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• How to get free sprint hotspot on an htc evo shift ? posted (1 year, 11 months) ago
  I have the htc evo shift and I wanted to get my hotspot working without paying the extra $30 a mon…

• My boyfriend never thinks he’s wrong! posted (1 year, 12 months) ago
  What do I do when my boyfriend always thinks he’s right? Whenever I feel like he’s w…

• I feel guilty and I hate myself for what I’ve done, and how I hurt the man I love. posted (2 years) ago
  I hurt my boyfriend and everyday since I’ve been hating myself more and more. Sometimes I wa…

• I have hurt my boyfriend in the past and now I don’t even recognize who he is anymore. posted (2 years) ago
  I cry onto him, and no one is in sight. He rather go out without me, and although I don’t be…

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• Why does my boyfriend think I play victim when im hurting and need him?
  

  [quote x_glitter]Then spit all of that out! Retaliation does nada. I’ve also been through that & because of the scars on my wrist & neck, i’ve also been called those names during our worst times by my love. You need to let this out. Either he loves you, or he doesn’t. You’re hurt, he’s hurt. What sense does it make to beat each other down?
  
  YOu regret it, which shows you are fully aware of your doings. You are ready to fix things. He on the other hand is not & even if someone is hurt, if you still love them, you can’t just go destroying things more…
  
  Ask him if he loves you. If he wants to keep you. Because to be honest from my angle, he seems too hurt & angry to hold on right now :/ sorry…[/quote]
  
  
  I feel like that too. I know he says he needs time, but his actions and words always show me that he will never get over it and will never forgive me. At the same time I feel like he doesn’t love me, I also feel like he does loves me, why else would he still have me living with him? But the same time maybe he jus feels sorry for me.
  
  I don’t want to beat him down but I also don’t want him to beat me down. I jus want to work together to get over this phase, but what do I do to make him see that?
  
  When I asked him if he loves me, he says what kinda question is that? And another argument starts. He says its a stupid question.. he doesn’t take a moment to see my side cus he only cares about how he feels. When I was crying last night, I starting yelling why don’t u see I’m really hurt and I’m in pain. Why don’t u care bout my heart? Then he jus sits there and pushes me saying did u care when u put a d*** in ur p****. Then he starts singing six foot, seven foot (because that was the song in the video from the day I was with my ex in the same car.)
  
  And he left and I stayed up all night crying
  - written 2 years ago

• I feel guilty and I hate myself for what I’ve done, and how I hurt the man I love.
  

  [quote rosababy]What had you done?
  I think you want some sporting.Relax……
  Boyfriend isn’t everything,i think[/quote]
  
  I cheated on him in november. And then in march, I was hangin out wit my friend and my ex happened to be there and I never told my boyfriend about it. Until he saw a video of us all in the car so he assumes I cheated again but it wasn’t even my fault my ex was there. But I understand where he comes from because I never even told him, he found out on his own. he was my fiance before all this happen. I’m not even sure if he still wants to marry me. And he does mean everything to me.
  - written 2 years ago

• Why does my boyfriend think I play victim when im hurting and need him?
  

  [quote x_glitter]You never know, actually. See, a similar situation happened to me. I didn’t cheat, but because of holding my anger back 90% of the time, I tend to say the most hurtful & stupid thing at the wrong time when I don’t even mean it. I won’t type what I said word for word, but it made my boyfriend believe that I was attracted to someone else. NO WAIT. I was with someone else while I wasn’t in school (which has been… for a lot of days, lol). He lost a lot of trust in me. Love. I spent hours crying on the phone trying to eget him to see that it’s because I never forgot the break up we had & the hurtful things he said to be (still hurts & still makes me afraid of sex). When I remember what he said, even in the most passionate times, all I wanna do is yell, kick & scream. Crying did not change his mind, though. I was the first real relationship he had. & the first virgin. & the first one to be looked at as “wife material”, oh so he said. I gave him space as he requested. He loved me still. He was just a bit iffy about getting intimate. Out of nowhere, he told me that he believed me, & that i deserve a 2nd chance. Total shocker. I still don’t think I deserved that. But he told me the good we have, the good in me is way more than the bad in me. & that instead, we should work on trust issues because if I’m still hurt over words, I need to work on believing his reassurance & easing myself instead of yelling hurtful words. & he needed to work on his reassurance & neglect. We both love each other the same. We both see each other as more than just a couple. We go through arguments less & we trust each other more now :).
  
  I know it hurts to think of him leaving you behind, but you can’t keep him there just because you love him if he doesn’t feel the same. It wouldn’t be a real relationship & he would keep you there out of pity & maybe even eventually develope feelings for someone else while being with you but not having that love connection. Personally, I’d find that way more of a butthurt, witnessing his new love connection, then cutting the tie.
  
  If he still wants to keep you, suggest things that can mend the relationship. Be honest with each other, no matter how blunt it is- appreciate it cause it always hurts to be lied to no matter what. Respect each other. Don’t just yell back when you have disagreements but try to calm down & talk. THAT is really hard, but I think the reason why guy’s don’t really listen to us women is because we tend to yell at them when it’s unnecessary, making them envision us as naggy mothers. Tell him what you appreciate & why. Give him space but in return, ask him if he can at least come back earlier. Things like that.
  
  If he doesn’t wanna come back or retaliates out of anger, you need to just move on. It hurts, yes. But it just won’t be stable at all. & next time you get tempted, remember what you have. Would you rather be close to someone who ALREADY loves you, or someone you hardly know & could drop you in a second? Turn away when temptation is close. It’s not worth it.
  SORRY FOR THE ESSAY![/quote]
  
  
  I actually really appreciated the essay lol. It was really good and it really got me thinkin. I know he has said similar things but its very different when someone else says it without actually calling you names and trying to hurt you with their words. I would never cheat on him again. I did it once in november and its been eating away on me ever since. I hate myself everyday more and more because I put our relationship thru this hole its in, and its my fault he treats me like I mean nothing to him. Its so hard not to yell when the person sits there and calls you a beach and throws it in ur face as if I wasn’t hurting by it already. I know he’s hurt, but I’m hurt too. And instead of we being able to cling to eachother for support and to get past this together, its almost as if he rather step on me and put me even more down.
  - written 2 years ago

• i feel so lonely even if i’ve got so many ppl around me!
  

  I relate to this post so much. That is exactly how I feel. So we choose to bottle our emotions then to express it to people who wouldn’t understand them.
  - written 2 years ago

• Do you think that God speaks out when a person himself can no longer do anything?
  

  Everything worth while is worth a risk.
  - written 2 years ago

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