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• Would I really be missed ? posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  Please don’t get me wrong I am not thinking about finishing things, but would I really be …

• Why can’t she see posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  I had been with my girlfriend for 6 1/2 years and known her for 5 1/2 years prior, she has recentl…

• I think I’ve done the right thing, have I ? posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  I had a really good friend for the past 20 years, and recently over the past 2 years he has really…

• Please help. posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  I have recently (the past month) been dumped by my girlfriend of the last 6 1/2 years, she really me…

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• what Now?
  

  the simple fact is my friend that if the love making has stopped then it has stopped for a reason, if she is not giving you the answers then maybe you need to look a bit deeper in yourself, are you the same as when you got together ??? are you making her feel loved ??? counted ??? special ????
  as you can imagine the list is endless, from what i am currently going through myself i have had to ask all these questions and it turns out that i just wasnt there for my girlfriend, i had a massive lack of confidence that i couldnt see at the time, one of the things that i did was write all my feelings and thoughts down as they came into my head, but for christ sake dont let her see them, they are your thoughts and should be kept to you, this is where i f****d up, from there you may be able to figure out a bit more.
  dont seperate over this work hard at it and make it work, unfortunatly I have the seperated route not by my choice, and believe me you dont want to go there.
  you can get through this, and there will be a lot of heart ache ahead, but push through and fight, dont give up, hope this helps
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• how can she do this to me ?
  

  [quote chev.jame]And remember this: human beings, even females, have feet of clay. Do NOT put someone on a pedestal–that person will fall off! Don’t make a woman your “idol.” Don’t ascribe to her qualities that she does not have.
  
  About 70 percent of the women out there are not worth having. Maybe 80 percent. Same goes for the men. Remember the 80/20 rule? You want a woman in that upper 20 percent. You don’t want the typical fickle female. If that’s what you want, you can have one of those . . . but you know they don’t stick around.
  
  But even the best of women should not be idolized. Almost any human being, given the right set of circumstances, is capable of letting you down.
  
  Look for a woman who’s among the very best of her sex . . . but always remember that she’s just a human being. Hopefully, she’s a great human being . . . but she may disappoint you from time to time. You also have to make sure that the two of you are a good match. You must have a lot in common, especially your personality types.
  
  Now, this may sound kinda of crazy, but think seriously about it: you should not let anything or anyone take the place of God in your life. Keep things in perspective, and that way you can keep your priorities straight. And also keep your heart from being broken again![/quote]
  
  Mate i can never put myself in this situation again, I really cant see any ways of getting over this, may be i have put her on a pedestal, again that is where i have gone wrong, but i honestly and truly believe that this is the only one that i want to be with, she has some many good qualities that i havent got time or the space on the page to list them, granted she has her bad as well, but those i can quite easily over look.
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• how can she do this to me ?
  

  [quote lucygoozi]Think of it this way…
  If the person is no longer giving you what you need, then there is no point in being with that person. She isnt making you happy, if youre not happy, then no one is.
  
  If she is being cold, its maybe because she is trying to move on and start fresh. Maybe this is her way of doing it. You can’t fix anything alone. So if she’s not willing to talk it over or even try. Then there’s not much you can do.
  
  I know this is easier said than done, but try and move on, time helps. :)[/quote]
  
  She is good for me and the only one that i want to spend the rest of my life with, i know that, how can i move on knowing that all our problems can be resolved and my emotions are so strong for her, i really cant imagine my life with out her in it, her smile, warmth and gentle touch, practically i know i can survive, but emotional i am a wreck, how can i possibly move on from that
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• Would I really be missed ?
  

  Colton
  Thank you so much for your help, through out my life I have had to face several difficult challenges, but this has really knocked me for six, I have some really positive moments of clarity, but they are few and far between, I really thought that this was for life and i had banked everything on that, emotions and physical plans and everything, all that has been snatched away from me with no hope on her side of getting things back or even trying, she has been my rock and now that has gone, I know i have to concentrate on myself which is what i am trying so hard to do, like i said my mind is so cruel, I then have moments of torture “c**p i cant go home and chill with the missus and the cats, I’ve been dumped”, people are saying that I should do this and do that, but i havent got a mean bone in my body, and i think so much of the woman that i could never do anything to hurt her, unfortunatly I couldnt get through to the therapist today so it will have to wait until Monday, another weekend of torture yah
  Im trying not to look to the past but the future is also one that I dont want either, like you a deep hole,
  If only i could get through to her then i know i could possibly make a difference, and that is all i ask, the thought of a life with out being able to hold her or see her smile petrifies me.
  Greg
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• Would I really be missed ?
  

  I just wish i had a time machiane as there are so many things that i would change, I dont consider my self to be a bad person, and that is why i am struggling with why all this is happening to me, as we speak i am trying to get an appointment with a therapist, I need to get out of this hole, but it feels so deep and i cant see any light or way out, things really have gone from bad to worse, and all i want is to spend the rest of my life with her, or at least now to put things right because i know that we can be so right,
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

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