lnfunlife's reply history at Help.com

What is your problem? 1st share please… I assure you at least some one will help you…

I agree with you completely. help.com relieves me from all stresses. The wonderful opinions of all people ever are so helpful. Never been at last disappointed.

Hugs to all people & hugs to help.com…

[quote Armoth] lnfunlife wrote:
Love is combination of duty,romance,friendliness,helpfulness,carefulness I think… If both of a couple are honest with their feelings it exists for long & if not then it normally breaks quickly …

Aye, i agree completely. We were honest with our feelings for a long time (If one year is a long time in the book of life) But it ended anyway, and to be honest… I’m sitting here now wondering if it was actually for the best.[/quote]

If you think it happened actually for the best then may be it’s good. Because even being honest, everyone is not perfect for everyone. There are many good people around the world & I believe Couple/pair is fixed by God. And that is for the best.

Again if you don’t feel good, you can discuss with her about why the relation end up? There must be a problem & try to solve that together.
Hope you find the peace in the better way… :)

[quote lost jazz]Fine sick but fine[/quote]

ohh..hope you get well soon :)

watching dance competition & also dancing myself :P How are you doing tonight? :)

:-) I think it varies. I saw some couple getting old together & also some break in few months. It totally depends how the couple manage themselves,what they really want. If both are serious or one or none about the relation. Love is combination of duty,romance,friendliness,helpfulness,carefulness I think… If both of a couple are honest with their feelings it exists for long & if not then it normally breaks quickly …

[quote mindhealer][quote lnfunlife]
Sometimes reading your replies I feel to fear you… [/quote]

Sorry about that, I will try to be a better person so that people won’t be afraid.[/quote]

:-)

She is a flirty woman I think. Sometimes some people choose some particular persons to have fun with. She is making jokes of you. Next time keep your phone with you & if she wants your phone tell her- you don’t want your phone to be checked everyday like this…. & more over you can add - would she give her phone to you everyday & allow checking? So please not to do this.

[quote lairm]Yes in vulnerability we feel we have something to fear but isn’t it the ones that are not vulnerable that create the most problems for themselves? The ones who hide their humanity? It’s the ones that are open and honest and genuine that we feel the most safe, happy and kindly towards.

Sharon Ellison talks about this in her book “Taking The War Out of Words.” NOt that I think you need to do that, but her work on explaining the strength of vulnerability I think you would find fascinating. She goes into great detail how to be vulnerable and strong at the same time. You might be interested in it. Fairly interested.

So glad we are friends. Hugs all around![/quote]

So nice. I will check her book of course…
Hugs all around :)

[quote mindhealer][quote lnfunlife]And I’m replying it un-anonymously & I hope it won’t be negative for me.[/quote]

After we’ve had this long of a conversation, it’s all the same. Adding a picture and name to your words is just more information, like a reply is more information. We’re still here to help You, not the words of you or the name or picture of you. If that makes any sense.[/quote]

Sometimes reading your replies I feel to fear you… But thank you of course :)

[quote lairm]Great. I’m glad you have a direction, something you feel will work for you.

I added you just in case you wanted to be friends. : )[/quote]

:) Thnq for adding me as friend. I am glad to add you too. :)

[quote michele_lee_perry]How are we going to know who you are if you become un anonymous? lol[/quote]

hehe… :)

[quote D.N.A]definitely gonna try it[/quote]

:) Sure,It helps very much… Believe every words of it

[quote lairm]Nice quoting! Basic HTML skills all the way! Woot woot!

Well, If I had just our post to make a decision from, for a while I was going to leave. I wasn’t going to keep replying. Mostly because I didn’t get a sense that we were going anywhere with the conversation. It kind of felt like there was a reason why everything I had to offer wouldn’t work, up to the point where I was just like, Okay, if you don’t see an answer than I guess I can’t give one. Then I kind of gave up. It wasn’t until your last reply that I actually felt like you were right there with me looking for a solution. Rather than all the ways it wont work.

When someone offers you a solution. There is always something within that solution that could work or you could try. Why not focus on that. Rather than saying, “Yea, but….”

It’s like saying, I hear ya, and this is how what you just said is wrong/not worth my effort/i’m not even going to try/not worth thinking about. People just stop replying after a while if that is done. Not saying you do this with everyone or all the time. Again, I’m making guesses with not many details to make them from.

Does any of that seem like it could have anything to do with your situation?[/quote]

Yes,I understand the point. And yes finally I think I could decide something ….

[quote michele_lee_perry] We’re here no matter what you decide to do. [/quote]

…I decided these after thinking much on this post & replies.
I think I need to spend more time on help.com if I want to get that much response. Of course it is normal.I can’t visit this site very much but I need its help again & again… That’s a very rude & selfish side of mine of course. But the problem is I use it on laptop & I also remain very busy maximum days so can’t give much time here…may be some times 2/3 replies that doesn’t need much time to think!!! I understand now that’s how no one can gain people interest much. I will try to get it on my phone so that I can use it like some other sites.I’m always using my phone.
[quote mindhealer] Maybe, but not like how I was saying. Like, on this post, you replied to one of my first three replies after more than an hour. That first hour is the busiest time for most posts, the time that you could have made conversations and had many replies.[/quote]

Then my timing will be okay also. I won’t be late to reply then. :)
And I think other problems will just…run away then :) Rest is..to see what happens.

[quote mindhealer][quote Anonymous]I wish to come out now as un-anonymous?!!![/quote]

You can do that. Then everyone can add you as a friend and maybe you can get more of the help you seek.[/quote]

And I’m replying it un-anonymously & I hope it won’t be negative for me.
And lastly I Thank all of you guys …[quote fřëëSöülëd]sincere I guess? [/quote] …from my heart for replying so patiently & spending huuuge time. You are all so beautiful people of this wonderful site.May God bless you all with his sweetest blessings.

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