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• How can i come to terms with a bad break up, and get my life back together when he’s now seeing my freind?
  

  Wouldn’t worry about a “friend” like that. With friends like that, who need enemies? Secondly, never forget that today is the first day of the rest of your life. You can start all over again and do it right, now. Let’s not forget that there are over 3,000,000,000 men out there to choose from and he doesn’t sound so hot to me. The most common mistake is that folks look for the beauty on the outside, instead of beauty within, because that’s the only place you’ll ever find a person really worth spending your life with. Life’s short enough as it is, but also remember that it’s not necessary to always be in a relationship. It’s more important to spend extra time looking for the right person, than it is spending time with the wrong person, just to have a relationship with someone.
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago

• I need an objective opinion.
  

  I am male and was married to the world’s most abusive woman for 19 years. She abused both me and our 3 children both mentally & physically day in & day out, but nobody believed me, because men are supposed to be the abusers in our society. That is, until I started tape recording her abusiveness, then suddenly I should have done something about this right away. “Why did you wait so long?” they asked me. “She’s the worst abuser on record here,” they said. And they removed her from the home. She even abused people she had never met and it ran in her family for generations. Because of her tendency to like to stab with butcher knives, I kept my children and myself locked behind metal doors at night. So in essence, just remember that things can always be worse, no matter what your circumstances. I’m sure that you realize that both of you need counseling, right? Another approach for you is to simply refuse to argue or react to him in any way. Don’t yell. Don’t comment. Walk away. If it’s something that absolutely needs to be discussed, discuss it later during a more peaceful moment. Joining a great church certainly changed my life. I haven’t had trouble in 12 years and I have totally learned to stay calm to matter what happens, causing those around me to do the same.
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago

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