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• I have been a part of a church and I support its vision as a body. posted (1 year) ago
  However, when I married another Christian from another church, he and his family expects me and our …

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• I have been a part of a church and I support its vision as a body.
  

  Church vision is very important. I can attend their church for the sake of submission.. but whenever they preach there, my spirit is not at peace. I can’t feel the Holy spirit move. I am simply not growing.
  - written 1 year ago

• I have been a part of a church and I support its vision as a body.
  

  I do want to submit to my husband’s lead and I am aware of the implications if i do not.However, my case makes it very difficult to follow his lead because I am seeing very significant factors in his church that if we continue to practice, we may lose the idea of God’s grace and just go into religious loops.
  
  I always base my faith on how I know God through HIS word. I love HIM so much. But his church has set of “rules and regulations” and if you are not in line with that, they see you as a rebel. and if you follow them, you are “more loved” by God. that is how they teach it there..
  
  They do not value discipleship, mentoring, accountability, confidentiality, and how much people give, they announce in church. I am quite uncomfortable with that. They even mention those who do not give money to the pastor. The pastor holds all the cash and they do not have logs or registry that will make an organized system.
  
  For me these things are also very important.
  
  Apart from that. When I married him, his friends who do not like me (i was a single mother before i met him) abandoned him.. they did not talk to me for almost a year because they wanted me to feel unwelcomed in their holy place. I am a sinner.. I know that.. but my own church people have helped me to be restored.. unlike in their church.. i felt condemned even if i tried hard not to…
  - written 1 year ago

• I have been a part of a church and I support its vision as a body.
  

  He would symphatize with me and in fact, he knows how my church has helped me grow spiritually and helped other people get to know the Lord. But everytime I would ask him for us to migrate, he would say that I am taking him away from his family.
  
  I really feel that he should prioritize me now that I am his wife.
  
  I see him and I know that he can grow more when he comes with me. But he would take me back to the day when i said yes (join his church).
  
  I am stuck and feeling so deprived. I can’t even feel free to take my children to our kids church because his family expects them every sunday in their own church.
  - written 1 year ago

• I’m confused and I don’t know what to do
  

  Count your blessings.
  Look for someone to help today.
  Start a journal.
  Pray.
  - written 1 year ago

• I have been a part of a church and I support its vision as a body.
  

  I have talked to him about it and let him know that I am not growing in their church. I have cried my heart out. Many times. I told him that we should seek the Lord and let him tell us which to go - where both of us will both grow. He loves going to our church and we have made friends there also, but his family runs the other church since he was a child. His uncle is the pastor himself. He also plays guitar in their ministry.
  
  I feel that i am getting in the way of his service, but I also don’t grow in that church.
  - written 1 year ago

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