Fizz's shout trail with Ditzy - Help.com

A bit of both I think :) Your help was always good, and your reports. You were always such a positive and awesome person :)
Would hate to see you leave :(

Stick with this website or in general?

Stick with it Fizzy :) Things will get better. I promise.
*hugs*

Hey! Haven’t talked to you in awhile and was wondering how everything is going? Hope all is well, I MISS YOU!

I just had a thought and I don’t know if it’s far left or not, but thinking about you, I was thinking that maybe part of the problem finding is the cultural divide.

I was talking to Daze on IM and we were going over words that Americans use VS. Words that Brits use. It’s amazing how the same words have different meanings to both. Maybe there is some language barrier when you are talking to prospective employers.

I also thought that you might also experiancing a little culture shock, that maybe is part of your stress and maybe you don’t even realize or recognize it as such.

Anyhow, it was just a thought and wanted to mention it, in case it could help, if not just forget I shouted..lol.

Talk to you later.

hey :) Im ok - just feeling like crap :S normal stuff :S
the moles are doing very well :) Blake is back at work but isnt enjoying it very much - Im still looking for a job. Nobody seems to be getting back to me. Its starting to get me pissed off :S but Im sure some thing will come along

Darn missed you, I wanted to check in on the moles see how they are doing? Hope all is well.

You love each other very much, that’s why you are together, love can conquer the bad things, sometimes it just takes some work.

Sometimes it’s a lot of fun for 2 blind moles to find their way in the dark! ;-)

that is a very good point :S maybe next time the rift happens we shall talk about what is going on instead of bottling and changing the subject. Thanks :D gave me some thing to think about and an insight into why the rift is happening :D
Your right - I dont ever want anything to come between us :D communication is some thing we need to work on.
This marriage thing is completely new to us lol (if you get what I mean - its a totally new kind of relationship for both of us with totally honest - warts and all) so we dont know (or cant see) what is going on lol 2 lil blind moles trying to find the worms :D

Hope you don’t mind a little more advice. It’s not a good idea to avoid the subject because it causes friction. That’s just stuffing it and resentments will build. You are hurt because you are feeling like he isn’t understanding you and he has his own things going on inside.

Avoiding that just to enjoy the good times will make it harder in the long run. I know that all to well, because early on I did the same thing that you are doing, because I didn’t want there to be bad feelings between us, I just wanted to be with him for the reasons I chose him to begin with. Because I loved him and he was my most favorite person in the world to be with.

But those stuffed emotions come out and the issues of how you relate to each other in a crisis doesn’t go away either.

The job issue will go away, but there will be other things that come a long that cause the rift. You have to learn how to deal with them without the rift.

thanks Fizzy :) its just nice to know that others have the same problem right now :S its not a huge issue as the rift only happens when we are on the subject of jobs and stress :S just irritating I suppose.
We are still having fun together which is excellent. Playing World of Warcraft together and we have a dungeons and dragons night with friends that is hilarious :D

Oh I get it, it’s one of those times where your opposite personalities clash, happens with me and Hubby all the time and is made worse by the little things in life. We have the hardest time communicating when there is a problem, but you can get through it. I’ve found it’s best to talk about issues when you aren’t feeling stress about them.

And your right, you will get it sorted out.

not sure really - he nags at me or has a ‘go’ for not doing some thing. But I was going to do that some thing in the next 5 mins. Guess its just that he has been working all this time and Ive been sat on my butt and now we can finally start living. Probably has some thing to do with his stress break also. He has a couple of things he needs to sort out :S and I still need to find a job. Maybe its that he doesnt think Im doing enough - when I think Im doing everything I possibly can do.
Still - it will get sorted soon :) when I get a job :) its the only thing that is causing trouble in our lives right now :S

*hug* I guess it doesn’t help to say, it will get better, but really it will, I just don’t know when.

Why does talking about it cause such a rift? Miscommunication?

hey :) Im pretty good thanks. Feeling a bit better (been full of cold the last few days)
tad stressed but that shall pass. Job hunting :S had couple of really good leads. Its been putting a minor rift between Blake and I with the stress - but the rift usually closes when we change the subject
Hows u? :)
(ps. thanks for caring)

Hey Ditzy! How are you today?

Yeah, I know..I’ve seen him do that. Once I got upset on a post because of Dani..lol…that was before I became friends with her…he took that as an opportunity to twist my words to try to slam her. Real manipulative kind of guy! I guess that’s what bugged me about him using my real name…I really could careless if people know my first name, but I knew why he was doing it and that’s what bugged me

Oh but now I’m just ranting again…lol

its perfectly ok :) I can understand ranting. I did go in and mod invisible edit the out the character slamming bit :) hes done that before with Dani - slammed with out making it completely obvious.

Hey! Wanted to say sorry for my rant yesterday (my last shout), I was just really upset and needed an outlet.

Sorry, not over yet..well over for me, but I guess not him. He made a post commenting on it and sent me an invite. I’m not going to respond, but thought you should be aware of it. Honestly, I think he attacked my character more then I attacked his, I actually did try to refrain from saying what I know of his character, so really I think that’s kind of unfair of him to say.

Ok now I’m just ranting and your job is mod, not babysitter.

http://help.com/post/181745-clearing-…

Thanks Ditzy..you are awesome as always!

removed the 1st name - and given him a shout :)

http://help.com/post/180272-a-friends…

I suppose it’s my fault that it got out of hand, should have just kept my big mouth shut!

ooooo thats bad :S where is the posts in which he is using your name? I will speak with him about it :S

Hey Ditzy, I made a huge mistake on my post and said more then I probably should have said to Spunky, now he is blowing up and using my real name…I’m not asking that it be removed unless you see fit, but if you see fit I don’t even have a problem with you removing what I have said, but I would ask that you speak to him about using my real name.

Oh wow that is really neat!

haha yeah - mostly Im the shocker coz of the move to the USA and the marriage. Guess Im the talk of England right now :D and my old pen pal from CT USA found me :D its so awesome

Oh that’s so cool, an old school friend just found me the other day on classmates, that’s always so fun to find another old friend.

aaaw thank you Fizzy :) turns out Im having a good day lol all of my old friends have found me on facebook lol ~squidges~

I don’t think it’s silly stuff, it’s life stuff and we all need to vent sometimes. I don’t have that much stuff, lol, so anytime you need to talk about your stuff I’m available.

~squidges back~ thanks Fizz for being an awesome friend already :) at the moment Im feeling pretty positive :) just some times its always me asking others ‘are you ok?’ and never is it returned coz I dont want them to worry about my silly stuff as well as their own :S

*hug* I just read your reply to Xeno’s question post, I’m sorry I didn’t realize that you felt like that. If you ever need to just talk or vent shout or email and now I will try to be a better friend and actually pay attention.

No thanks needed, it was the right thing to do. Thank You!

ooooo wow that is a bad bad post :S thank you for editing it and showing me :S

Not to be a pain in the butt, but I was really upset by this post made by Roj and reported it because it had Courty’s real name and email address on it.

http://help.com/post/178602-email-fro…

I got him to edit it and then edited her name out myself, but I really think the post should be deleted because people can still look at the email address if they look at the unedited version.

:-( I would love to do that, but my hubby would never go for it. lol

yeah :S he does need to realize it a bit more. He is funny and cool to hang with :D wish we could have spent more time there but it was a work night. Maybe some time in the future we shall go to the beach and have a help.com luau lol

That couldn’t have worked better if it had been all planned out! Yeah, Dan is a great guy, just wish he’d see it more!

haha yeah - I could not believe the timing :D Dan is cool, quiet but very cool :D we will have to do it again some time and hopefully have more people lol

Yeah, but I bet you had a blast! I thought it was so cool that Dan came to meet you all too, that couldn’t have happened at a better time, I think he really needed it. So wonderful!

hehe yep - awake and kicking. Thank you :D and ~squidges~ WOOP WOOP Friday :D been a busy week with Sully here lol Ive done more walking this week than I have done in 1 month :S lol

YAHHH! Finally a Mod on to take care of business!!

BTW Happy Mod Day!

Thank You for the *hug* and back at you! It was so nice logging on to that! :-D

*hugs*

its no problem :) enjoy your afternoon/evening :)

Like I told Ken, I’d rather report myself then have someone else do it, lol

But, anyway all is cool now, so thank you so much for your help.

hehe its ok - your not a jerk :) and checking yourself is more than cool with me :)

Oh now I feel like a jerk, I wasn’t offended by Miskat…I just wanted to check myself.

Yeah and I was so torn between two mods, I didn’t know who to turn to, lol

lol didnt realize Ken was online hehe