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• Someone please.
  

  If you are feeling bad, especially bad enough to think you want to die it is not about being an ‘attention whore’. When you feel that bad it must feel like no one will understand but people do. It may be frightening for your parents to know how bad you feel, but I imagine it is even more frightening for them to wonder when they see you sad and they do see you. Life is sometimes difficult especially when you are in the teen years because of the whole in between thing. I mean as a teenager people expect you to act like an adult yet treat you like a child. Your mind is occupied with the new feelings that come with adulthood but still innocent enough not to understand all of the new feelings. Then you are among kids your age who are going through some of the same trials as you are it may seem very confusing and at times overwhelming. I remember my teen age years and at times when I look back wonder how I survived them. The good news is that as challenging as all of this is you are able to make it through and may be able to create enduring friendships and memories. There are website such as Nationalsuicidepreventionlifeline.org or befrienders.org or even Samaratins.org the last two are email sites and take a few hours to get a response but I have found this format to be very helpful. What I do know is that if you are needing to talk there are people out there willing to listen. Good luck and it you get the chance let me know how you do I would be interested in knowing you are okay or how you have resolved this.
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago

• most surefire way to almost kill oneself?
  

  That would be an interesting paper on the side of controversy. I think it would be helpful if writing on suicide the writer provide statistics on people who die of suicide, and attempts made, and if discussing various means maybe should give statistics on demographics. Just to plain discuss how the best way to die is has nothing to gain for people with thoughts of suicide. It it were to develop a helpful tool I could almost understand otherwise it is just a sick pursuit. While I agree that a university should be allowed to study what it thinks is important to its interests I am just finding it hard to believe that they would want to write on ‘the best way to die by suicide’. Suicide is a sociological problem that is highly preventable when the causes are understood as opposed to the how to. Just my opinion.
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago

• What do you guys think about people who commit suicide?
  

  You raise some interesting questions. As for me I have had suicidal thoughts and or actions at different times throughout my life. I look at it as a choice in that it is neither wrong nor right as those are judgments based on personal feelings of the act itself. I am a quality of life person as opposed to quantity. I would rather live a week in pure happiness than a lifetime of pain or misery. Because depression is often linked to suicide and is a medically treatable condition I think getting the treatment is vital in the decision making process. By getting the medical part cleared up if the person wants to die I think that is clearly their choice. As far as helping a suicidal person asking them questions and listening to them without judgment may actually prevent a suicide in that it allows the person to look at the decision as it is necessary to think of the reasons in order to explain it. This will do one of two things; help them vent and see that they really just want to feel better, or in some circumstances make them solidify their desire to die in this manner. either way in my opinion you are helping them if you are listening honestly. Most of the time they choose to get help to feel better because however you view the afterlife one thing is definite who you are in life is not the same after life. Even if you believe in reincarnation you come back as something/ or someone else. This is something that should be treated with the same amount of concern as any other major life decision. If you or a friend are thinking of suicide I think you should ask yourself what you want out of the act, how it will affect you or others, and if you are willing to take on the consequences of the act itself, just like marriage, whether or not you want children, etc. Life is a journey but so to is death.
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago

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