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• To all the dads out there: posted (2 years, 5 months) ago
  The other night I stumbled on this poem, written almost 100 years ago, and it stopped me short. Ple…

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• (1 vote) Am I having issues or is he wanting space?
  

  I’m a guy. I’ve been married for almost 10 years, so what I am about to tell you comes from some experience:
  
  Your boyfriend is taking you for granted. By calling his friends in front of you, and telling them that he is bored, he is indirectly telling you that you are not interesting enough to want to be around (at least at that given moment).
  
  I am sure he is very loveable-otherwise, why else would you be with him? It is not necessarily wrong or bad that he goes out with the boys-we all need some sort of space in our lives. It IS, however, rude and inconsiderate of him not to treat you with respect.
  
  He doesn’t need your permission to go out, but he DOES need to make sure that you know he values you, and that your feelings are important to him. You are not his owner, nor is he yours, but by virtue of being boyfriend/girlfriend, you owe each other more consideration than what you indicate he is showing to you.
  
  If you are simply the backup plan until his buddies are free to do something, think long and hard about how it is, exactly that you became second place to him. Also, remember that you deserve somebody who will treat you with (at the very least) respect.
  
  College will be new to both of you, and will test the strength of what you have with him now. He will be surrounded by new friends and a new life, while you remain in his old life. You will know very shortly what kind of value he places on you by his actions, which speak louder than words ever could!
  
  Remember that you are beautiful, you are special, and you are a treasure in the eyes of your maker! I hope this works out for you.
  
  James
  
  - written 2 years, 7 months ago – voted for by cfreemantrack

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• i have a problem with my face.It has pimples and no
  

  This is gross, but works fantastic:
  
  Beat a raw egg into a froth, and apply it to your face. Let it dry somewhat, and then wash it off. Do this every day for a week. After the week, do this once a week for a month. Your acne should completely dissapear!
  
  I wish I knew this when I was in my teens-would have saved me a world of low self esteem.
  
  Tried this as an adult-it absolutely works. Eggs are rich in vitamin A, which is a great acne preventer.
  
  Things like keeping your face clean, not touching it (hard to do sometimes) and eating things that are not chips or candy help immensly to.
  - written 2 years, 5 months ago

• What is the correct adedress for…
  

  http://www.cartoondollemporium.com/
  - written 2 years, 5 months ago

• I have a small case of acne!
  

  This is gross, but works fantastic:
  
  Beat a raw egg into a froth, and apply it to your face. Let it dry somewhat, and then wash it off. Do this every day for a week. After the week, do this once a week for a month. Your acne should completely dissapear!
  
  I wish I knew this when I was in my teens-would have saved me a world of low self esteem.
  
  Tried this as an adult-it absolutely works. Eggs are rich in vitamin A, which is a great acne preventer.
  
  Things like keeping your face clean, not touching it (hard to do sometimes) and eating things that are not chips or candy help immensly to.
  - written 2 years, 5 months ago

• I am so hurt right now, for the insensitivity guys can really have!
  

  Step back a bit and think about this:
  
  This is brutally disrespectful of your boyfriend, and borders on abusive (if not physically, then emotionally for sure). By putting the pressure on you to do something you have very emphatically indicated you don’t want to do, he is declaring quite loudly that he is not in the least concerned about how you feel, what you’re scared of, or what you need. All he wants is your body, no matter what he tells you. If he truly cared, there would not be the snide remarks, the pressure, or the power he is now holding over you.
  
  And even if you changed your mind, it would not matter if you gave him all the head he wanted-he would find something else that he would hold over you (and he probably does this already….think!). People like this never change-there’s always something they find that gives them power over the people closest to them.
  
  Why are you being nothing more than a tool for his pleasure? It sounds like there is a lot of take from him, and very little give. Oh- and guys will say almost anything to get in a girl’s pants. All the “I love you’s” and tender moments only mean something if they are followed through. As the most popular book on the planet says, “A tree is known by its fruit”.
  
  Ask yourself if you want this, really want this, and how long you can put up with it! If he is this disrespectful of you now, at the beginning of a relationship (where most guys try to be on their best behaviour), then it will not get better down the road, trust me!
  
  Remember above all else that you are beautiful, precious, and unique, and loved dearly by your Maker! Treasure what is in you, and save it for the guy who treats you like a princess, not a guy who treats you like this one does.
  - written 2 years, 5 months ago

• i dont whant to die!
  

  Wouldn’t it be better to take the chance believing there just may be a God, and life after death, than to believe otherwise and be totally wrong?
  - written 2 years, 5 months ago

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