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• Know your worth. posted (2 months, 2 weeks) ago
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• (1 vote) In 6 months I will basically be homeless.
  

  Daft Puck is right. There are housing programs with the city outside of section 8. Sometimes it’s called “Inclusionary” & “low income housing”. A lot of ritzy new builds have partially funded the housing through the federal government in exchange for offering lower rents. Call your city and ask them for a list of these properties.
  
  Best of luck to you!
  
  - written 2 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Daft Puck

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• Is that could be a weird habit?
  

  That’s cute. I think you want to be a teacher. Or have a craving for an audience.
  
  Explore both to find out which one.
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

• My best friend doesn’t trust me anymore?
  

  This is a tough one. It sounds like she has something to tell you but isn’t saying it. Has she recently gone through something at home that’s made her feel like you’ve changed towards her? When people say this, sometimes it’s because they haven’t heard you say what they want to hear. Or sometimes it’s because she’s actually changing and she’s saying, “I don’t trust myself anymore” or “I don’t know myself anymore”.
  
  It can really be tough. Think about the last time everything was ok. Did you maybe joke when she was serious? Did you not empathize with her when she was venting about something? Have her parents been fighting? Is there a boy you both like?
  
  I’m not saying you did something wrong, I’m saying that her perception can be off because of something else entirely not to do with you, but how she received your message.
  
  Good luck! Sometimes people just need time. Just wait a day and call her to tell her how important she is to you. Tell her that if there was something in particular that made her feel that way, she should tell you.
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

• I need a new gameplan , my son is 13 and has the potential to do well at anything,
  

  Wow. I love your kid. Sounds a lot like me! I played golf too. :-p
  
  My mom left when I was very young. I found out at a young age that she was very troubled. It was very heartbreaking for me as well. All I wanted was for her to love me the way that I thought she was supposed to and the way that I loved her. It was very tough for me to focus the way I was supposed to and there was anger towards almost everyone as a result of that except my grandfather… he was the only one that was there for me until he died.
  
  But unlike your son, I had the luxury of both parents being MIA. It’s wonderful that you’re there for him and one day he will understand that life is the way it is in order to bless you with opportunities unseen. No one could have told me this and if they did, it would have been meaningless. Until that day he reaches understanding, keep loving him and being there for him. Never make him feel like you’ll abandon him too.
  
  And yes, he does need sometime out of the box. He may be in his head too much and not in life. He’s probably also carrying a great deal of guilt and stress with him and some of your burdens too. Let him now that you’re ok too. That he’s not a burden and that nothing is his fault…. but not in those words. It’ll freak him out. :-p
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

• hey all…i need some help i think…or just
  

  I was in your shoes. I never had anyone compliment me and even my family didn’t say I was pretty unless they were trying to demean me. :-( It was a dark time. I dressed like a boy and my self-esteem was apparent in the way I bowed my head when I walked and avoided looking in the mirror or fixing my hair.
  
  As an adult, I came into my own very recently. I went to college and the boys only wanted one thing. I thought I was pretty because of that. But, I honestly didn’t feel and act pretty until after college when I one day looked in the mirror and realized that this is my face, my body, and if I didn’t have confidence in myself, no one else would. That if I didn’t believe I was pretty, no one else would.
  
  If I could go back in time and tell myself one thing… well two, it would be to be confident and to love myself. I would have held my head high, smiled, and not worried about letting outside flattery define how I felt about myself.
  
  So, that’s what I’m telling you. You are beautiful and you just have to believe it and feel it. You have to have confidence in yourself and who you are as a person. Forget relying on the words of others to define you.
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

• i have been trying to apply for loans and each time
  

  Ok. Stop it. Your credit is being scanned. If you keep clicking, they may think it’s fraud. And what’s worse, if this site is not legitimate, they’ve now obtained all your information and are primed to steal your identity.
  
  Do you know what your credit score is? If you have higher than a 660, a steady job, and good banking history. I would say try your own bank.
  
  It seems that you need to have financial education for yourself before you take out a loan as you are relying on someone to hit you back with high interest rates where you’ll be most likely paying more in interest than principal. Stop the madness now! Research loans and banks and also how to establish and keep good credit.
  
  Good luck
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

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