Ah, I see even if you DON’T befriend me back, I can still make my email available to you. By looking under Account Admin and choosing Friends, I’ll see 3 lists. You in my Favorites list on the left because you haven’t said you would be my friend, but the envelope is still there. So is Small and an envelope. You can add Small this way, then click on the envelope, and then tell her she can now email you by clicking on the little envelope which will appear by your name (only visible to her) beside all of your replies. Get it? I’ll click on your envelope just to make sure I’ve got that right.
I just put you on my Friends list. I’m trying to remember how that works. If you go to my profile page (just click on my name), you’ll see a little figure next to my name with a blue shirt, holding a little green circle with a plus-sign in it. If you click on that, you’ll be my friend back. THEN, if I look in my Friends list, I can click on the envelope next to your name and that will allow you to email me (I think without having my actual email address). That’s how they want us to do it here at Help. I asked Daft Puck just now if that’s right but I haven’t hear back yet. I think it is right. We could do that with Small if she wants to.
This message of yours didn’t come to me. It went to your own shout box. You have to make sure the little box you’re typing in says “Leave a shout for Muffsy:” at the top. You do that by first clicking on the words “ShoutTrail” by my name. (See my first message here.)
Small - Rape is an act of violence, a crime. It is NOT love. It is overpowering a person and forcing oneself on them. Going to a place you shouldn’t have gone does NOT make it your fault that he raped you. He needs help. The only way this is going to stop is if you tell someone and together you call the police. The courts can force him to seek counseling.
NO one, and that means you, deserves to be raped, beaten, etc. Nothing you can do makes it your fault. It is NOT your fault!
Muffsy - I may have another shout if I can’t post anything. I’m glad you sent your invite for a shout, because I was trying to figure out how to do it. :) Thank you!