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- (2 votes) Who would you like to be?
[quote charliecerutt]Thanks for the advice. It only gets complicated when it has to do with a show that I am directing where I have to take a side to make things happen. I Just love to fix things… I know I should not. I will do better[/quote]
I am that way too. I always want to just make everything better for everyone. We’re care takers. Its in our blood basically. You just have to know that sometimes “making things better” means letting the people in the mess figure it out for themselves. Just being the ear. Being the wall. The shoulder. The rock. But not the participating factor.
good luck Charlie
- written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by red1263, Christop7 - (1 vote) About 6-7 months ago I was diagnosed with a rare condition
[quote .Eli.]Stop believing in your health problems, believe in the fact that a human body is a remarkable biological machine that can repair itself and finction even when damaged.
And the mind is a control center, the more you think about health problems the wirse your health is. Te same thing applies to pain, when you’re afraid of the pain and when you believe that it would happen the actual feeling of pain gets magnified simply because you’re focusing on it. Stop focusing on the pain and it will severely weaken, same thing with illnesses. Stop focusing on them or even better - stop believing in them and chances are your body would stop being in pain and start regeneration.
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I know that I haven’t been here long and all, but I can honestly say that I do not believe that Puck is someone who is focusing on her pain. She is trying incredibly hard to live her life in spite of her pain! (As a person who also has many health issues- I respect and commend her for that). You don’t see her putting posts up wallowing about how crappy she feels- do you? She is fighting! She is doing everything she can to remain functioning despite the fact that she’d probably prefer to curl up in a ball and cry 24/7.
Forgive me, but all that just sounds like a lot of naivety. You can’t just “stop believing in pain.” I don’t buy that for a second. Its a lovely idea and all- “mind-over-matter” and the what not, but it only works to an extent. Our bodies feel pain for a reason. It is a signal from the body to the brain that something is wrong. When you ignore that you deny yourself the chance to get better. That is like placing your hand on a stove and saying “it doesn’t hurt.. so I’m not going to remove it.” Okay.. so you’ve convinced yourself it doesn’t hurt… that doesn’t stop the fact that you are burning your hand off and permanently damaging it.
- written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by Pink Freud - (1 vote) Boyfriend wants to know how many guys I’ve been with!
I’m sure he’s just curious. The number of people you’ve been with says something about your personality. Besides, he’s told you, right? Why shouldn’t you share that with him? Just lay it all out of the table. No secrets.
If at the end of the day you know all of each other’s baggage then there is nowhere to go but up- and there is nothing to be but honest.
- written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by ⓘⓝⓚ - (1 vote) My mom made me stop taking my depression medicine a few weeks ago.
[quote aofcance][quote unsoshabl]As with what Stellar720 stated, you do not have to be suicidal to be depressed. I have been diagnosed with depression for years and years, yet, I am not suicidal. What I think you need to do, is try to get therapy. Most doctors agree that therapy is the best cure for depression. I wish you the best of luck anon![/quote]
Therapy made me feel so much better once each session was over, but it seemed like it would never end. Every time I’d go in for a visit there would be a new can of worms to open up, a new problem to try to get past, a new reason for whatever issue I was having… does it ever end? Or will it always be an uphill battle?[/quote]
It won’t always be an uphill battle. I promise. The funny thing about healing is that we have to follow the old “it has to get worse before it gets better” bit. But once it gets better.. it will be better than it ever was before. Its a long process. Just don’t give up.. it’ll be worth it!
- written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by unsoshabl - (1 vote) I feel like I should marry someone from this website..
[quote wordominanc]
I stand by what I said and am glad that at least you felt the contradictions, confusions and little bit of senselessness my life is consist of. You’re still judging me from my “net-parents” post which, if you dig deep, like other posts, were again written under the backdrop of I NEED GUIDANCE, A FATHER FIGURE OR MENTOR in my life to repair the damage by following their footsteps and later figuring out my own.
Now all these things requires people on different levels: psychological, emotional, financial, spiritual, love etc etc Now obviously one person can’t posess all these at same times. When it come to caring , honesty, sincerity and love I EXPECT THESE FROM A WOMAN I would later marry and fall for NOW question is whether I’m prepared for that or NOT! answer is NO because I can’t fight my battles alone at all and I need someone more then friend to support me morally, emotionally and even financially if she has to… I know this sounds weird and ugly in it’s sense but this is what I have diagnosed and figured out.
I have failed on trying on my own for years.
I do need a life coach and maybe I have figured out on my own that it could be the person I would love to spend rest of my life with nothing to offer at first but later. I need a company. A partner to help me design my life.
No matter how kiddish this sounds. This is what I’m going through. If you think all this is just a failed formula? Then formulate for me! write me step by step plan which you think men like me should follow at the age of 32![/quote]
I’m not judging you on your net-parents post. I’m “judging you” on what I’ve read through THIS post. Not ONCE have you said “I want someone who I can love.” Not once have you said “I want someone I can be there for.” Even when I gave you huge leads to that and the opportunity to redeem yourself there. No.. all you seem to want is a care-taker.
I’m glad you realize you need a life coach. Go find one. A professional one.
All I can say is… if you think that that is a real relationship… if you think that you can find a woman who will be willing to be your care-taker and have no emotional support in return while you get your s*** figured out… then… best of luck to you. I can’t imagine ANY person wanting that kind of relationship.
You want a step by step instruction list of how to live your life? Start with this: Go outside!
Then go pick up some applications. Even if its for a place that pays minimum wage and usually only hires highschoolers. Fill them out and turn them in.
Try. I mean really try. TRY to find a job. Try to get healthy. Try to figure your life out.. so that you can emotionally support yourself. Until you figure out your life, you will be irresponsible in trying to expect someone else to love you.
And that is the end of what I have to say to you. You aren’t getting it.. and you’re talking yourself in circles. Good luck with everything.
- written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by Dr. Ozy