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• Ok here is my dilemma, am getting married in two weeks the thing is me and my intended have never really done the whole chat about past ex’s, relationships posted (1 year, 1 month) ago
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• (1 vote) Ok here is my dilemma, am getting married in two weeks
  

  Thank you all so far for the input. I couldn’t agree more with you all. This is advice I would give to someone too, but in a contradictory way I do trust him and will work on my issues to make things work.
  
  I am putting myself out here as way too vent my insecurities, i don’t think be “normal” if I wasn’t pulling everything apart before my marriage! A
  
  m not trying to categorise every female as the same as me, however some of you people out there are surly like me and analyse every detail over over and ponder how to deal with it.
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by scarlett87

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• Ok here is my dilemma, am getting married in two weeks
  

  chev.jame and Alcyone what sense you both speak thank you!
  
  I am fortunate enough to be traveling with him to his home land but will be returning before him, that’s what is playing on my mind.
  
  Am I over analysing the whole situation? yes I am and i know once see how the pair interact, body language will allow me judge to their relationship.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• Help!
  

  Hi there I know how you feel. First of all well done on seeking help :) you are understanding the issues that are affecting your life! This is good thing because you can now start to deal with them and learn ways to help manage these!
  
  The hardest part of this recovery process is asking for help, the second hardest is stepping over the door! Trust me the thought of it is far worse that doing it but its achievable!!
  
  Set yourself small goals, one of mine was too call a friend (i’d shut myself off from everyone for nearly 6 months) true friends will understand the reasons why you closed down!
  
  Cut down the alcohol its a depressant so only adding to your problems. Go to the Dr and get some medication it helps but you have to have patience as it takes at least 4weeks to start feeling as if there are improvements.
  
  CBT is a therapy that’s good tool to learn as it teaches you coping strategies and allows you to look at situations in different way.
  
  You can get back to yourself if you too…just take the first step :)
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• Ok here is my dilemma, am getting married in two weeks
  

  linuxya,
  
  Thanks for your comment but you couldn’t be further from truth as regards to your impression, though I can see how one might appear here.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• Ok here is my dilemma, am getting married in two weeks
  

  Exactly my sentiments Beatricegalant, the problem is I don’t know how “involved” their communication these days are, am judging him on previous emails that found from 2010. Again why the hell would he keep them?
  
  This girl is also engaged now, but am just not sure how challenge him on her.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• Ok here is my dilemma, am getting married in two weeks
  

  Thanks Rachxx87,
  
  That’s very true you speak very wisely :)…I need to just have it out with him, its not acceptable for him to be involved with this girl even if it is purely platonic NOW. And if I discover it continues its rather simply it will be over as the trust will be diminished well truly.
  
  Am just mulling over the confront really because I have to admit I found the evidence because he clearly ain’t going to admit their past.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

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