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well he sounds like an **** of a human being.

perhaps you should rest then? go sleep it off for a while, and when you awaken then you can plan what you’ll do from there

*smiles a little at the thought…* I miss being able to share such thoughts… now it feels like all my affections are bottled up within me :/

could you elaborate a little more? is it a partner? sibling? parents? what did they do?

eyes the window into the soul, I love eyes… they can tell us so much about someone in any one moment. So perhaps what they mean your eyes make you look mature?

temporary? …how exactly does that work? whats wrong?

just appologise and tell her what you’d like to do, then it’s down to her if she accepts it and takes you back or not.

Basically, dreams are open to how you interpret the symbols and string it into something coherent. But this is how I see it;
you’re clinging to this idea that your friend is not how he used to be, that your relationship is changing because he is… but if you look hard enough and let go of how things were, you might see that he’s still the same guy at heart.
I don’t think it has anything to do with ‘you growing up’ as the symbols involve your interaction with your friend and his “old self”.

That’s just my interpretation though, so take with a pinch of salt, I’ll include the symbols I searched and thier meaning so you can read and think it about it for yourself too, maybe you’ll come up with something totally different. Usually it’s the dreamer’s interpretation that makes most sense to them, as things mean different things to each of us. There’s generally no right or wrong answer…
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Young
To see young people in your dream indicates a fresh outlook on your life. It may also represent a more youthful aspect of yourself. Perhaps you need to be more playful and carefree.

To dream that you are young again indicates that you are behaving childish or immaturely. Alternatively, it represents your failed attempts to rectify past mistakes. You are dwelling too much on past regrets and lost opportunities. It is time to move on toward the future.

Friend
To see friends in your dream signify aspects of your personality that you have rejected, but are ready to incorporate and acknowledge. The relationships you have with those around you are important in learning about yourself. Alternatively, dreaming of a friend indicates positive news.

To see your childhood friend in your dream signifies regression into your past where you had no responsibilities. Things were much simpler and carefree. You may be wanting to escape the pressures and stresses of adulthood. Consider the relationship you had with this friend and the lessons that were learned. Alternatively, the childhood friend suggests that you have been acting in a childish manner. You need to start acting like an adult.

To see friends from your past in your dream points to your desire to reconnect with a part of yourself that you have lost touch with. Perhaps it is time to pick up that old hobby or put a long hidden talent to use. A more direct interpretation of this dream may simply mean that you should look this friend up and reconnect with them.

To dream that your best friend is dying suggests that some aspect or quality that your best friend possess is dying within your own self

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[quote a wild ozy appears]because you’re addicted to her. and remaining this way could very well emotionally stunt you forever. you already had issues reaching out and connecting to people before. and now there’s this woman who won’t accept you as a friend, won’t accept you as a lover, but comes to you when she wants company, and rejects you when she doesn’t. this relationship is emotionally crippling both of you. do you think it’s healthy what she’s doing? dating someone she probably tells she loves, going on dates and whatever. but when she’s feeling down digs up old friendships to vent to, until she feels good enough that she can reject you again and return to the “real world”.[/quote]

I know it’s unhealthy to remain this way. I have come to realise that I’ve been very emotionally needy and demanding of her. I… we… need to give each other a little space for the moment. I don’t want to sever ties, she is a precious friend and I cherish what she’s bestowed upon me. You’re right, I am addicted to her, and I need to break the dependency. I want to show her that we *can* remain friends, and someday when our lives are more in order, I want to go to her, and should anything blossom from that then so be it.

[quote coco1218]I just think that the woman still loves you.. Can’t you do something to go to her country?[/quote]

we’ll always love each other in some way, of that I have no doubt. But no, I can’t get to her for the moment, I need to get better and get my life in some semblence of order first.

There are many reasons why I put that out, seeing what others think is only one such reason. Whether I accept what’s been said or not doesn’t stop it hurting so much, doesn’t stop me wishing for something else. It’s not like I wish to feel the way I do. I tear myself apart over this and other things enough as it is, I don’t need you to agree with the poisonous voice within me about how I am foolish. So you’re right: “Yes you are a fool” is not what I want to hear.

I do apreciate what has been said so far, even if my replies have been driven by the desire to keep what is lost. I can’t see things clearly regarding all of this for the moment, hence my reluctance to yield to it.

and what would you know? that’s a most unhelpful and slightly hurtful thing to say, atleast explain yourself.

what prompted this? who says these things?

“Go ahead. I dare you to tear me up inside even more. I dare you to call me a worthless fetus.”

why would I or anyone say such a thing?

5 years is a long time to deal on your own terms… you should go see the gp anyway, just to see what he says. You do have a say, if you don’t want to go through with therapy then you can refuse it… basically what what’s the harm in going just to hear your gp out?

if it makes you feel any better, I’m going to see my gp for the same reason, because I’m sick of these feelings, what’s the worst that come come of it? he offers us something and we decline?

problems in my life have given me the same issue, it hasn’t affected my health as of yet, drinking fluids is important, though since I find that drinking is easier than food, I try to take in nutrients that way. Things like milk or milkshakes and carton fruit juice, I also have soups when I can as I can keep that with me in a flask and slowly drink it, or try eating yoghurt (which can also come in drink form too) and similar things.

I do feel like I have to force myself to something every now and then though, I try to include meat in the little meals that I do have. simple things that can go in sandwiches mainly…
I also make sure to do a little workout routine whenever I can so that I don’t just become weak and feeling frail. Multi vitamins can also provide a little of the things you’re not getting from food too.

alienated
past participle, past tense of al·ien·ate (Verb)

Verb:
Cause (someone) to feel isolated or estranged.
Cause (someone) to become unsympathetic or hostile: “the association alienated its members”.

but I don’t understand why we can’t even remain in contact, she’s means so much more to me than romance… she’s my best friend and confidant… she’s told me that i am the same to her time and again.
I don’t want to accept that we have to cut each other out this way.