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Same here! We both need more sleep - and better sleep! That’s the only cure.

Makes sense, though like mindhealer said it was vague in an abstract way. I understand what you’re getting across, but without specific examples it’s a bland sentence.

Listen, thin shouldn’t be the goal. My girl is 165 right now, and she’s 5′1″. But you know what? She’s gorgeous. I love her to pieces. And you know why? Instead of focusing on the weight on the scale, we started to work out a little and get her to eat healthy foods. She’s strong, fit, has a lovely figure - and you know what? She’s not thin as a ramrod. She’s got some fat on her belly, thighs, and face that she absolutely obsessed about. But you know what?

I don’t care about that fat.

She’s healthy, has a beautiful bloom to her cheeks and a sparkle to her eyes. She sways her hips in a way that I’m instantly transfixed. She knows how to hold herself, and she dresses and impresses - and she’s not anywhere near a size 0 (she wears a 14 in pants, for god’s sake). She gets stares from any guy I’ve ever seen her around (and believe me that’s one too freaking many).

And yet, in our society, she’s a short and tubby brunette. If you don’t see her, that is.

Listen, there’s more to beauty than thinness. I know you’ve got disordered thinking right now and you won’t believe me immediately, if you ever do. But I’ve got to tell you this. We had a hard road. She hit 120 at one point and it was terrible. She was skinny and painfully obsessed with her eating habits, so much that I never felt comfortable eating around her. She would highlight calorie counts on boxes of food to help her locate them more quickly. She was ashen and seemed lifeless, except for that fervor about food, food, food, and calories, calories, calories…

But it is possible to turn it around. It is possible to be happy with who you are and what you look like. To be strong and confident, even it you’re not a size 0.

Please hear my words.

Healthiness is the single most attractive feature in a woman. I don’t want a waif, and I don’t know many decent people who would want someone simply because they are skinny. If you can try to maintain your weight, and think about food in terms of being healthy and what will make your body feel good, love, you’ll remain attractive and desirable to the end of your days.

Good job for fighting the fight as you are now. Being EDNOS is incredibly painful, and you have my sympathies. My girlfriend was also diagnosed EDNOS, and it took many years for her to be more happy and to not think about the calorie count of her foods as much as simply how they will make her body actually feel (which took some sustained meditation from both of us) and how much she liked of the taste and such. It took a long time for her to be interested in food not as an obsession, but as a part of living that could be enjoyed. But she’s managed it.

You will too. I’m certain of it. Keep fighting, and have some hummus!

If he gives a good haircut and you like the service, it’s a great tip.

If you feel yourself about to crash, take a very short nap - very short, like 20 minutes. You’ll feel somewhat more alert for it. Don’t operate a vehicle if you can help it though.

Yeah, it’s a decent tip. Why? Just checking? :O

tell him to go see a doctor. If he says he’s gonna hurt himself, call 911.

Big brain and no boobs

But really, a girl who isn’t really self-conscious, who is hygienic, who’s funny and likes to laugh and isn’t a total brat. Being smart is a nice perk. I personally don’t really like girls who are really into their image, and constantly are looking at themselves like “I’m so fat in my arms!” or “My nose is crooked!” Look, chika’s, as long as you are clean, wear nice clothing that neither hides nor clings to your body (ie, fits well), and have a smile on, that’s way more attractive than anything. You guys pay way too much attention to tiny flaws and don’t notice the full picture like guys do.

Anyone??