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[quote michele_lee_perry]It’s good you and your mom have that open line of communication. A lot of young people simply don’t have that kind of access to their parents. You are fortunate.

When talking about pregnancy, there are only two possibilities; you’re pregnant or you’re not. There’s no in between. There’s absolutely no way for any of us to tell you whether you might be pregnant or not. If you want us to reassure you you’re not pregnant, none of us are qualified to do that. Some women have periods while pregnant.

We can assure you till the cows come home that you aren’t pregnant which works for you until your belly gets bigger. If you want to wait that long to find out, you can do that. Otherwise, tell your mom to run you to the drugstore to get a pregnancy test.

It really concerns me that you’re having sex so young.

[quote drfernandez1]I don’t think that I am, it is just a little voice in the back of my head pointing out the possibility. If I am, I will tell her and she won’t be overly upset, she will be supportive that isn’t what I am worried about…she just has a lot on her plate right now I don’t want her to worry unless it is a strong possibility. That is why I was looking to more mature non-emotionally attached people for advice.
That being said do you think there is a strong possibility? Or am I overanxious due to my lack of experience?[/quote][/quote]

I am not waiting. I have an appointment at the OBGYN in two weeks, for a refill on BC. So it will not be long before I will know for sure. I was just anxious in the mean time. If I did not have this appointment, I would have definatly gotton a test by now.

I don’t know if you could email…but an obgyn would be able to examine you and tell you what is going on. But it would obviously not be anonymous.

Yes I would recomend uploading your images to a Google Account, in the google drive. Then as long as you can obtain an internet connection, you will be able to access your google account from your phone.

I would spend a day at the beach with the love of my life. Just us, no people, no worries just our love.

I would suggest getting a medium. But I would also recomend getting a dress style that is tight in the waist and bust, then flares in the hip area…thus you can get a small or medium in order to fit the top portions while allowing for extra room in your hips.

I have a similar size, and shape so this is generally what I have to do.

I don’t think that I am, it is just a little voice in the back of my head pointing out the possibility. If I am, I will tell her and she won’t be overly upset, she will be supportive that isn’t what I am worried about…she just has a lot on her plate right now I don’t want her to worry unless it is a strong possibility. That is why I was looking to more mature non-emotionally attached people for advice.
That being said do you think there is a strong possibility? Or am I overanxious due to my lack of experience?

That is the issue. I am a minor without a car, my mom would have to take me and then would find out there was no condom. She knows it happened but thinks there were both forms of protection.

[quote Padre J Roulston]Just tell her you have something to tell her and… tell her.

[quote Dragon_Lady]Write her a note?[/quote]

Though notes are a very good idea :D[/quote]

Ok. Thank you. I just have to do it, I knew that deep down I guess.

Simple text sounds the best way to go, and I am female! Any more than that would be a concern for me as you would come off as too invested…and despret to put it bluntly. But yes definatly tell her you are thinking about her on V day, not just on your date.

I thought of that, but my concern would be that she would be upset me not talking face to face with her, since we have always been so open…that was her goal in raising me was openness, and freedom to talk without judgement. If she new I was nervous about telling her something, she would be really hurt.

[quote Anonymous][quote drfernandez1]Have you talked to him while you too are not in the middle of something…when he can focus and remember more easily?

And I don’t think it is him not caring, he just wants to please you and make you happy and most likely does’t worry about the risk as much because he is not the female…it has been ingrained in us women since pre-teen years to aviod teen-pregnancy, we have adapted and learned to aviod situations for the most part. But regardless you need to make yourself clear if he is overstepping boudaries that you have set, then you need to enforce them and make him stop before it gets that far.[/quote]

I’m trying to. I’ve threatened to break up and I’ve stopped doing sexual things with him for a while but he’ll accidentally make the same mistake weeks later.[/quote]

When/if he starts to reach for you the next time then tell him no or stop then.

I would say it is an experiance of great pain, loss of trust, betrayal and fear. But then just when you give up, and vow to never love, to never trust, to never care, to never hope, to never dream everything changes. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Their is someone waiting for you on the other end who cares about you, who truly loves you, who would never dream of hurting you.

Then you get to experiance the true life. The joy, the love, the happiness, the downturns and all. There are hard times and there are amazing times.

Somethimes all you can do for yourself is to give kind words to another, or to reach out and touch someones heart. For if you give to others pure and selfless love you will get it back…if not from that person from someone else.

I would say that everything happens for a reason and that nothing is an accident. Whether it teaches you, gives you more strength, makes you late to aviod and accident, or even hurts you so you will meet the love of your life. Everything is destiny, everything is a step on your path to death. And I don’t mean that in a bad way. When you die you are released and you have completed your journey. If you have not learned everying you were supposed to, then you will go around again until you reach your true, pure identity.

[quote Positivemessylove]Near to you - a fine frenzy. I’ve been listening to this song all day.[/quote]

Thank you that is a truly beautiful song, however I have never been with anyone other than him, so I don’t want him to think I am refering to our relationship with the one-sided love of the artists past.
I really appreciate the idea though thank you.

Have you talked to him while you too are not in the middle of something…when he can focus and remember more easily?

And I don’t think it is him not caring, he just wants to please you and make you happy and most likely does’t worry about the risk as much because he is not the female…it has been ingrained in us women since pre-teen years to aviod teen-pregnancy, we have adapted and learned to aviod situations for the most part. But regardless you need to make yourself clear if he is overstepping boudaries that you have set, then you need to enforce them and make him stop before it gets that far.

[quote Angie.]I think once the guy reaches 18 he should get the hell out of there!!
Jeeze I thought Cinderella was a girl.
After reading what chores & crap he puts up with it sounds like its a bit of both. :/[/quote]

Thank you.