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I don’t know if you need to change because I don’t know if you have any flaws that you need to work on.

Generally, though, you shouldn’t change yourself to please others. If someone loves you, they need to love you, flaws and all.

Do you think you rushed into things? You say you still love your first wife - that’s not a very promising basis to start another marriage.

So he wants you to go on Monday but you want to go on Tuesday?

I don’t get the big problem.

As long as you get more before you run out, you will still be protected against pregnancy.

If you don’t manage to do that, use condoms in the meantime.

If you think you need professional help, then definitely seek that out.

Professionals won’t judge you or think you are a ’saddo’ - it is their job to help you!

[quote Rprudi]We were together for over three weeks and we haven’t talked in three months :([/quote]

Oh, I thought you meant you had been dating for 3 months!

Well, I don’t mean to sound harsh, but if you only dated for 3 weeks and you haven’t spoken for months, you just need to forget about him and move on.

It sounds as if he has, unfortunately.

You’re welcome!

You said you wanted to know how long they dated…

What a way to break up with someone!!

You were only together a very short time - maybe he just decided that it wasn’t working out. Sometimes that’s just the way it goes.

[quote nolater]I still want to know though if you asked him what he is confused about……and how long you to dated.

Maybe you can work this out.

My opionion is you have said it several times that you have expected it because you are such high maintenance and can we say a bit wild and crazy when you drink……but he has still been there. Just because he acts or seems more balanced and normal per say does not mean your personality has everything to do with this or is why he broke up with you.

It kinda sounds like your throwing in the towel because you kept thinking he would get tired of this. But this may not be the case.

Maybe you need to talk to him and stop thinking “that you expected this”….sometimes we make or allow things to happen because we prethink things to much and expect it.

What are your thoughts on this?[/quote]

She said it was 3.5 months. It sounds to be as if they are very different personalities, and reading between the lines, I think she knew he didn’t like her behaviour.

I don’t think we can really help you any more.

You WILL get over him in time.

My Dad died recently, so my Mum lost her partner of 40 years. If she can get on with her life, I think you can too….

It is your choice whether you hide away from him while you get over him, or carry on with your life as normal while you get over him.

Stop hiding away and get on with your life. You can’t avoid him forever - the sooner you start getting out there and facing him, the sooner you will get over it.

I know it’s hard, but you just need to be brave, get out there, and get on with it.

It’s like aversion therapy…the more you see him, the less effect he will have on you as time goes on.

I dated a guy I worked with. When we split up, I had to sit in the same office as him from 9-5, Monday - Friday.

Just had to man up and deal with it!

So are you saying that when he said you needed to wait 2 yrs before getting engaged, that was a cover for the fact that he wanted to spring a surprise proposal on you?

Or do you think he genuinely meant it, and then he said he was going to propose because you got upset and he was backtracking?

[quote Zirbel][quote ilivelife]The brown block is hash, the black tubes could be resin.

Zirbal, hash is from the cannabis plant, but in a dried, compressed form.[/quote]
I messed it up, but you did it too. :-)
Because:
Hash is the resin produced from the flowers of the (female) cannabis plant.
Cannabis or marijuana are the dried flowers and subtending leaves and stems of the (female) cannabis plant.[/quote]

Don’t tell me Google let me down??! :)

You have differing attitudes. It sounds like you are more emotional, affectionate and considerate than she is.

That won’t change - it is just they way you both are.

You need to decide whether it is a deal breaker for you, or not.

The brown block is hash, the black tubes could be resin.

Zirbal, hash is from the cannabis plant, but in a dried, compressed form.