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I will find you and accept you. :)

I wanted ot add you as a friend, but I just joined and have no idea how to do that… :D

Haha - well played spacejunk13. Well played *nods*

All hail to the nerds. *high five* :)

You must be a fellow nerd, which makes you cool as well. (My father’s definition of a nerd is “smarter than the jerk who called me that”.)

or I was excessively nerdy. I used to stay in working on my Dungeons and Dragons modules and teaching myself German. I would say… I wasn’t the norm. :o)

I don’t know if it is that obvious. As a student, I was never late and never understood why people were.

Because they have shifted their routine over the weekend and it takes them longer to get going and remember everything they need to do on the first day of the week than it does on the second or third.

I have played the violin for 41 years, the guitar for 31, and mandolin and cello for 28. In my experience, slow songs are generally harder to play well because fast songs tend to be even beats. Usually (not always) the focus is on the speed and not the musicality. Slower songs reveal tone and have room for syncopation (like the dotted notes you are talking about. We are hard-wired to feel a regular beat, like a heartbeat. Syncopation feels off kilter - at the same time, the ear loves it because the ear loves what is unpredictable. When I teach guitar and violin, I explain dotted syncopation like jazz hands. You are getting another beat on an off beat. Maybe that will help - it is easier to show than to explain. :P

[quote Anonymous]When the time is right…Now just putting a roof over my head is a priority But that day is coming…Thanks cell and tymbus..[/quote]

You’re welcome.

[quote Anonymous]Your right, I am not comfortable around hippies…[/quote]

It is interesting that you are concerned about their judgement of you. You use very reductive categories for the people in your community as well. Have you considered moving?

Let us know how you go with it.

There is nothing wrong with having a personal preference when it comes to physical contact. It tends to be very personal and it is also hard to read outside of our own context because it is deeply ingrained. It sounds as though some people in your community are having trouble not interpreting your aversion hugging as a personal slight or judgement against them for this reason, just as your lumping of new agers in together as people who hug is based on the same deep assumptions.

The only solution is to frame your refusal to hug for them in a direct way. Politely decline the hug and let them know that you aren’t really a hugging person for personal reasons, but that it is not a rejection of them.

You have no control over others. If they choose to see that as snobbery after you have politely declined a hug, that is their business. You should also be aware that some of that perception may be inside you, because the fact that you have a different personal space may make you feel out of step. Unless people are voicing to you that you are a snob, don’t assume they are thinking it.

Please don’t. We tend to be so immersed in what we are feeling at any given time that it seems as though it will always be this way. This is not the case, and I am saying this as someone who has been where you are. Get professional help and do it now. There are suicide hotlines but if needs be, you can go to urgent care or an emergency room.

For the time being, this is the number fo the national suicide hotline. Give them a call and talk with someone. It really does help. 1-800-273-8255

There is nothing wrong with having any kind of feeling. Where it gets dicey is what actions you take. I would say, enjoy the feeling but do not act in it - it will create grief for yourself and your friend.