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• (1 vote) anyone whos just come out of a relationship.
  

  He seems like a jerk. Don’t waist your time and love with him. You have to get free of him, on your mind. You know he isn’t good for you, so don’t try to pretend things are going to get better with him, because they aren’t!
  
  Love will appear again in your life. Hopefully, for someone that will deserve you. Now, get some space for you. Distract yourself but surrounded by true friends.
  
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago – voted for by BANCHEE

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• This is how my boyfriend broke up with me… via email.
  

  Ok, this is getting a lot clearer now. I think you’ve found all your answers for the moment, althought not the ones you would like, in some cases at least.
  
  I feel sorry for you for believing and getting in love with the “wrong” guy. It won’t help but, in my personal opinion, he just took the miscarriage news as an opportunity to dump you. Even if he was shaken by the prospect of losing “his” child, that wouldn’t mean he wasn’t still a coward and insensible towards you! When a couple finds trouble or a problem of some sort, they should work together and help themselves together! Not “shield” themselves up and “attack” the other one. That’s really a coward thing to do, but the way he broke with you just makes things more “logic” or obvious, in regard to his way of thinking and proceeding.
  
  Now, it’s the time for you to take care of yourself and your baby. She should have a father but it seems is not going to be the biological one. You’ll have time later to provide a loving father to her. It’s not going to be easy (probably), but you’ll also know better what’s the character of each one when he (someone you date) finds that you’ve got a small baby or child. Take that “opportunity” to filter the true reasons of dating and all that stuff that goes with it. Now more than never, you’re not alone!
  
  Use your intelligence and intuition!
  
  An advise: find someone in your own continent, country, city ;) it will help.
  - written 2 days, 15 hours ago

• This is how my boyfriend broke up with me… via email.
  

  Ok, then you know the guy for more than 8 months. But he does not know himself sufficiently, or does he? How can you trust someone that sends this e-mail to you after he knew you had a miscarriage? And you know tell you’re confused about having lost, or not, the baby… First of all, you must know this for sure. This can’t be a doubt any longer in your mind. How come he didn’t mentioned this in his e-mail? I’m not questioning you really, I’m more questioning him, you know?… His e-mail is confusing, you are confused, and so am I ;) Sorry if I may feel a bit insensible (but I’m not really), we all just need to have a little humour to take things better (as you did with the “spilted milk”). I am a 35 year old guy, but I understand that pregnancy/miscarriage thing more than you know, believe me… and I’m not talking in medical terms, but emotionally speaking).
  You both being so far away from each other doesn’t help, for sure… it’s complicated, but he isn’t helping a lot, is he?
  If you still have a child in you, love him/her, no matter what. You have love to give.
  - written 5 days, 13 hours ago

• Okay, so here’s my dilemma.
  

  “dilemma - A situation that requires a choice between options that are or seem equally unfavorable or mutually exclusive”.
  
  Ok, after reading your post I can almost agree taht your life sucks! Well, I said “almost” because even if the circumstances that you’re in suck, YOU don’t suck! Do not confuse both things! So, if yu have an health problem of some sort, that doesn’t mean you’re a freak, and you do know that. For sure, you’ve got more mental health, and intelligence when compared to someone who calls you “freak” or hits you in the arms!
  
  I’m now 35, but I always was a single child with my parents always arguing. They even get a divorce bur married again two years later to get back to their arguings! Go figure…
  
  What I’m trying to say is that I understand your problems and “dilemma” (a lot through my own experience), whay most do indeed suck! But I’m now 35 and I am happily married. I still have my problems but I’m happy I’ve never given up or lost all hope. Please do the same (or even better!). You seem like a person that I believe whould be a great friend of mine, and that, believe me, counts a whole lot. You will find people in your life (not in your death!!!) that will know how to look into your true nature and will respect you. You have a sensibility in you that is not common. Use it to help people later on. The will thank you.
  
  I was help before, more than once, I sometimes I tery to help somebody else, in any way I can (not as often as I should though). I honnestly believe that sometimes I don’t know how to help. I just hope I can help you, even if a little bit. That will make be happy too. Even if my own stupid ego gets in the way (if you understand what I’m talking about…).
  
  Remember to keep smiling, even if you feel like crying too. The sun will still appear tomorrow.
  - written 5 days, 18 hours ago

• suicide seems to be a big thought in my head!
  

  This is a “board” for everyone, I believe. And it’s a “board” for people who request help in the most various subjects, including depression. I am 35, so I’m already out of the teenage group. Do you need help? I didn’t get the reason of your last post…
  - written 5 days, 19 hours ago

• I had a dream, my crush telling me that he loves me, dz it mean anything in real life?
  

  Yep, it could. But probably doesn’t.
  - written 5 days, 19 hours ago

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