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How are things going now? Are they getting any better?

I am not a Psychiatrist or Professional Counselor, but have heard of blood obsession before. It’s called ‘clinical vampirism’ or Renfield’s Syndrome. Here are a few links you can read up on about the disorder.

I’ve also had a friend that felt this way. He actually went to a Psychiatrist to get help. It didn’t end up being more for him than an obsession (almost to the point of OCD - obsessive compulsive disorder) with the vampire myth in general. Meaning, at least for my friend, that he just watched way too many Bram Stoker and Twilight movies and got ’sucked’ in …

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-renfi…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clinical…

http://www.trutv.com/library/crime/se…

Maybe this link will help: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/urin…

Ooops, forgot to mention the fabrics.

I would brush off as much mold as you can outside and if you think the material can handle vinegar, then use about 3/4 cup white vinegar to your wash. Then set the fabric outside so the sun can kill the rest of the mold. Presoak again and then wash the fabric in the warmest water it can handle. Again, let it dry in the sun. There might be a bit of fading to the fabric depending on what exactly it is.

I personally would take fabric, that I was questionable about (like the Asian fabric), to the dry cleaners and see if they could fix the damage. Regular clothes, I would use the washing machine and see what happens. If you found it in time then it should be pretty easy to fix. If they’ve been moldy for a while, then there might be problems. If the mold comes out with the vinegar, but you still have a smell to the clothes you could always use lemon juice and salt, soak for about 10 minutes then rinse.

Hope that helped!

Yikes! I’m really sorry this happened to you. I had something similar happen and lost a ton of photos. It really is unfortunate.

The best advice I can give would be to use a mixture of water and bleach (about 1 cup of bleach to about a gallon of water). Spray or soak the item for about a half hour and then scrub away. Make sure you use gloves and a face mask (you DON’T want to breathe that stuff in).

You could also let smaller items dry out in the sun and wipe the mold dust off after drying. Or the combination of both.

Good luck! I hope you are able to salvage your things. The floor of the house is another story. That sounds like a professional job or replacement.

16 years old is pretty young to be throwing in the towel…
I would agree that it’s very important to take hold of the reins of your life, but would have to disagree with “people don’t put down great people.” Great people are put down all the time, it’s just they don’t let other people and their actions stop them from living and pursuing their dreams. What are your dreams?

I understand how hard it is to not feel the love and support you need from your parents, but parents are people too (they sometimes make really bad mistakes just like the rest of us). It’s important to forgive them so you don’t feel so bad inside all of the time. I’m very sorry you feel so hurt inside, but you can’t give up on yourself. Don’t EVER give up on yourself. Try to be your own best friend. And treat yourself like you would your best friend. Be gentle with yourself. Things will work out. Nothing stays the same forever. The future has a way of surprising us with wonderful blessings. Things that will help you forget about the pain you’re feeling right now.

[quote AGAPE LION]Lexi I am sorry for this pain in your heart, it is very hard to deal with family splits, I know my own family did this. I refused to pick sides, it was after the death of my Grandmother they started fighting over how the money was split and caused so much hurt. I do not know how that will ever end, I try to stay neutral but it is very hard as some whom I love do not want me to even speak to the others and they would likely disown me if they heard that I had done so.
It is really sad when people hate each other who used to be so full of love for each other. I am sorry that I do not have a better answer for you, except that I understand your pain.
Take care of yourself emotionally so that it does not destroy you my friend
Love to you
Agape[/quote]

Thank you Agape, I will try. Love to you too

[quote beatricegalant]What are they saying to you?[/quote]

To be honest, they all told me I did an incredible job caring for our mom. My dad said there might be a problem because they weren’t able to care for her. It’s not really what they’re saying or have said to me (because that seems to be all good); it’s how they treat me (their actions). I know how confusing this sounds. It’s even more confusing living it.

Like if we’re together (for holiday) and I try to talk to any of them about this, they act like there’s nothing wrong at all and blow off the conversation. Yet, when there are big family events (other than Christmas/Thanksgiving) they don’t invite me. I don’t understand that. I’d like to make memories with them and it feels like they don’t want me to be a part of their lives like that. I genuinely don’t understand.

Thank you guys … I appreciate your being here and making me feel not so alone.

[quote AGAPE LION]Sounds like you have a huge wound in your heart, and that you are trying to fix it but they are not willing.. Am I right?[/quote]

yes, that’s exactly how I feel.

[quote AGAPE LION]
It can take some time for people to forgive and forget, and sometimes they do not want to do either one. All you can do is try to find peace in your own life and keep an open heart that one day they might be able to overcome there own limitations.[/quote]

I’m not sure how to separate ‘my life’ from ‘their lives.’ Family is so very important to me. I do have peace in the other areas of my life, but they occupy such a large part of my heart. What if the day never comes that we are like a family again? How does someone cope with that? I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to accept that.

[quote beatricegalant]First of all your avatar picture is beautiful.[/quote]

thank you!

[quote beatricegalant] Secondly, what happened to you lexi?[/quote]

Regarding my family, I think they blame me for my mom’s death. I took care of her while she was dying of cancer.

Maybe this might help you:

http://www.africanaquatics.co.za/_chr…

You were VERY helpful, and I really appreciated it!! I’m new to this site and since your help have been able to have a lot more fun with posting (and putting things on my page). I think I just figured out today how to work the “shouts.” I’m learning… It just takes me a while with computers. So I hope you know how much I really appreciate your helping me.

Thank you for accepting my friend request. I’ve really enjoyed reading some of your posts and look forward to getting to know you better. :)

[quote domestic]The same goes for spouses…. so lexi sounds like she might have a keeper[/quote]

He’s definitely a keeper! ;)

My fiance and I were talking about this the other night. I had the same question. He made a comment that really sunk it. He said, “It’s important to look beyond the personality of a person and examine their character before getting too involved with them. It’s important to have some kind of commonality as your foundation, and you should be able to see what they are about by what they do more so than by what they say.” So I think it’s important to be a little selective when choosing our friends.

Love is: holding the hair back for your heaving partner after a night out at an Irish Festival.

[quote Chunkymoves]” … I’ve had that experience, but not at church. Was with my friends, in a forest, at a music festival we ran. It was freakin awesome. Wish you could have experienced it…[/quote]

What happened?

[quote]”“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”[/quote]

[quote]”Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”[/quote]