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• My girlfriend will post on help.com about the arguments we are having and ask for an opinion - only she edits is to make me look awful - what do i do?
  

  I will thanks again for pointing that out. must … remaain… civil…
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• My girlfriend will post on help.com about the arguments we are having and ask for an opinion - only she edits is to make me look awful - what do i do?
  

  Sorry again about that, I explain just above your post there. ^
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• What is wrong with me?
  

  I think this is a classic abandonment issue.
  
  You fear that the person you care about will leave so much, that you start to try and distance yourself from them to cope.
  
  Really the only thing I think you can do is try your best to deal with it. Try to trust that you wont be neglected and remember that you are a great person - and they are lucky to be your friend.
  
  I am no expert though, I would recommend remembering all those times you thought s/he was going to stop being your friend and stayed the course. It might help you get through the anxious moments.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• My girlfriend will post on help.com about the arguments we are having and ask for an opinion - only she edits is to make me look awful - what do i do?
  

  Yeah I really am sorry about that, I had some issues with firefox, my SSD is full and so it kept crashing, i decided i would just use an unreferenced account while it was working, I am sorry, i thought it would be okay.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

• My girlfriend will post on help.com about the arguments we are having and ask for an opinion - only she edits is to make me look awful - what do i do?
  

  [quote chev.jame]I think she asked for advice because your reaction to it was seemingly an overreaction to everyone else she knows. She feels that she must tread on eggshells around you–always fearful of saying or doing the wrong thing.
  
  OK . . . so you didn’t like what she did. It’s not like it was some deliberate slight or that she’s cheating on you. Heck, why not enjoy the company and all of you discuss the movie afterwards at a coffee shop or restaurant?
  
  And swearing at her? I think you’re way too hardboiled. You need to “soften up” your persona a LOT.
  
  And also to think about what constitutes gentlemanly conduct, and what does not.[/quote]
  
  I know, man. I mean, I was wound up tight - thats true I only took a slight to it becuase I was looking forward to it as a date, The last two times we went to the movies it was her choice, Shes gone with this guy to the movies before and then it turned out everyone i know ended up seeing that film without me. So i never saw it. I asked her to see it with me like a month before it came out, I had to convince her that it was totally a great film and not at all some micheal bay carnage fest (which, is really hard to do! :P) and this other guy casually asks her if she would like to go with him and she says she wants to. I was tired, The above. I overreacted - i know, and i apologised as best i could.
  
  i dont really know what hardboiled means, but yeah i think its a result of the situation.
  
  I do hope she doesn’t feel like she can’t talk to me about things. Becuase i love her. I feel like, as a result of the advice she recieved, she felt vindicated that i was acting like a total lunatic, and its really not how i remember it.
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago

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