people. Freedom is the end result.

Other family secrets like adoption, having babies out of wedlock, etc. can be really embarrassing–but even those stories need to be told eventually. No family should have SECRETS. Life is meant to be lived honestly and openly.

The other important thing you yourself may learn from this–God always looks at the motives of our hearts. Real love always ‘covers’. Perhaps you should have kept quiet simply because you wouldn’t have wanted to be the reason for another person’s harm.

This is a wonderful lesson (a beginning NOT an ending for you–do not despair!) for you to have learned. Never tell a person anything you wouldn’t want repeated!

Also–do unto others as you would have them do unto you!

I’m not ‘preaching’ at you. I’ve made all these same mistakes Over and Over again.
I’ve been a slow learner in my lifetime. Hope you can benefit from hard won wisdom.

God bless you. You will survive this crisis and be wiser (and kinder) for it.

You need to choose new friends, little one! Do it quickly.

With friends like you have, you don’t need enemies.

I heard a wise man say once “It’s better to have NO friends than ‘bad’ friends.

Good luck. Advice–how to find friends? BE one! What you want in life give it away to others.

God bless you!

Hi anonymous! Well, having been through several life demolitions, I offer you encouragement to keep going. You start with yourself.

You haven’t mentioned–is this a marriage collapse–are you pregnant and unmarried?
what disaster has occurred? Have you fallen out of love or have you been left by the one you’ve loved and cared for many years? It would be helpful to know.

For me, I always cried out to God for help, even when I was walking in a way not approved by God. When I hit bottom, I called out for Him to help me, and He always did.
It would be helpful to learn what has happened. However, there are many support groups to help people going through losses, transitions in most smaller towns and cities. Many churches have free counseling services–most pastors are available
24/7 for just such a time as you are going through–even if you are not a Christian.
I am certain if you find a phone book, you will find a pastor or organization that can help meet your needs.

Please give us more information. Many people on Help.com began posting on the site just as you have done. Their worlds had collapsed and they needed help. There is amazing emotional support and reference material available through the posters.
Please ask and receive the blessings people can give you.

Praying for you.

Hi again Tyler’ssweetheart: I have one question for you today–IF you want to die so badly why is it important that anyone of us understand what you feel, believe or want?

Could it be what you are really seeking is attention? As a Mom who suffered the loss of a 23 year old son through his killing himself, I wonder what your purpose is in writing to help.com at all.

No other person can give you the will to live if you have really chosen to kill yourself. Your family will grieve, any friends will feel very badly/guilty for a while they didn’t “KNOW” how badly you were hurting, but they will get over it.
The people who loved you will be very angry and hurt and grieve terribly that you didn’t realize your worth as a human being.

We are human ‘beings’–not human ‘doings’. Tylerssweetheart–your life value IS YOU were created, given life to be a blessing and to bless others. You have a destiny and a hope and a future.

I believe if you really wanted to end your life you would have done it before this. You began this post five months ago. I encourage you to spend as much time and energy in finding a real reason to live–life is not ALL ABOUT YOU. You will grow beyond this ‘mood’ or depression or stage in your life if you allow yourself half a chance at success. If you had sought out counseling five months ago, I’m pretty certain you would be in a totally different ‘head’ and ‘heart’space right now.

Please, do the right thing for your own sake. No one else can find the strength for you to turn and walk in a new and different direction but you yourself. I’m praying, with God’s help, you will do it.

God bless you! He loves you! and He has a wonderful plan for your life. People will always let you down but God won’t ever!

Hi Rob:
Just a quick note to say ‘hi’. Hope you are feeling better. Glad your eye ’scare’ turned out not be be cancer. Boy, that really shakes you up to your core, right? How are you doing? Have you found any employment yet aside from your one day at the church?
Personally, I hope you cleared out of there! But that’s my opinion!

Nice to keep in touch. Busy time up here. A team of people from my church are coming 1,000 miles to a gospel music festival starting June 21st. I am going to be inundated with people from my home town and then they will leave as suddenly as they came! That ’s hard, too. I love my pastor and his wife and friends.

However, the Lord will use them all powerfully as prayer support in First nations ministry outreach in this area. I’m loving it up here in Dease Lake! Still no mosquitoes or blackflies this year! Praise the Lord.

HOpe you are well–imagine you are still living at home with your brother and Mom. Hope she is doing well. Hopefully the good weather will raise her spirits and she’ll be able to get up and out and around again.

Blessings,Rob. Take care!

Well, my preference depends on the mouth and chin of the gentleman sporting said
beard and/or mustache.

I’ve never liked mustaches particularly–they can make a man ‘look like’ a salesman–and not the best kind–kind of sneaky!

Now, a well trimmed beared and moustache is very attractive; however a beard tends to make a man look older than he is–if a fellow has a good clean features and a well-developed chin, good lips, why would he want to cover them up?

That’s my take on it–and yes, I can understand not wanting to shave every day; we gals just have our legs to keep up with and that’s enough!

Blessings.

P.S. Matt–you make a great “johnny Dibbed”!

Hey Lilly: here’s a reply for the father of your new family. You need one person for each baby. Tell him you need another guy to hold the extra child.

Awesome news! Boy, you are going to be one buuusssssy Mom! (and Dad!)

God bless.

Depends on who the chaperone is–otherwise, yes. Boy, got to hand it to you, Quiznos, you’ve got persistance–you’re still working on the concert!
You are either going to get your Mom and Dad absolutely raving mad if you ever mention it again, or you will wear them down eventually with your persistence.

If I were your Mom and Dad, I would want to know this chaperone very well. Why doesn’t one of your parents accompany you and your friend?! I went to rock concerts with my daughter and enjoyed them as much as she did.

Never! you need a life!

Wow! what gorgeous kids you have! Yes, totally normal. However, if he is still doing it past ten or eleven you need to start wearing jeans and flat shoes–train him up in the way he need grow! (just kidding!) Lots of fun at this age, eh?
Blessings!

One day my three year old son walked into my kitchen wearing his underpants, a superman t-shirt, a mickeymouse hat (complete with big ears) on his head, funny sunglasses that make one’s eyes look huge; he had attached a fake beard to his chin and on his feet he was wearing yellow rubber gloves (the kind you scrub the toilet with)–made his feet look long and very strange! Roll on the floor laughing! No telling what they will do or what they are thinking–good thing we don’t know~!