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~lilies~'s Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (2 votes) Can a relationship survive with no trust?
  

  Fanta, It is good you have talked with your husband about it. Commitment to do everything you could to save the marriage is every couple’s quest. So i won’t sound like judging him, i hope there will be some nice changes from now on, I don’t know how many times you were betrayed and how many times he promised you that he’ll do better. But the choice of giving him another chance is a wife’s prerogative. And for that , i salute your strength.
  
  Now since you have talked, no matter how difficult it is, try to trust him. Observe. Give him another chance. I could not blame you if you have doubts on what he does online and offline, but considering the fact that you gave him another chance, then he deserves to be trusted. Because if he does not deserve it, you should have turned away to save yourself from further possibilities of being fooled around.
  
  And if at all possible, seek marriage counseling.
  
  I hope the baby had a good sleep.
  
  - written 3 months, 1 week ago – voted for by florie, molotok

• (2 votes) So last week, my online boyfriend of about a year broke up with me.
  

  Hello dear, i feel you and i tell you, you are not the only one who thinks that other people would find it pathetic. :)
  
  Well, online relationships are tricky. It has the same components as any face to face relationships only that you don’t see each other more often than you want to. But this guy could not handle it anymore, or did he not just do anything about the distance? Could it be that his interest in meeting up with you was not that high than expected?
  
  I am sorry that this has happened to you but i feel and understand where those tears are coming from. Loneliness and a little of betrayal knowing that it does not seem to affect him at all.
  
  Take your time, it will heal soon. Get to know other people and be merry knowing someone else, not necessarily getting a new one right away but at least understand that there are some relationships that don’t work but there are that do work. :)
  
  Hang in there.
  
  - written 4 months ago – voted for by Sam+Silly Goose, seeuseeme

• (2 votes) I want a child.
  

  i am a single mom by choice. i am close to my dad, we have a very good relationship but lives a world away from me all my life. but my decision of not getting married did not depend on my family background, it was decision i have made as an adult who does not like complications. i know it is an obligation for me as a mother to provide a father figure for my child, to not forget his roots and all. BUT, decisions are made and have to stand up for.
  
  life as a single mom is not at all easy, but i am happy and i survive. everyday is a challenge from the first day i knew i was pregnant until today. now my kid is a happy 5 year old. he is well developed, well loved and pretty smart. like me. lol
  and to this day, i say that not getting married is still a good decision. :)
  
  - written 8 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by pinknfluffy198, Grego

• (2 votes) hiya i dont no wot to do my boyfriend an i hav been
  

  i am sorry you are feeling down today. but i have to tell u
  that you have to wait. when a man goes inside his cave, you have
  to have to wait till he comes out. don’t follow him inside or else
  u will be bitten by the dragon. :)
  
  let him have the time to think about things. love is giving space
  once in a while.
  
  - written 11 months ago – voted for by LazyDaze~, Mitzalicious®™

• (2 votes) I feel uber angert at myself for fallin in love with is guy.
  

  oh okay. well…uhmm… do you think u can live long in that kind of situation? what do u think of this…have a space of YOUR own. stop talking to him and let’s see if you can actually live without him.
  if you think u deserve something better then i think it is high time for you to go on slow and cut it off from him.
  
  - written 11 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by xxxmexxx123xx, Molly

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• I feel terrible,i need someone, anyone..
  

  Some people would just normally walk away and deal with things as if nothing happened. Well, there is always two sides of a story. You know your ex better. Of course she feels odd not to be with you anymore and seeing you would also freak her out. But she needs to move on. And she knows life has to go on.
  
  So just a piece of suggestion, make yourself busy, accept it (time will help you). And I’m sure you know you are doing the right thing hanging on.
  
  Don’t stop yourself from having fun too.
  
  Take care,
  lilies
  - written 42 minutes ago

• Im sorry I havent been posting.
  

  This poster is actually the brother of Josh who is now in Iraq for the war. His brother uses his account now since Josh left for his mission.
  
  I am shocked with this news and confused with this post. I hope Josh is still alive?
  
  To the poster, please let us know.
  - written 46 minutes ago

• I feel terrible,i need someone, anyone..
  

  Would calling a friend do for now?
  - written 50 minutes ago

• I feel terrible,i need someone, anyone..
  

  I’m here. I’m sorry that had to happen.The clock moves too slow when you want to be over that bad feeling just yet. Hang in there.
  
  Been there weeks ago. So i probably know how that feels.
  - written 51 minutes ago

• Eeeeeeee!
  

  fizzy and ditzy bubbles. ;D
  - written 9 hours, 28 minutes ago

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