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• I told a friend of 8 years that I don’t want to and can’t just be friends with her and she said…. posted (3 months, 1 week) ago
  Long story very short I met this girl in college 8 years ago and she just got out of a 6 year relat…

• I need help with the healing process of being in love with a married woman posted (1 year, 2 months) ago
  To briefly explain this situation that I have been going through for a year now I will try my best …

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• (1 vote) I told a friend of 8 years that I don’t want to and can’t just be friends with her and she said….
  

  Anonymous - I definitely understand what your saying. I feel like I need more verification though. We couldn’t even be interested in each other because we have always been in a relationship since we have known each other. finally after 8 years we are both single but shes “dating someone”. Since she is emotionally attached to this guy she hasn’t put any emotions into ME. She also said on the phone “there isn’t anything to say i wont contact if things dont work out with me and him”… i do feel like she only said that to give me false hope… In the end regardless of how she feels about me right now I probably need to follow your plan of focusing on a girl who will LOVE ME and not put be second.
  
  - written 3 months, 1 week ago – voted for by AnExtendedHand

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• I told a friend of 8 years that I don’t want to and can’t just be friends with her and she said….
  

  Well I did just win 300$ at the casino today and also got 5,000$ back in taxes the other day and also got a 29% pay raise not too long ago. But i want to work on my emotional relationship success. I’ve always been slacking in that department. Maybe its because I watch tv shows like the bachelor way too much and that shows all about fantasy love and all that mushy gushy stuff haha. Today I’m going to think about why I am important. I never just sat down and thought about it.
  
  Thank you once again for your support and great words of wisdom. For the record I dont feel like I lost a friend at all because of this :) and thats great. She just is like another girl on the dating site that I talk to. Doesnt feel any different!
  - written 3 months ago

• I told a friend of 8 years that I don’t want to and can’t just be friends with her and she said….
  

  Anonymouse #1 those were some really inspiring words. About how I would never tolerate what Im putting myself through right now. I def need to believe in myself and understand that I COME FIRST, and need to put myself first rather than let someone else control what I am. In the end I want a girl who WANTS ME. She doesnt want me so i dont want anything to do with her. I just need to focus on believing i deserve a better girl ans to be happy. Its gonna be hard and take some time but i got this i think.
  - written 3 months ago

• I told a friend of 8 years that I don’t want to and can’t just be friends with her and she said….
  

  Thank you anon #2 for lessening the harsh blow that the other anon gave. You definetly explained in detail very well my thought process and how i create these fantasies that will never exist. I’ve just had bad luck with relationships from day 1 so whenever i find a girl i like i obsess over her because I dont know when ill ever find another one better. I think as of today i have a different outlook after reading both those lasts responses. I have no need to waste energy and thoughts on someone who doesnt feel the same way about me in return. They dont deserve me an i deserve better. The girl thats the one for me will be the one who reciprocates back feelings and emotions for me… Not the one who continues to put me 2nd on her list…
  - written 3 months ago

• I told a friend of 8 years that I don’t want to and can’t just be friends with her and she said….
  

  See situations like what just happened now really get to me!!!! Im de-friended the girl from facebook and she tagged a mutual friend of ours in a post saying “Gotta keep on trucking. Off to the Poconos with some of the bestest friends a girl could ask for.” And then tagged her two girlfriends in it.
  
  I then checked her “non-bf’s” facebook and it said he recently added HER as a friend when they have been friends on facebook for months. so CLEARLY something happened… Now its getting to me thinking “omg i have a chance! maybe they broke up!”
  
  I know in the end of the day nothing has changed but she is going away from the weekend with her girlfriends and hopefully things change… Bad hope that i have i know..
  - written 3 months ago

• I told a friend of 8 years that I don’t want to and can’t just be friends with her and she said….
  

  You are 100% correct robby. I am waiting for that “Darling, I want you” line. I know the timing was absolutely wrong. She is a serial dater she said so I even told her it never felt like it was ever a good time to tell her so I just did it anyways.
  
  The reason I have that hope is that she said “I just want to see where things go between me and him” since shes committed the past 4 months to him. It’s not like she would just up and leave someone after 4 months.
  
  That is why I have this hope…
  
  I have removed all signs of her and defriended on facebook. All I have left is her phone number in my phone which I’m okay leaving. It’s been 6 days now since we last talked and I am doing better as time goes. Definitely not making any contact with her is HELPING A LOT! I’m definitely not going to wait for a message from her but in the bottom of my heart I feel like she will come to me :(
  - written 3 months ago

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