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I’ve tried a lot of all natural ones… like lemon juice… but those are the best results. Drink lots of water too! That really helps. Keep your hands clean and don’t touch your face… I’m bad at this one but I’ve gotten better :)

I struggled for a while and the best fixes I found were- Vanicream soap, wash once a day and don’t scrub too hard. Also, olay for sensitive skin was a pretty good alternative which was easier to find- and Clearisal cleansing pads helped too. If it’s to the point where it’s effecting your life, go to a dermatologist. I eventually did and it helped so much! Keep your head up no matter what

Sometimes I like being sad… Maybe watch a sad movie. But, I also know when you just need to pass the time until tomorrow gives you a new day.

Maybe watch Finding Nemo.

You have to talk to him first… if you want a relationship that is going to mature, someone has to be the bigger person. It seems like you’re the one to make the first move. But you don’t have to be direct right off the bat. Come up with an idea of something you’d like to do and invite him. See if you can get him to talk to you more about things more than just your day. Maybe you’re just not so much NOT into him, but not into having a relationship. I always thought I wanted a boyfriend, but as soon as I got one, I found myself bored of the situation, no matter who the person was. I’m just independent and that’s okay! Someday I’ll find my perfect balance. What kinds of ideas do you have of things you’d like to do with him?

You might try not moisturizing at all? Buy some blotting pads and DON’T wash your face more than once a day. The more you wash your face, the more your oil production goes to work at keeping up. I had a ton of problems with my skin, so I know the feeling of being embarrassed, but don’t give up and keep smiling. I eventually caved and went to e dermatologist which vastly improved everything for me :)

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just show her examples of what you like and stress that your individual style is important because you don’t like to dress like everyone else at school.

He sounds contoling which makes me worry for you. Just tell him, in simple form, it worries you that you’re not allowed to see friends. He has no reason not to trust you to be yourself when you’re with him, and when you’re out on your own

Maintaining strength is difficult but the hardest part may be patience. Also, this new guy could be terrific but be aware you may not be able to find out if you’ve rushed in without giving yourself the proper time to feel good about what’s been put in the past, and who you are as an independent person. So, reading old e-mails is a way of us testing our emotions, I think. Will we feel urged? Sad? Happy at the memories? But, then we’re a mix of some of these emotions which results in the confusion you appear to have. Give it all time. Live happy

I think he has feelings for you but maybe doesn’t understand to what extent. If he REALLY, truly cares, he’ll be as patient as you need him to be- and in my opinion, he probably would have tiptoed around you a bit after the first kiss, when you got a bit freaked. Your feelings are crazy right now, no matter what the details of your breakup, realize you lost someone who was in your life for a long time and before you’ll be able to have a healthy anything, with anyone, you need to let yourself 1. get over your ex, 2. be okay with being you, even if that means being by yourself. If I were you, I’d test how patient he is willing to be and really think about how much more you need a friend right now. Feelings can get messy and it’s so easy to fall into something that feels good when you’ve just lost a part of something else.

Don’t try and don’t think that everyone that has a boyfriend or girlfriend is better off. Some people wait a really long time to find a good fit of someone else to include in their life. Just work on you, your goals, your best traits, and things will fall into place. I know you wish there was some secret girls held, and I know my answer sounds dumb, but it’s really all there is to do. You gotta be you

Do you know how much he’s been communicating with her? Do they know each other more than online? Unfortunately, half of what we say when we are joking is true, and sometimes alcohol makes us speak the truth. It also makes us say nonsense, but, this brings me to ask you- why would he joke about this? I hope that it’s not true for you, but if it is, you should have the right to figure out where your boy’s priorities are and what you’re going to do about that.

Wait, your boyfriend told you he loved someone else?

It wouldn’t have been fair to lead him on if your feelings weren’t growing the way his were. Did you two talk about this before the break-up? There are other ways to deal with such a situation, but most all end in a break-up because you both deserve someone you can give your all too- even if that means being patient and alone for a while.

Thank you all. I’m glad you saw that and I’m all about writing raw from the heart, so I am glad you liked that one better.