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• I feel like my boyfriend’s mom and it’s making me depressed.
  

  You are a good girl. Way too good. And the more good you become, the less this dude realizes it, and the most unhealthy it becomes for both of you.
  Your situation struck a chord with me. I worked my *ss off to make a successful business so that me and my ex girlfriend would live awesome times together - even more awesome than the ones that (i thought) we were living. Long story short, after she dumped me for a friend of mine, I found out that she was with me because I was providing her with “security” and she actually had serious psychological problems. I was obviously devastated about what happened, but then I realized how lucky I was that the story ended before it became more serious.
  And now I see your story and I think, WHERE the heck are girls like you hiding and how WHY the heck are you ending with guys like this?
  
  Anyway, I should stop whining about my own stuff… Now, think about your situation and how twisted it is. You are the girl. He’s the guy. You should take care of him taking care of you, like a real woman should take care of her man who’s taking care of her. And by taking into account all the things you do for him, he should have been treating you like a goddamn QUEEN. But no, you’re his mom, and you feel obliged to do it because you love him. Cut the crap before you start losing your sanity, and think of how it would be being treated like a queen while you still can.
  
  But, as I said, before you start dreaming how nice that would be, CUT THE GODDAMN CRAP, and realize that this “relationship” is harming you way more than you think. I mean seriously- HE’S YOUR SON, NOT your lover, and will never be. Stop the madness. Break up with him, even if it’s going to hurt, even if you think it’s a shame for it to end like this. But come on, isn’t parenting hims a shame? End this story and you will realize how lucky you were that you did it before it became more serious :)
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

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