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• what is the point in always trying to get through each day when actually all I want to do is give up …?
  

  So why do you feel this way? Why would you rather give up than get through your day?
  I always find that engaging the brain’s neocortex by doing something intellectual (doesn’t matter what it is), actually can distract you from your own delusions, which are originating in another part of the brain called the R-complex (or reptilian brain). So the feeling of wanting to give up is ironically a reactionary effect of the brain’s innate survival mechanism. You just want to distance yourself from the whirlwind of events that are causing stress in your life (i.e. give up) - that is the survival mechanism kicking in. However, part of being human is recognising this when it happens and as far as we can overriding this mechanism, by engaging a different part of the brain - the neocortex, the hemisphere that deals with logic and reasoning, rather than the R-complex that generates knee-jerk emotions, fear and anger reactions, etc. So my advice is simply to stimulate the brain with intellectually challenging material to transfer the focus of attention to the part of the brain where you want it. Think logically, not reactively
  - written 9 months, 3 weeks ago

• I need help getting over a love, I love him, he “cares” about me.
  

  Hi there. I would like to offer my perspective on relationships, from someone who is in an entirely different situation (not to say whether it’s better or worse than yours, but hopefully it will help put things into perspective). I personally am 33 years old and have never had a relationship, not even so much as a kiss.. and this is what causes me to be a pitiful sobbing mess on occasions. So in terms of developing future relationships, I am coming from the bottom rung of the ladder and have a history of rejections and failures in attempting relationships, dating, etc, which is a difficult hole to crawl out of. In your case, time will definitely help, and you will have the confidence that you have gained from a successful past relationship, in forging a new one. Never underestimate the healing effects of time. I am also a keen advocate of the use of Kabbalah, and the 72 Names of God, as spiritual tools which can heal all manner of ailments, whether physical, mental or spiritual. Hope this helps.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

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