Everyone has ups and downs in one’s life. but you can’t give up. and I don’t know why you can’t trust people anymore, but if you wish you can share your problem here. there are lots of nice people here, who will listen to you and will give you the appropriate suggestions.
I honestly don’t know your situation well and feel that my offered solutions are probably not directly relevant. Like, I’m just talking about emotions, and might have no clue about how to improve your relationships — while it may be that you could just improve your relations with the people somehow.
And I agree that even to the extent that my advice may have been relevant, these things are easier said than done.
Still, if you can come up with simple ideas that seem like the desired state or solution, it’s usually possible to take the steps to get there.
I can understand that what are you going through. but you need to be strong and just think about the positive outcomes of it. See dear, whatever happens, happens for the best and you will have to believe in it.
You know Marie, that’s the problem with human being. They feel stupid when they talk about their feelings, while it’s completely ok and I think one should talk about his/her feelings. God has blessed us with this extraordinary stuff called feelings and we should express it. They is nothing stupid in it. So just be happy and keep smiling. and you know i am there for u :)
Hey, you don’t need to be sorry about anything and for your kind information it was not a small issue. I can understand it was tough for you. But i am proud of you, as you have been strong and took the right decision for you. and sweetheart, I am always there for you, if you every need my advice or help, just let me know if you need me. take care n’ keep smiling :)
ok Marie, so i am off to bed as it’s really night here. i need to go to office morrow, so just keep smiling and take care. and in between, if you wish you can find me in facebook by Jyoti Jwala Jainendram
See Marie, this is a really very big decision, and for this sort of decision, you mind and heart both should be ok with it. but in this it is not with you. so, I don’t think you should take this decision and the most important thing he is not earning, how would he look after you. I will suggest better you concentrate on your career, studies and future, that is more important. You are in a very critical phase of your life, a simple mistake can make you repent whole life. I am not trying to scare you, but showing you the reality. Hope you understand. take care n’ i am 24*7 for you. :)
i can understand your concern Marie and you are very true at it. for a mature relation, you need a mature partner, but he is not trying to grow up. then it will not be a good idea to move in with him. and in between how are you doing now.
I would love to stay with him, but I can’t do so if he’s not going to be responsible. So, I’m still not very sure, but as my selfish personality, I told my mother to not accept this new offer. She’s actually considering, because we just moved and everything. I love him very much, but still surprises me the fact he can not “grow up”. It sometimes sacares me that he might not be able to…
ok. i got your point and i totally agree with you n’ with your concerns. when he is in relationship with you, then it’s not just about him. it’s about you too. That’s ok, he is going to some beach with his friends, but he is planning to extend his stay, atleast he should inform you, as you must be worrying about him becoz you care about him. he may love you, but he is not yet very responsible. it’s still about him not about us. and the most important question, which i asked. what you want you want to stay with him or move out with your parents. and one personal question. I still don’t know your name.
Thank you so much really.
Well he’s doing his best on the relationship, but it’s his actions what gets me so upset. It’s like I want him to change what can not be changed, you know ? I feel like he so unresponsible or maybe I am just a bit too responsible for him. Sometimes I feel horrible by what he does. For example he left to the beach with his friends that’s fine because he said it was only 5 days, I mean whatever he has his own “liberty” which I totally respect but then he is missing for 3 more days. I get worried and call his parents they say he’s staying a bit longer. That’s totally fine with me, but then he misses for 4 more days, his parents don’t know where he is, but I think or at least pretend I’m ok with it about it because he is with his friends. Then he appears on my front door kinda drunk, and sex stinking, trying to convince me to have sex with me. Wtf, really? that’s when I ask myself why on earth did I worry about him. But that’s not what pisses me off, what does, is the fact that he starts a fight on it, and that I’m so selfish about the issue, and whatsoever. I don’t say anything about it because there’s really no point on trying when he drank, but I told him to stay the night. The next day, he apologizes for everything and then everything comes down to me, and I get overwhelmed about it, because I’m somehow jealous about his life, he has to worry about nothing except for his studies, while I have to worry about everything. You see what I mean ? It’s just not really fair. I don’t even want to tell him about me moving until a couple of days before actually moving, if I do, of course.
hey sweetie, first of all, you never bother me. you are a friend and i am always there for you. If my suggestions help you, I will be more than happy. It’s nice to know that your bf has changed himself and he is treating you nice. But now you need to take the decision whether you want to move in with your bf or move out with you parents. the decision would have been easy, if it was question of moving in same country, but as you told that your parents are moving to different country, it’s not that easy. now it’s not me, who will suggest you what to do. Somewhere in your heart, you know what you want to do. Do you think that if you stay here and move in with your bf. he will treat you nice because he will be the only one there, who you can believe. have you talked about all these to your boy friend, what he says about it. before all these i want to you, what you want, then only i can suggest you anything
I am doing good too. See honey, things change gradually. It’s really nice to know that you are improving a lot and you have finally gained some weight. I will say that you are well on course. so just keep it up