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How are you engaged at 16?

This dream is just your brain’s way of coming to terms with everything that happened in that relationship. Sometimes our brains overemphasize what really happened in order to make us deal with it while we are in our waking life. If something that you are suppressing shows up so vividly while you are sleeping, it’s your brain dealing with it while you are asleep because you don’t want to while you are awake. It’s almost as if your brain is acting as your ex - the reason he is being so overly harsh about it in your dream is that it’s truly your mind saying “Hey, this is affecting your everyday thought process too often. You need to figure out why you are still bitter, and get some closure.”

Making others happy.
Singing.
Being onstage.
Helping people.
Drumming.
Renaissance Faires.
Cooking.
Reading.
Writing.

Well, if you and bestfriend have been friends for so long, how could he not know you were dating someone else? And if he did, he probably would not have held your hand under those circumstances.

When you are in a relationship with someone, you make an important agreement to share certain parts of yourself (mentally or physically) with only that person for the time that you two are committed to each other. By holding another man’s hand, it sends a signal that you aren’t ready to devote everything into this relationship (which sounds either really new or old enough that you should probably kinda know better).

For what my experience can account for, heterosexual men see physical signals of bonding as closer to the heart then as a friendship thing. I know it is in style (for lack of a better phrase) to hold hands with your besties these days, but out in the “real world”, it just isn’t the same. People have boundaries. Bestfriend more than likely has feelings for you, and was hurt when while you two were showing a physical connection, you brought up the fact that you share things with your man that you could never share with him right now.

His ego is hurting pretty bad, and he probably feels led on. I agree with SouthernComfort in an apology and asking if he still feels comfortable in the friendly relationship you have, not a romantic one. And if you wouldn’t be holding hangs with bestfriend while in the company of your man, you shouldn’t do it when he isn’t around.

Sorry for being so wordy..

[quote Zirbel][quote PromisingMoon][quote Zirbel]You should see a dentist IMMEDIATELY — even on a dental emergency room!
Don’t wait until Friday!

Untreated infections of that kind can turn very bad, because they go down to your jaw.[/quote]

How do I know this is an infection though?[/quote]
It’s very clear, because
[quote PromisingMoon]my jaw is swollen[/quote]
That’s the clearest possible sign for![/quote]

thanks!

[quote Zirbel]You should see a dentist IMMEDIATELY — even on a dental emergency room!
Don’t wait until Friday!

Untreated infections of that kind can turn very bad, because they go down to your jaw.[/quote]

How do I know this is an infection though?

[quote Dr. Ralph]I am thinking about this bare crotch rubbing thing and thinking that a man can enter a woman before she realizes what is happening. [/quote]

It could be my exhaustion, but this made me laugh :] thanks.

[quote Dr. Ralph]Whatever. Just don’t try to put the blame on her, it can be done. Especially after a few drinks.[/quote]

And I completely agree. It has happened before.

[quote mills][quote PromisingMoon][quote mills]I know. But when someone spray paints the numbers that are supposed to be connected to the devil on the face of a church sign it just shows blatant disrespect for God, in my opinion.[/quote]

That’s very true, but some people don’t believe in G-d the same way as you do. It doesn’t mean that criminal act was any less demeaning, though.

When I was five or six years old, my temple was defaced with paints and set aflame. I know what it feels like.[/quote]

I wouldn’t say that I believe in God. But I can understand how you may have gathered that implication from my previous statements. But I digress.

That’s tragic. I’m sure it must have been even worse for you since it was a place of worship that you visited often.[/quote]

I’m sorry that I incorrectly jumped to conclusions. I’ll be sure to ask next time :]

[quote mills]I know. But when someone spray paints the numbers that are supposed to be connected to the devil on the face of a church sign it just shows blatant disrespect for God, in my opinion.[/quote]

That’s very true, but some people don’t believe in G-d the same way as you do. It doesn’t mean that criminal act was any less demeaning, though.

When I was five or six years old, my temple was defaced with paints and set aflame. I know what it feels like.

Hey there. More than likely, you are probably just reading into the situation more than you need to. Maybe her computer died? Or she was tired after her shower and went to bed? Maybe dragons attacked and she was busy trying desperately to stop that old hag from putting her in the tower and making her brush her hair? You never know, people get busy. :D

The fact that something so small makes your mind whirl kinda suggests that you are probably not over her yet, and that maybe it is too soon to be friends. This is just an idea, mind you. Maybe you need some time alone to gain some confidence back, and if something that you say makes you over think a situation again, just take some deep breaths and go distract yourself by looking at weird memes?

It shouldn’t even get so far as to the “sacred property part”. Defacing someone else’s property is against the law. Not to mention disrespectful.

Still can’t get mine. :/

[quote ❤♡♡❤][quote Tymbus]Invent ridiculous coffeee blends like Rasberrycappuccino, adverstise them as available and watch with laughter as your co-workers try to fulfill customers increasingly bizzare orders[/quote]

LOL Hehehe… Yeah… that’s a good one, Tymbus!! :D :)[/quote]

Hahaha that’s great! My last day was a blast. At my shop, we have this infamous fake severed hand that is used for pranks, and I was going to tape it to one of the espresso machine wands. :D Didn’t get the chance, though.

[quote a wild ozy appears]i can definitely sympathize with your rant. i’m not working my butt off to complete my bachelor’s degree to just give out answers to kids too lazy to use google. with the internet at your fingertips, there’s no excuse.

this is also kind of how i feel when computer-illiterate people ask me for help with basic stuff. it’s not like i read the manual or studied computer processing or anything. i just fiddled around and maybe googled some stuff. you really can’t be bothered to try to solve your own problems? :P[/quote]

I completely and totally agree! Google is available to everyone, and works faster than this site (no offense, mods)

[quote MsSkittleParty]Sorry for being your culprit.. I have asked other questions on here, on my other account. I use to have depression and I was having a really hard time and many of the people here on help have really been there, just talking to me or even sharing their experiences. I’m sorry for wasting space on here when other people out there need help with more serious things. Your rant made me realize this, so thank you, and I promise to stop putting my homework questions on here.[/quote]

You are perfectly fine! I’m sorry, I didn’t mean this in a bad way, it was just supposed to be a funny rant. If I didn’t want to help you, I wouldn’t have replied to your post :P

PLEASE don’t feel like you can’t ask for help on assignments or anything like that. I AM here to help, though I often like to rant. (my bad).